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To bin off the homeschooling

379 replies

Lemons1571 · 27/06/2020 20:49

God I’m probably BU. But bloody hell I've had enough. 14 weeks of working ft, plus trying to fit in twinkl, Oak, Khan etc. Watching my Year 4 get more isolated and sad. Feeing like a loser / outsider when the school send out their weekly newsletter asking Reception to bring in x, y and z and Year 6 to remember their deposit for (insert end of year activity).

Honestly the thought of Monday makes me want to throw things at the wall, and it’s not even Sunday yet! Got a bunch of corrections sent through on last weeks schoolwork which I now have to try and fit in around Skype work calls, deadlines, appraisals. Anyone else just about had it? So tempted to tell child to not worry about it too much and have some screen time.

I don’t need help with coping or with mood or anything like that. I just need to not have two full time jobs.

tomorrow’s another day

OP posts:
puzzledpiece · 29/06/2020 17:33

Have a couple of inset days

lozster · 29/06/2020 17:49

Inset day! Love it @puzzledpiece what a splendid idea! Throw in a ‘thank you teacher’ gift you yourself and I can see a plan forming!

Parker231 · 29/06/2020 18:14

Make sure the ‘thank you’ gift contains large quantities of alcohol!

puzzledpiece · 29/06/2020 19:17
Grin
SparkyBlue · 29/06/2020 19:40

OP you are entitled to take a breather and relax from it all. It's been a crazy time for everyone. I'm in Ireland so our primary school finished officially last week (secondary finished the end of May)so that's me done with schoolwork until September thank god. What I have done is tried to get her to read a few different books outside of her normal interests so we have been doing a bit of a reading challenge so I haven't felt guilty about my lack of official school work,

Parker231 · 29/06/2020 21:29

www.tes.com/news/coronavirus-leaked-dfe-school-opening-plan-undoable-fantasy?amp

Why do the teaching unions always go on about how unworkable it is rather than put in place solutions. They seem to forget that all children need to be back in full time schooling in September.

echt · 29/06/2020 21:39

Why do the teaching unions always go on about how unworkable it is rather than put in place solutions. They seem to forget that all children need to be back in full time schooling in September

It is not their job to supply solutions, that would be er...the government' s. The union's job is to see if it's workable and protects their membership.

CallmeAngelina · 29/06/2020 21:48

They seem to forget that all children need to be back in full time schooling in September.
IF it's safe to do so.

I will point out that Leicester schools are closing this week, and that there are apparently a number of children affected by the spike in infections there. Details are still emerging of the story behind that, but I really wouldn't get too complacent.

Parker231 · 29/06/2020 22:04

Businesses and organisations have had to come up with workable solutions so that they can continue to operate. Schools shouldn’t be any different.

katienana · 29/06/2020 22:09

I've ground to a halt with it. I'm a SAHM and I thought I would be brilliant at this...I have bought all sorts of resources, have laptop available, any books or anything my son needed I could give him. After a couple of weeks he got more and more upset, the holidays helped and then it would gradually deteriorate again. 2 weeks ago he completely lost it while we were watching a video writing prompt and I had to lie on his bed with him on the middle of the day stroking his head to calm him down. This year at school his behaviour has been excellent, not one problem at all. He cant get his head round doing school work at home. The effort we'd have to put in and misery it would create for the sake of him doing a few hours a week are clearly not worth it. So we've stopped. Going out to parks and playing with his little brother is filling the days in.
It is irritating that he has not got a school place. He's Y2 so wouldn't get one anyway but I think his need is quite great and i cannot wait for him to go back in September.
Our school has gone
2 key worker parents > 1 key worker > single parent families & vulnerable children and has not offered spaces to YR, Y1 and Y6. I feel the same pissed off at seeing all the kids playing on the school field, hugging on the class Zoom etc! I know it's not the kids, their parents or the schools fault but literally living in a world where there is not an equal right to go to school is fucking bonkers.

LaurieMarlow · 29/06/2020 22:21

literally living in a world where there is not an equal right to go to school is fucking bonkers.

