to be a bit annoed at ds frinds mum.

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My ds best friend mums asked me last week if ds could go to her house one day this week for tea, I said yes, and that I would return the favour, she said she would sort out a day, well I see her every morning and afternoon at the school, and she has'nt said a word, ds is gutted, I dont want to approach her as it seems she has changed her mind, and I dont want to put her on the spot.

Meant to add, sd and his friend are both 6, and have ASD, so she should know how a broken promise will effect him

feck sake..........ds, not sd.

Maybe something has come up, e.g. boiler broken that sort of thing. Why don't you invite her ds next week and get the ball rolling for her.

Had the opposite problem with 6yo DD1 today. Had agreed she could go to friends for tea tomorrow, but had forgotten had invited another over here tomorrow. Lots of tears and tantrums ensued. What a mine field playground etiquette can be! Maybe she has just forgotten what she said? Perhaps you could ask her if he wants to come to yours for tea, hopefuly this will jog her memory and she will be full of guilt.

I am thinking maybe it was me saying I would return the favourhas put her off, lots of mums dont like thier kids going to someone elses house, as we barely know each other.

I would just say.
'Hi did we have an arrangement for this week? I have something niggling in the back of my head.'

Maybe something had come up...this time last week I couldn't have imagined all the family upset we are currently experiencing now, maybe something has happened to her!

Wish it was like that at our school. Always feel obliged to do this tit for tat teaing thing. The girls in particular are always going some where or having some one back. I try to turn down invites just because I generally don't like kids, with only a very few exceptions. My idea of a nightmare is my kids plus one at tea time

I think you'll have the bite the bullet and ask if saomething came up and just say how disappointed your ds was, and offer to have the friend over on a specific day next week.

Hit her over the head with a brick and shout " YOU HEARTLESS COW!"

Always works for me. Everyone is nice as pie whenever i talk to them.

It may well have just slipped her mind. Agree, mention it in passing.

I think she has forgotten.I dont think she has changed her mind.
She may be waiting for you to invite her ds?
If you ask her, i'm sure she will say she'd forgotten and arrange a day for her ds to come to yours.smile]

PMSL at EricL!!!

i am one of those mums, always say 'oh, i;ll have your DD/ DS round for tea..i;ll give you a ring or catch you in the playground.." odds are, i ;ll forget or not see them and then it is half term before i remember, or something comes up

does that mean everyone hates me now? ?

I'm the same as you lulumama!

glad it;s not jsut me. i absolutely have the best of intentions, but just get sidetracked

maybe she has forgotten? doubt anyone would do something like that out of malice

Was it me? well if I was I have been extremely busy but I will contact you in an hour (as soon as I know your children are happily in bed and you have time to talk)

Ah... no, it wasn't me but I will contact mum anyways