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Is this weird?

82 replies

PumpkinP · 02/07/2020 10:43

I needed someone to do some gardening work for me and I don’t really know anyone who has a gardener to get recommendations so I decided to look on Facebook, Clearly a mistake! Anyway I had a few messages from gardeners and there was a lot of time wasters or people charging ridiculous amounts, so I found a man who was reasonable and we arranged over messages for him to do my garden, all seemed normal until I gave him my address, then I thought he seemed a little odd as he would sent loads of messages for example we agreed on the date and time then he sent a message saying ok coming tomorrow. Then a few hours later he sent ok see you tomorrow at 1.30. Also sending pictures of his leaflets etc if I didn’t respond straight away he would send another asking me to respond ASAP Not too odd so I thought ok whatever. Anyway he came yesterday did the garden and after he left he kept sending my text messages, again nothing sinister just asking if it was ok, saying he could come back to do something else, asking if he could use my pictures of the garden, he sent me 3 texts after leaving and about the same amount on Facebook. I responded politely but he messaged again asking if I want him to do anymore work, I read it and didn’t respond (busy and I had previously told him I could manage the rest myself) I thought that was that but this morning I woke up to a text message from him saying sorry and asking if he upset me! Aibu for finding this weird? My mum said to block him but I’m thinking he may show up, I also thought it was weird that he said he lived in an area almost 10 miles away from me, and came by public transport. Seemed a long way to travel for a small job, he has sent me another message on Facebook but I haven’t read it.

OP posts:
Keepwarminthisroom · 02/07/2020 23:44

No, we are done here. Goodbye'

Perfect

stophuggingme · 02/07/2020 23:52

Do you happen to know anyone who could lend you their Rottweiler over the next few days?
Honestly I’d contact the police if he keeps this weird shit up

BelindaBl1nked · 02/07/2020 23:54

I'm amazed at the amount of posters who seem to think he's just keen for work! That doesn't make you entitled to harass people and not does having additional needs

Just put a stop to this nonsense OP. One last firm message telling him to stop immediately or you'll report him for harassment

User43210 · 03/07/2020 07:58

"As you have continued to harass me for work I have told you repeatedly that I don't need, I feel genuinely unable to give you a reference for any future work for for my friends. I also would no longer feel able to use you for gardening work as the effort taken in replying to you since outweighs the cost. I feel that this has now become uncomfortable and bordering on criminal, booking me in for work that I have repeatedly stated I do not want. Should you continue to harass me or show up at my house without my request, I will be contacting the authorities with these messages and my CCTV"

BirdieDance · 03/07/2020 10:08

One last message. Alternatively get someone with a gruff, slightly scary voice to ring him as your boyfriend who wants to know why he's sending his girlfriend messages all the time. He's completely out of order.

User43210 · 03/07/2020 10:39

@BirdieDance I like this one!

VettiyaIruken · 03/07/2020 13:47

You are going to need to be crystal clear otherwise he's going to show up at your house, pick up a leaf and demand money. And because that's quite scary you may end up giving it to him !

You need to say something along the lines of
You have done all the work I want you to do. Do not come back. If you come back against my wishes it will be unauthorised and I will not pay you.

Something clearly that but a bit less twatty maybe

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