I know right? I can’t actually process it.

StarUtopia · 29/06/2020 22:23

Well. My two went back to school - and it's worse than what I was providing at home! Chucked them some worksheets - (which son couldn't even access as he can't read) - so basically they've had zero education.

At least at home you're controlling that fact. They SHOULD be getting educated in school.

echt · 29/06/2020 22:25

Businesses and organisations have had to come up with workable solutions so that they can continue to operate. Schools shouldn’t be any different

Schools have to work within the (ever-changing) guidelines set by the government.

LaurieMarlow · 29/06/2020 22:26

Schools have to work within the (ever-changing) guidelines set by the government.

As do everyone else.

echt · 29/06/2020 22:29

Schools have to work within the (ever-changing) guidelines set by the government

As do everyone else

Not sure what your point is, the guidelines for schools are not the same as for "everyone else".

LaurieMarlow · 29/06/2020 22:31

There are government guidelines for all businesses and organisations is my point. Everyone has had to come up with workable solutions within that.

ceeveebee · 29/06/2020 22:34

@Parker231

Businesses and organisations have had to come up with workable solutions so that they can continue to operate. Schools shouldn’t be any different.
Agree. Every business sector has been given guidelines and has to adapt and change to be able to reopen. Majority of sectors has managed it- Perhaps motivated by the fact that if they don’t, their business won’t get any revenue and so won’t get paid. Whereas schools and teachers will continue to be paid regardless of whether they open.
likeafishneedsabike · 29/06/2020 22:36

You’re my missing the point @LaurieMarlow! An independent school is like ‘everyone else’. They operate a business in a particular sector and endeavour to follow the guidelines for that sector.
The state schools are STATE schools. They cannot endeavour to follow the guidelines: they are bound to follow them to the letter of the law because they are are part of the very system determining those guidelines.
Does that make sense?

echt · 29/06/2020 22:36

Every business sector has been given guidelines and has to adapt and change to be able to reopen. Majority of sectors has managed it- Perhaps motivated by the fact that if they don’t, their business won’t get any revenue and so won’t get paid

A school is not a business.

*Whereas schools and teachers will continue to be paid regardless of whether they open.

The teachers are teaching.

They do not get to decide whether or not a school is open.

LaurieMarlow · 29/06/2020 22:38

*Does that make sense?

LaurieMarlow · 29/06/2020 22:40

Whoops, sorry.

All businesses have a legal obligation to follow the guidelines.

ceeveebee · 29/06/2020 22:45

Neither do the employees in a business decide whether to open. The senior leadership decide, carry out the risk assessments and make changes in line with the guidelines. And yes even private businesses have to follow the guidelines as they can legally only open if COVID- Secure (and will not be insured if not either). They generally have no choice because if not, the business will fail

likeafishneedsabike · 29/06/2020 22:45

@ceeveebee I totally get your argument and I really wish there were more Mavericks wanting to keep their businesses alive. However, my beautician wont wax my legs because the govt says she can’t open. The govt says that secondary schools can’t have on site any more than 25 percent of a year group. Yet you expect the schools to disobey? I mean I’m frustrated as hell that I can’t have a leg wax but I’m not blaming my Beautician. The blame lies with the govt and their insane guidelines. Why aren’t you angry with them?

likeafishneedsabike · 29/06/2020 22:54

It’s a question of funding. A private business runs the risk of being closed down if flagrantly flouting the guidelines. But they are
funded by private money (I include private schools in this statement). State schools, like hospitals and prisons, are funded by public money. Therefore, it’s not a question of going through the motions and covering your arse (sorry to be cynical) but more a question of following the directive of your employer and funder.
I mean, I’m spitting mad that cancer patients among countless other medically needy groups have been denied treatment. But I’m not accusing highly paid doctors of shirking on purpose. I’m accusing our government, who are in charge of the hospitals, for failing to see the big picture and throwing the baby out with the Covid infested bath water. It wouldn’t occur to me to say that the hospitals are to blame because they are STATE hospitals, aren’t they?