To ask WTF happened to DH and I yesterday? V weird

[Napqueen1234]

We have a 7 month old and 3 year old I’m on mat leave and DH is WFH (at dining table as nowhere else) in an intense city type job 9-6. He has an hour lunch and helps when shit hits the fan but he is BUSY all day with zoom meetings and call etc. As soon as work is done he’s a great dad and does his fair share. We have a cleaner every 2 weeks and I’m happy to do most house bits (eg washing) as 3 year old is in nursery 3 days a week so I have time. So all in all- good relationship, fair balance on things.

Obviously for everyone with covid it’s been intense and especially with young kids. Our house isn’t huge and we have a v small paved garden so have missed parks/swimming/kids groups/soft play but are getting on with it of course. Haven’t really seen family as his mum is high risk so a couple of afternoon in garden catch ups and my parents live 300 miles away so have just been on FaceTime. Usually we stay with my parents every month or so and see his mum regularly and she babysits, we have friends close by who we reciprocally babysit etc so we get time and the odd weekend alone.

Yesterday was weird. We both woke up and were exhausted. Like hit over the head with a frying pan could barely keep eyes open exhausted. Often one of us has a hard day after a hard night of wake ups with baby or cumulative of work etc and the other one takes the lead but we were both just shattered. Could barely function to make breakfast, neither could remember when baby was fed last. We went for a walk and were both like the walking dead just in a daze. I also did a food shop and forgot loads of stuff (I had a list!?!?) and just felt like I was walking through treacle. Got back and both kids napping and DH conked out on sofa. All day we were just so so so tired.

Anyway kids down had dinner early night at 9 and today we both woke feeling ok despite me dealing with 2 night wakings and DH Up at 6 with baby. We were both saying how weird and wtf was going on yesterday. I was starting to think we had a carbon monoxide leak or something really bad as we just couldn’t function. I’m quite scared in case it happens tbh.

[Apolloanddaphne]

Sometimes it is just plain exhaustion which can slap you in the face. My DH was like that yesterday too - he couldn't keep his eyes open. He was just tired from doing a job similar to your DH.

[WhimsyWoo]

I had this with all my covid symptoms, it would come and go over the time I had it.

[Jux]

You both woke feeling OK today though, so I reckon you were both just knackered and yesterday being Sunday you could both afford to allow yourselves to relax...... It's a normal phenomena, like people with high-stress jobs get ill on holiday because their body is no longer in a state of alarm. When you subconsciously know you can collapse, then you often do.

Glad you're feeling better today.

[PickAChew]

Was it windy over your way, this weekend. Wind noise often trashes my sleep.

[iften]

Watched a bit of Piers Morgan this morning, he was very unwell over the weekend suffering from heat exhaustion. Could it be that?

[IndiaMay]

I know a few people who had this in march/april time. Have since had an antibody test and they have had covid at some point so they think that exhausted time was when they had it but asymptomatic.

[JustHereWithMyPopcorn]

Pollen! Hayfever makes me feel exactly as you described.

[pennylane83]

The pollen count has been very high/high across most of the country for the last week with exhaustion being a hayfever symptom - i've been struggling - really heavy eyes and tiredness and a headache.

[CorianderLord]

Check for gas or monoxide.

If clear then you could be a bit ill or you may have a vitamin deficiency.

[tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz]

Slight derail but DD has hay fever and we've both had a rubbish few days with it. She's started having nosebleeds this week too, at a minimum one every other day and some days 2 or 3 within a few hours of each other. They don't last long but a few of them have been real pourers. She's feels absolutely fine other than hay fever, could it be that? Or pressure from how humid and hot it's been? She does have a gross habit f occasional nose picking so I guess it could be that

[DontLookTwice]

Funny you should say this. The batteries have run out on our alarm and I haven’t replaced them. I’ve been feeling as you describe for several days now. I had wondered if it is a high pollen count too.

[VenusTiger]

Sounds like the heat of recent weeks OP to me - it's been exhaustingly hot lately - my son's bedroom was 28.8 degrees all night last week - if it was carbon mono leak, you'd have perked up during your walk out - and you wouldn't be feeling okay again today. Sun stroke perhaps?

[Myshinynewname]

This was how I felt for a couple of days before I developed all the typical covid symptoms. Even if you feel okay today please try to take it as easy as you can for the next couple of days, just in case. I pushed through and ended up feeling awful.

[TheVanguardSix]

It's called hitting the brick wall, OP. The lack of sleep. The recent heat. Dehydration. Fatigue. Catch some Zzzzs ( or at least tell the kids to so that you can!) and this along with the cooler days ahead will help.

[dayswithaY]

Same thing happened to me last week - wading through treacle is a good description and I was in a kind of dreamworld I couldn't snap out of. I pushed on and it was fine. I think it's a combo of heat, stress, exhaustion and for me, my body is not understanding why I'm not dashing around at 100mph all day everyday, in the car, out the car, working flat out. It's a big change of habits.

[snowsuit]

i have had this all week - almost like a drugged feeling with a physical need to lie down/sleep. very unusual for me, usually i stay up until way past midnight but had to go to bed at 10:30 one night - unheard of for me. last time i did that was when i was pregnant! (def not pg now). i am coming off some medication and had put it down to that, but yesterday dh had it too (i hadn't even mentioned my tiredness to him but of his own accord he said he felt like he'd been drugged and had to lie down). could it be covid....? would be nice if that was it and it was over with!

[BitOfFun]

FGS you don’t need a test “to be safe”. You’re more likely to catch it heading out to the testing centre. Madness.

I'd have thought it would nevertheless be useful to know, and it would help the health authorities to track and trace the spread of the virus.

[Rainbowshine]

Have you had the super hot weather? We found that made us very tired, we were probably just a bit dehydrated but we felt like crap.

[Napqueen1234]

@RunningAwaywiththeCircus that’s a bit harsh given a few people have said tiredness is their only symptom. Covid is more often than not self limiting and resolves with no input and as far as I’m aware they WANT as many people as possible to test. FWIW I haven’t booked a test as I don’t feel it’s likely to be covid but we don’t go out much and are always distanced anyway so will make sure I feel better before doing anything exciting anyway.

[Napqueen1234]

Thanks for all your helpful replies I think it probably is just cumulative tiredness along with the heat etc. Don’t suffer from hay fever as far as I know but I’m sure it’s just a weird coincidence DH and I both struggled on the same day. Weird that a few others have had similar too!

[Lifeisgenerallyfun]

My DH and I both had this a couple of weeks ago on different days. Might be a 24hr big going round

[Yellredder]

Sounds like exhaustion to me. Gets me like this sometimes - strangely not so much since being a parent, but since lockdown it has got me a couple of times.