Rehanging the washing

[HooverWhenTheCoastIsClear]

...and hoover when husband cant see you do it?

If I go downstairs and the washing is hung out weirdly, I rehang it then say 'I've had to rehang the clothes'.
If the hoovering isn't done properly, I'll just do it again, while he rolls his eyes.

Apparently I should wait until he's out to do this so his feelings aren't hurt and because at least he's tried.

AIBU to think actually no, I can't let the washing just stay wet and crumpled so I'll do it again and no I can't just have a baby crawl through leaves and muck.

It's not passive aggressive ffs.
It's just me noticing a job. And doing it.
He'll ask where I've been. He'll see me redoing it. I then say I'm rehanging your shitty attempt at washing.

Notasouthener I'm sorry your husband record your work but it depends what it is.
I'm not about to feel sorry for husband.
It should be me getting sympathy because it's me who has to fix all the sodding jobs.

Bloody autocorrect

and no I can't just have a baby crawl through leaves and muck.

Am I the only one wondering why you have all this in your house in the first place ?

YABVVVVVVU BTW.
If my dh followed me around re-doing any job I'd done, I wouldn't be doing any of those jobs again.
You need to take a long hard look at yourself if you still want to be married to this man in a few years time.
Wow, you are controlling.

Do you always speak to your husband like that? I'd question if you have issues with your temper, if your posts are anything to go by. You also do come across as controlling.

Seriously, step back and ask yourself if you would like to be spoken to / treated in that manner: "I'm remaking your shitty attempt at dinner" for example. It's not an acceptable way to speak to your partner.

And then women wonder why men stop doing housework. Why bother if it gets redone. I used that exact tactic for the vacuuming. Had an ex who would criticise every time I vacuumed, never up to his standard. A few months of progressively worse vacuuming on my part and I was never allowed to vacuum again. Darn shame as I despise vacuuming...

But if you fix it, how will he learn? Both my teens have figured out that if they hang clothes all scrunched up, the clothes don't dry and they have to put them out again the next day.

Occasionally I mention a "trick" I use if it doesn't seem to be obvious to them (e.g. a shirt will dry faster if you peg it by one edge rather than doubling it over the washing line). I try to be tactful and not repeat myself.

Just to redress a balance in the thread. I've long since stopped asking, or expecting, my wife to do any housework other than change the beds because she's crap at it and makes more work for me doing it right again. Laundry would sit in the washing machine for days if I didn't take it out and her bizarre grandstanding insistence on 'Cleaning the Dishwasher' with a three hour wash cycle, half a lemon and an expensive dishwasher cleaning thing - WHILE THERE IS A HUGE SINKFUL OF WASHING! does my nut in.

She's a terrible cook too. Though I will admit she does make better cakes than I can - I suspect that's because she uses three times as many pots pans and utensils as I do.

my temper.
He gets off lightly with me just rehanging the stuff with hardly any comment.
He's fine. He doesn't care.

Is that you Mum?!

My husband rehangs the washing I hang out

It’s infuriating

So I don’t bother anymore

This made me laugh, my husband does this to me, he rehangs the washing and re hoovers if he thinks I haven't done it properly. I just laugh and tell him to do it in the first place if he doesn't like the way I do it ..... he also repacks the dishwasher. ( If he is around and I am half way through any of it , I just pass it on to him, saves time all round).
Life is too short to get wound up about it.

@BackforGood Am I the only one wondering why you have all this in your house in the first place?

No, I asked it yesterday, but wasn't answered!

How can people not hang out washing properly?

Here's my tip.
Straight to hangers.
Whole load can be hung up easily and taken straight to wardrobe.

I also put socks next to each other on the dryer.
I usually separate all the washing prior. So all underwear and small items in together.
Never lose a sock again.

Apparently I have the opposite opinion to most posters here... but hear me out.

OP - you sound like my husband and he pisses me off no end with housework.

I don't keep a dirty house, not by any standards but compared to DH's standards I might as well be a swamp monster. I'll work hard doing housework, cleaning, hoovering, laundry and he'll literally follow me from room to room commenting on the bits I've missed, or that I've put too much in the machine and it won't wash properly, or that a particular dish in the dishwasher is in the wrong way round... until I chuck the hoover at him and tell him to just do it himself.

Now we have reached a compromise where I do a normal daily swish round and he does a deeper clean on the weekends whilst I do the food shop.

Maybe we swap husbands? You and nine can live like swamp people?

But all jokes aside, do you not just want to do the job properly?
I mean someone picking on nothing is obviously controlling and ridiculous but if you've hoovered and there's still sock fluff everywhere then it needs to be done again, it's not done.
Washing heaped into the cupboard isn't right.
Crumpled clothes.

That's ridiculous.

So sorry I didn't answer why there are leaves in the house.
The cat rolls around in the soil and dust and strolls in like king ding-a-ling shaking a million tiny particles on the floor.

Another pita housemate.

So you clearly think that you’re absolutely not being unreasonable, what exactly is your AIBU? Not trying to be rude or inflammatory but I’m not sure of the point of your post as you seem quite sure of yourself.

@HooverWhenTheCoastIsClear - I do a perfectly good job for my standards.

So, I'll tidy and hoover the living room by picking up everything that's on the floor, finding homes for it or dumping it on the sofa if it's going back in the floor afterwards (cat bed etc). I'll wipe down the tables, tidy the kids school stuff into a pile on the shelf etc.

I'll then hoover the floor, including under the table, chairs, in the corners, the edges. Wipe

DH will then come in and tell me I need to go over the edges once more, that I haven't gone over the carpet enough, that I need to physically remove the table and chairs from the room and go over that bit again.

I don't leave it dirty, I hoover until the canister doesn't pick up any more fluff but it's still not good enough for him.

I do the job to my standards, but he expects a house so sterile you could perform operations in it safely. I've got far too much other shit to do to pander to that ridiculous-ness.

@HooverWhenTheCoastIsClear

Maybe we swap husbands? You and nine can live like swamp people?

But all jokes aside, do you not just want to do the job properly?
I mean someone picking on nothing is obviously controlling and ridiculous but if you've hoovered and there's still sock fluff everywhere then it needs to be done again, it's not done.
Washing heaped into the cupboard isn't right.
Crumpled clothes.

That's ridiculous.

But none of that means you need to make passive-aggressive comments towards your husband.

Just ask him to re-do it. I don't understand why you don't do that?