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AIBU to think ALL the rules have become blurred?

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Peterbishopssarcasticsmile · 26/06/2020 00:09

It's like people have gone a bit feral! Now that lockdown is easing it's almost like people have no fear of any kind of reprisal at all, for anything.
Where I live people have been acting really antisocially, parking all over the place etc etc
The heat and easing of lockdown in sight seems to have done something to some people and it's starting to freak me out a bit.
I'm actually dreading the weekend the pubs open. If Bournemouth beach today has shown us anything it's shown us that common sense has gone out of the window and a disturbing number of people have no care for anyone else or anything else

It's quite unsettling

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dellacucina · 26/06/2020 00:12

I can see this.

IDKNABYBIF22 · 26/06/2020 00:17

YANBU.

It's so depressing. I thought people might come out of lockdown a bit more considerate of other people and the environment. Nope!

Drove past a local beauty spot today and there were cars parked all over the place, on a bendy 60mph road. Some guy walked out in front of my car without even looking (guessing he was drunk), and just saw on the local news site that there has been two car accidents there today.

If I was rich enough to afford my own island I'd be very tempted!

FinlandFlag · 26/06/2020 00:20

Completely batshit.

Maduixa · 26/06/2020 00:49

Yes. I'm not in the UK but where I am we're well into a phased back-to-normal plan. There are still some rules including 2m distance and wearing masks if you can't. Lots of people are still following them, but enough aren't that it actually feels quite dangerous. I was at the supermarket yesterday and people were leaving no space at all in the queue, despite the 2m markers still being on the floor and signs up to observe distancing. The women behind me was literally touching me and pressing up against me (no mask) - I had to fend her off with a basket and then she kept pressing against that. I imagine the widespread ignoring of all caution is pretty upsetting to anyone who's vulnerable or in physical contact with vulnerable people, or anyone prone to anxiety. I'm not normally anxious but I almost panicked and ditched my basket and left. It made me just want to stay out of public places, full stop.

MsAwesomeDragon · 26/06/2020 00:55

My neighbours have been having a huge party since lunchtime. There were about 50 people under a couple of gazebos on the community football field, drinking, shouting, smoking weed, etc. I can still hear them now, at 1am!!! At least there are a few "goodbyes" being shouted now, but my God they are inconsiderate arseholes! Just because they aren't working at the minute doesn't mean everyone should miss out on sleep. I'm working in the morning and will be sooooo tired :(

LemonadeAndDaisyChains · 26/06/2020 00:59

I'm in the UK, and dunno where you are all based or what your area us like but here it's just been normal.
For all those who are being arseholes about lockdown, there's just as many if not more of us sticking to the rules, not having gatherings etc.
We're just more invisible and quieter as you never usually hear about us, just the dickheads Smile

undercoveraessedai · 26/06/2020 01:01

We were joking earlier that it seems like covid/lockdown/easing/heat combination has turned people into the zombie apocalypse - there's no reasoning with them 😂

Destroyedpeople · 26/06/2020 01:02

Of course people are going to go a bit wild after weeks of being locked up and told to worship the NHS. .....not to mention having the words 'vulnerable' 'lockdown' and 'key workers' bleated at them every 5 minutes for 3 months while being lied to by a corrupt and venal government. ...

Pixxie7 · 26/06/2020 01:32

Yes some people have gone a bit over the top but who decides who can enjoy themselves and who can’t.

safariboot · 26/06/2020 01:43

YANBU.

I think arseholes will always be arseholes. But the message from our government over the past month has been confusing, the restrictions overcomplicated. I can't imagine that helping.

positivepixie · 26/06/2020 02:27

Anything that relies on the common sense of the British public is, sadly, fundamentally flawed. I’m not necessarily a fan of the government but I think the guidance is and has been clear - people chose to believe it doesn’t apply to them and don’t give a poop about the consequences.

Sparklingbrook · 26/06/2020 02:40

I don’t know what the bobbins is going on any more. I am doing everything I can to avoid Covid19. Then I see the news with the beaches etc. We were doing so well...

