To ask WTF happened to DH and I yesterday? V weird

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We have a 7 month old and 3 year old I’m on mat leave and DH is WFH (at dining table as nowhere else) in an intense city type job 9-6. He has an hour lunch and helps when shit hits the fan but he is BUSY all day with zoom meetings and call etc. As soon as work is done he’s a great dad and does his fair share. We have a cleaner every 2 weeks and I’m happy to do most house bits (eg washing) as 3 year old is in nursery 3 days a week so I have time. So all in all- good relationship, fair balance on things.

Obviously for everyone with covid it’s been intense and especially with young kids. Our house isn’t huge and we have a v small paved garden so have missed parks/swimming/kids groups/soft play but are getting on with it of course. Haven’t really seen family as his mum is high risk so a couple of afternoon in garden catch ups and my parents live 300 miles away so have just been on FaceTime. Usually we stay with my parents every month or so and see his mum regularly and she babysits, we have friends close by who we reciprocally babysit etc so we get time and the odd weekend alone.

Yesterday was weird. We both woke up and were exhausted. Like hit over the head with a frying pan could barely keep eyes open exhausted. Often one of us has a hard day after a hard night of wake ups with baby or cumulative of work etc and the other one takes the lead but we were both just shattered. Could barely function to make breakfast, neither could remember when baby was fed last. We went for a walk and were both like the walking dead just in a daze. I also did a food shop and forgot loads of stuff (I had a list!?!?) and just felt like I was walking through treacle. Got back and both kids napping and DH conked out on sofa. All day we were just so so so tired.

Anyway kids down had dinner early night at 9 and today we both woke feeling ok despite me dealing with 2 night wakings and DH Up at 6 with baby. We were both saying how weird and wtf was going on yesterday. I was starting to think we had a carbon monoxide leak or something really bad as we just couldn’t function. I’m quite scared in case it happens tbh.

You dont need a covid test just from tiredness. The symptoms are high temp, continuous cough or loss of sense of smell and/or taste. If your co2 monitor is working then it sounds like you were both just worn out. It must be so hard with two little ones that young when you have to constantly entertain them and care for them. Mine are older and disappear to their rooms, so it's not bad. Add to that your husbands working schedule, it's not surprising.

Weirdly if we have had a busy week it does seem to be the Sunday we feel most worn out. A day of taking it easier helps restore the batteries.

The fact you feel better today, is also indicative it's more than likely not covid.

You don't need to phone 111 OP. You can do it all online. I had to book an appt for DD a few weeks ago and she was tested at a drive through the same day. We got the results the next morning

You dont have any symptoms of CV so dont need a test. I have Sundays like this sometimes. Just the week catching up with you. You're both fine now after a good night's sleep so no cause for alarm surely

Many people do not get a temp or cough with Covid.

Bearing in mind many people are asymptomatic with COVID I would have thought it is worth getting the test.

Could it be hayfever? Sounds silly but hayfever gives me the worst hangover feeling ever and everything you described

The smell from a gas leak is strong and a carbon monoxide escape affects people slowly, headaches etc to start with.

Perhaps it's a 24 hour virus.

Hay fever makes me feel like this!

Did you sleep with your windows open? Pollen drops at night ... bastard pollen

Please don't rely on a carbon monoxide detector, if you are all sleeping and the thing turns black you won't wake up the next morning.

Please buy a carbon monoxide alarm so that if there is ever a leak it will sound.

We have one, I was in a dodgy flat for uni in the 90s and we had a leak during the day, I got a very mild dose as I had come back from a lecture, then felt odd and went to ask my housemate if they were okay thinking it was a food thing, but my housemate ended up in hospital with severe symptoms! Terrifying when we think we could have been sleeping.

Both me and DH got like this and I concluded it was a drop in air pressure which we can both feel, there was a storm later that night so it was a severe drop

My first thought was also carbon monoxide poisoning - make sure yours is working correctly!

Agree a detector isn't enough go you need an alarm. Only around £25, could save your lives.

Hope you get to the bottom of it OP.

A family member has had Covid (was tested as he's an HCP) and his only symptom was extreme tiredness. No other symptoms apart from that.

Check your CO -everywhere not just near the boiler - we have them upstairs and in all the kids's rooms. It could be a blocked flue or chimney or something else. Or paint fumes -We have these everywhere. Really sounds like poisoning to me -for you both to feel exactly the same -implies you were exposed to something overnight.

The C19 test

www.amazon.co.uk/Fireangel-CO-9X-Carbon-Monoxide-Alarm/dp/B004JNPM8O/ref=sr_1_6?dchild=1&keywords=CO+alarms&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&qid=1593437335&sr=8-6

We’re fairly certain we had covid. This was how it started (whatever it was). Could barely get out of bed, but oddly it was it went on in an on and off fashion for a week or two before the coughing started. DC, when they eventually caught it, just slept for a full day. I would assume a virus.

Antihistamines make meel feel like that. Youve not taken any by any chance?

Did you feel particularly relaxed about the future on Saturday? e.g. buoyed by talk of planning future holidays, restrictions lifting, a feeling of getting-back-to-normal ect? If so, it could be your brain feeling you can come off the high-alert of recent months and just switching off yesterday. A bit like when you've been working really hard or under pressure and kept on going but then have a few days off and get a cold, bug or that zoned out feeling, like your body keeps going while it has to but gives itself a break when the pressure finally eases.

Hope that makes sense, I know what I mean!

All suggestions here sound possible/ But don't rule out months of exhaustion suddenly catching up with you. A bit odd that it got you both at the same time. But could you have been holding it back for a long time, and the moment one of you broke the other couldn't keep it back any longer?

Hope you're both OK again now -- and that you get a chance to relax and recuperate properly soon. Lockdown, especially with work and children at home, has been an ordeal for so many people. It really worries me what toll this is taking.

I was also thinking carbon monoxide, but if you are both busy and tired, and maybe ate late and/or high carb, that might contribute as well. It could just be your body doing what it needed to do on a day that it knows it can.

If it's not the carbon monoxide levels, you need trip to Barnard Castle.

How's your eyesight?

How odd OP, but DP and I both felt exactly the same yesterday! Didn't really have a reason to be so exhausted, decent night's sleep the night before, nothing hectic, just absolutely incapable. I also crawled round the supermarket wondering what the hell I was there for, and I had to get DP to come in from the car to help me pack the bags as I didn't have the ability to do it myself!

Hope you're both feeling much better today!!

I was thinking you may both be sickening for something or fighting off something - didn’t think of carbon monoxide personally especially as kids are ok. Probably not Covid but just a cold or something - I’ve had days I feel horrendous and tired or when my normal exercise feels 10x harder than normal and I think it’s probably down to your immune system dealing with something. Whereas your kids might not be dealing with it or it might be a bug that doesn’t affect children.

Humidity? We've had about 5 days of high humidity in our area and I had a day this weekend where I was so knackered I couldn't move. Convinced it was because of the weather as I always feel this way when it's hot and sticky.