Fed up with MIL

[Sunsetred]

So I'm getting a bit fed up with my MIL and DH making decisions about our baby. There's been so many things but the latest came up today and it's really annoyed me. MIL keeps insisting that we get LO's ears pierced at Claire's. She's 11 weeks and I 1. don't want to pierce her ears yet and 2. wouldn't get it done at Claire's in any event as I have heard that the guns they use there are unhygienic. When I said this to them MIL acted like I was being irrational and making things up and DH just went along with her (he's basically afraid).

Next, my MIL started going on about feeding LO solids next month (when she's 3 months old). I want to exclusively breastfeed as recommend until she is 6 months old but again I was scoffed at like I'm talking crazy. Its making me feel really undermined and like I have no control but then not sure whether I'm just over reacting?

She needs twatting. It's 2030. We don't pierce tint babies ears ffs and we don't feed solids until 6 months. She's your baby. Tell her to fuck off and tell your husband to grow a bloody spine.

Get used to standing your ground, you’ll be doing it a lot. I made it clear to my DM and MIL very early on that my kids are brought up my way and that their advice is very welcome but DH and I decide. Don’t leave her alone with your baby and tell your DH to grow up. The food thing isn’t actually that bad, my children have ten years between them and I was advised to feed my first at three months and my second at 6 but regardless you do what you think, you’re the only mum to your child, you do what you think is best.

When my son was born we were advised to start solids at three months and put them to sleep on their tummies. Nobody would do that now, yet literally millions of babies survived it.

And thousands did not:
the change in advice in 1990 to put babies on their backs is one of the main reasons why sudden infant death dropped by more than half between 1989 (where there were 1,545 SIDS cases in the UK), to 1992 (where there were 647 cases in the UK)
www.lullabytrust.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/fact-sheet-back-to-sleep.pdf

Defending outdated and dangerous practices on the basis that some babies managed to survive despite them, is frankly stupid.

Oh and yes, I'm 38 and don't have my ears pierced. Not does my sister, my mother or my mother in law. Just never wanted them done. Lots of people don't. I have a number of friends who took them out as adults and don't like the dents left.

@Veterinari

When my son was born we were advised to start solids at three months and put them to sleep on their tummies. Nobody would do that now, yet literally millions of babies survived it.

And thousands did not:
the change in advice in 1990 to put babies on their backs is one of the main reasons why sudden infant death dropped by more than half between 1989 (where there were 1,545 SIDS cases in the UK), to 1992 (where there were 647 cases in the UK)
www.lullabytrust.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/fact-sheet-back-to-sleep.pdf

Defending outdated and dangerous practices on the basis that some babies managed to survive despite them, is frankly stupid.

Try actually reading what I wrote. There isn’t a hint of defending any practice.