HugeAckmansWife · 26/06/2020 07:42

Thing is, even without Covid I can't see attraction of sitting on a beach as crowded as Bournemouth was. We live outside the SE. Even on the hottest days you can drive to, park and space out on the beaches.
maduxia could you not simply ask the woman to move back? Someone actually standing in physical contact would be weird at any time.

NoMoreReluctantCustodians · 26/06/2020 07:47

YANBU but the governments mixed messages havent helped. (You MUST stick to the rules but if PM's chief adviser breaks them, we will gaslight you into believing that he was completely correct) no wonder a lot of people are thinking "fuck it". I'm not saying they're right to do.so but I can completely understand.it

Also when it was."stay at home" it was easy. Now there are so many rules I'm not sure exactly what is allowed (not helped by the fact I have.family in a different country of the UK so trying to keep an eye on 2 lots of rules)

MNnicknameforCVthreads · 26/06/2020 07:52

Totally agree. Also, people are completely disregarding the dates that things are supposedly coming into force. Even I can’t remember what rules apply today and I watch(ed) briefings, try to stay vaguely informed.

It’s just silly and has been very confusing for many weeks now as to what you’re allowed to do.

KatherineJaneway · 26/06/2020 07:53

Tbh I think the rules are reasonably clear and you can easily check if you are unsure. However I think people's tolerance for lockdown in general has evaporated and many people are justifying their rule breaking behaviour to make themselves feel better.

It will be utter carnage when the pubs open.

HugeAckmansWife · 26/06/2020 07:56

I don't think mixed message and blurred rules are a problem IF people did use normal common sense and by that I mean a sensible assessment of the real risks in varying situations. I think people a) don't like being told what to do b) want to blame others when things go wrong and this results in a weird paradox of rule breaking and throwing common sense out the window and then blaming the gov. You shouldn't need to be told to keep a reasonable distance even in normal times.

Smoothyloopy · 26/06/2020 08:07

The governments mixed messages don't make people leave 12 tonnes of rubbish on the beach. What sort of mentality makes people think that's ok!

lazylinguist · 26/06/2020 08:32

The rules are clear if you can read, and most people stick to them imo, and have done all along. People sticking to the rules isn't news-worthy, so the media concentrate on the arseholes and skew people's view of how many people aren't complying. And people lap it up because they love nothing more than working themselves up into an indignant strop about other people's behaviour and posting about it on social media. Which only further fuels the rebels' desire to rebel against restrictions.

user1487194234 · 26/06/2020 08:35

I think its an understandable reaction to the lockdown
Am sure people will calm down

MaxNormal · 26/06/2020 08:41

I think once more things open people will be doing things in a more managed way. It's being left to their own devices that they don't seem to deal with well.

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Peterbishopssarcasticsmile · 26/06/2020 08:48

@Pixxie7 im not saying people can't enjoy themselves. I'm talking about people attacking bin men and spitting on other people, drunkenly destroying property and places. Blatant disregard for others. If that's how some people enjoy themselves, we SHOULD get to decide whether they can do that or not.

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DrManhattan · 26/06/2020 08:51

I would say it can all be traced back to scummings and him following his instincts. I am sure alot of people felt f* it after that shit show.

NameChange84 · 26/06/2020 08:55

YANBU

There was a young man in the supermarket last night very red in the face absolutely full of a cold, snotty nose which he kept wiping with his hand then touching produce and replacing it, sniffing constantly, sneezing explosively every 3 mins or so....I thought we were very clearly told to stay at home with these sort of symptoms? He was doing all of this in sight of and at close proximity to the Aldi staff and making other customers so uncomfortable they abandoned trolleys and walked out...so why wasn’t he asked to leave? The staff also didn’t wipe down areas...sanitiser for trolleys and baskets was all gone, hand sanitiser dispensers empty, dirty used kitchen roll for the trolleys littered all over the vegetable aisle.

I think people genuinely either think it’s over or they don’t care about infecting people.

LizzyButton · 26/06/2020 08:57

People are all over the place in terms of behaviour. It's partly lockdown happening, it's partly how initially freakingly good the buy-in was, it's partly the way rules seem to apply differently in different areas to different people, it's also the Long Hot Summer syndrome kicking in where we have British fun on summer nights, wrecking ourselves or places.

I'm being more careful how I treat people when out and about. They are unlikely to be in the same state/stage as I am.