AIBU or is my neighbour?

[StrayDoll]

I live on a new build estate where the houses back onto a shared car park. Each house either has a garage and a designated parking space or 2 designated spaces with no garage. I have a garage and one space.

The car park also has a visitor space. In the last few months I've been using this visitor space whenever it's free as my partner has moved in with me and now uses my space (his vehicle is too big to fit in the visitor car port). If the visitor space is being used I use one of my neighbours spare spaces they don't use. This was suggested by them and I'm very grateful however I don't want to take liberties so use the visitor space as much as possible.

There are 8 other houses that share this car park and no one is bothered about me using this space apart from one neighbour. We have had issues in the past which means he is being petty and regularly takes the visitor space if it's free. He has 2 cars, one in the garage and one he keeps on his space. He doesn't need the visitors but does it to wind me up.

As an example I went out earlier for an hour and he jumped straight into the space. When I then went out again he had moved back to his space and luckily I got it back but it made me laugh how petty he was to take it.

AIBU to take it when 7 other households are not bothered and only one is?

Your neighbour has a legitimate complaint. You are a CF.

You've got 3 vehicles and only own one space. Buy an appropriate house.

Sorry - 2 spaces including the garage. Buy an appropriate house,

Yeah, you say that you accept that you're unreasonable but you still sound pretty petulant about it all. Someone upthread has it spot on when they said that you've come to see the parking spaces as all yours.

You have 3 vehicles and 2 spaces.

And a neighbour that has offered use of their space.

Logical thing would be to take the neighbour up on their offer. If they have a visitor, the visitor can use the visitor spot. If you're permanently in the visitor spot, nobody can use it, and visitors aren't going to think they can use the neighbour's spot.

You are being unreasonable. I understand your predicament but that's a communal space and you using it all of the time means other people can't. You're being selfish. Do you really think no one has visitors? It's a space for visitors - not an overflow for people who have too many vehicles. I don't believe for a second that a motorbike takes up a whole garage. You sound very entitled and it's not "petty" for your neighbour to want you to stop taking advantage.

Grow a pair and tell your partner to find somewhere else to park. He doesn't get entitled to both spaces. And stop being selfish. You don't get 3 spaces - you get two.

Move your car, you have garage and road parking available. It's a visitor's space not a permanent space. Or use the one from the neighbour who says they don;t mind

You are being ridiculous OP and I reckon your neighbour is just making a point so that you can't be guaranteed to get the visitors spot. He is probably being unreasonable but you are the cheeky fucker in this case.

You’re being very entitled and are in the wrong. You do sound young and I really hope this is out of immaturity. Hopefully you’ll grow up a bit.

Sorry, but you are being a CF.

You are being unreasonable. Buy somewhere suitable to your needs.

You are being grossly unreasonable.

There's a bike in the garage, a car in a space, and another car in the visitor space. So you think you're entitled to 3(!) spaces?!

It's absolutely unreasonable to take up the one visitor space on the regular. Not on. Basically the other 7 houses who share the carpark are unable to have have a visitor, because there's nowhere for them to park.

You need to sort yourself out. Plus your partner can't drive a bike and a car at the same time, he could get rid of one. And I can't see how a bike and a car wouldn't fit in the same garage.

You are a CF and YES, YABVVVVU.

YABU

This would really p me off but I probably wouldn't raise it with you. But underneath I'd constantly think you were an ignorant cf.

I imagine the majority of your neighbours feel the same. Only one has felt able to raise it with you and you are angry with them, clearly you weren't open to hearing that it's inappropriate behaviour.

I can't get past that when you park in the visitors space that's ok but when your neighbour parks in it he's just being awkward.... neither of you should be using it as your regular space and well.. you started it. I kind of am with your neighbour and l would be tempted to do same as him every time Miss Entitled from no. 42 went out and vacated it. How do you know he's making a point anyway as you say he vacates V space again soon after you've gone? Surely if he was just trying thwart you using it he would stay put to stop you getting back in it.
I also feel very sorry for your 'nice' neighbours. Nice people often get put upon but don't let on or don't like confrontation and are not assertive enough to say 'No that doesn't work for me'
Also it's awful to look out your windows and see nothing but the side of a large van in your neighbours drive instead of being able look up and down the street.
You are awful neighbours to everybody, only one has the balls stand up to you is all.

The majority of your neighbours will have an issue with this, it’s just they won’t tell you to your face.
I can guarantee that my partner would do exactly the same as your neighbour is doing, to make a point. And I suspect that if you stopped parking in that visitor spot, so will your neighbour.

YABU and your wide eyed incredulity is entertaining. You're like a kid at a birthday party demanding the biggest slice of cake because someone else won musical chairs.

Stop hogging the visitors space and put up with the minuscule amount of inconvenience to make alternative parking arrangements. Thank your petty neighbour for showing you the selfishness of your behaviour.

Yabu. You knew the parking situation when you bought the house. You have 2 spaces and 3 vehicles, one has to park on the street. I'd be hacked off if you took the visitors space all the time too

96% YABU. Put the motorbike in the garden and get a cover for it.

YABU visitors space - clue is in the name.

Yes, YABU. I suspect other neighbours just don't want the hassle of complaining about it.

We used to live in a terraced house with very limited parking. Car was parked in the street outside, bike lived in the dining room as it was only insured in a brick building over night. It was kept clean an polished - provided a great talking piece 🤣🤣

When we moved, we chose a house with double garage and double drive so we can park car, van and bike.

Glad you've taken people's views on board. A rare thing in this section!

But yes, you were selfish. You don't want to park out of sight. You don't want to use your garden for the bike. You don't want to have any inconvenience. So you put that on others and tell yourself they're fine with it.

People often lie. RL is not like on here where everyone's super assertive 😁. In to many people smile and nod along with you even when they're fuming inside because keeping the peace is easier than being honest.

When you have a situation where there will be inconvenience - the decent thing to do is accept that inconvenience for yourself yourself rather than pushing it onto others.

So your partner uses the garage for a bike, he then using your main space for his car and you use the visitor space pretty much all the time... and you ask if your neighbour is being unreasonable......

I agree with this:

"Yes, YABU. I suspect other neighbours just don't want the hassle of complaining about it." they are wary about directly saying anything but I imagine they have had a good odd chin wag about you and the neighbour that you think is unreasonable has done this to prove a point... silly but they probably don't want to confront you and you are using 3 spaces! Motorbike not able to go into the garden then?