Is it unreasonable to play music in the garden?

[SenselessUbiquity]

My NDN hs the radio on in the garden ALL THE TIME the weather is good. Sometimes she is out there with it, sometimes she isn't - either way I am subjected to it in every corner of my own garden. I hate it.

My NDN on the other side doesn't, nor does my next door but one neighbour (radio woman's other NDN). I can't hear any others. In other words, in a space where nearly everyone is consistently demonstrating that they prefer just normal ambient noise - kids playing, birds singing, pools splashing etc - she is making everyone listen to constant shit music.

I think this is objectionable but I am pretty she, and a lot of people, would think I am being unreasonable and uptight. I'd like to ask her for a break from it - say a period of time in the afternoon when I know it will go off or something.

what do you think?

I think it is really selfish of your neighbour.

I hate it too, it’s so bloody intrusive. Why can’t they just wear earphones?

Yep it's selfish and inconsiderate and you have my sympathy.

Extremely unreasonable. I genuinely don't understand how people can be that selfish.

I don't think that's an unreasonable request at all! She probably doesn't know how loud it is, or how far the sound travels.

I was going to do similar with my neighbour, but another neighbour did before I had to and was probably a lot ruder than I would have been.

As you say, it wouldn't be so bad if the music wasn't terrible not to anyone reasonable's my taste.

I don't mind the sound of people chatting, children playing or lawnmowers but I can't bear being forced to listen to someone else's choice of music.

I agree it's not on.
My neighbour plays the same cd again and again and again.
Luckily not all day every day. When it comes on I go inside! I realise it's not an option for you.
Sorry I have no advices, just sympathy.

I'd be round there like a shot saying can you turn that down? Or off?.

I hate other people's music and would be raging at having to listen to it.

I have the radio on in the garden sometimes, but quietly and often radio 4, we also have quite a large garden. I'm also friendly with my neighbours who both day they can't hear it. I think if you have small gardens and it's occasionally it might be irritating but other people might not like the sound of children, or dogs etc but it's party of living closely with others, if it is constantly and loud she's being unreasonable

I use to think it was selfish but now where I am most neighbours have living room extensions with wide open bi folds so it’s tv noise all the time. I wouldn’t blame anyone listening to music.

YANBU the neighbours two doors up have Bon Jovi blasting out whilst their little girls are screaming and jumping on the trampoline. We’ve got elderly neighbours on either side and I could still hear it all upstairs with the windows shut on a Zoom meeting.

Selfish and inconsiderate.

Quiet radio 4 is fine imo. Not at all invasive. Rubbish old cheese hits are never, ever ok 🤨.

It's unreasonable to play it all the time. Fine if once in a while or for shorter periods.

I play mine in the garden of an evening, but I also put up with my neighbours being constantly loudly in the phone in theirs, or the other neighbours children screaming all day. I think compromise is all.

I don’t like it. Even when it’s music that I like, I don’t appreciate having no choice about it.

I agree with a PP that people honestly don't realise other people can hear it, weirdly enough.

It is really selfish though. We had it with NDN last summer. She had portable speakers and if just blared away to itself all day because she would leave it playing while she went back inside or to pick the kids up from school etc.

We devised a plan that when my friend came round & we knew NDN was out in the garden friend asked where the music was coming from. Did the trick because all though she still did the volume was a lot lower, I can live with that.

My neighbour likes Jazz - 😳

I could cry 😭

I couldn’t stand that. How awful I think it’s super selfish. If you want music in your garden wear bloody headphones!

You are definitely not BU, I'm in the same situation.

It is so selfish of neighbours to play their shit music in the garden if they live closely to others.

I'd honestly feel ashamed to play my music loudly so others could hear! I don't know how they think it's okay.

Unfortunately my NDN owns their own home also, so I'm stuck with it despite DP asking them to turn it down multiple times.

Expecting other people to put up with noise is honestly one of my biggest bugbears - sympathies OP

It’s unreasonable to play music in the garden, yes.

I think it's very selfish to play music in the garden (unless you're garden is big enough that no one else can hear it)

dingledongle

We play Jazz, two jazz musicians live here, dh and dd.
You'd love it they start at 9am and finish about 8pm.
Our neighbour is brilliant though and never complains.
He tells his gc if he knocks they'll play for them.
The bricks are thick though, so we don't hear him, we just see them arrive (not during lockdown), give them a while and then play

Now we have a neighbour that does this. And has Fucking awful taste in music.

I fantasise about hiring a flatbed truck, a dj and sound system with speakers the size of Stonehenge. Every time they put their shite on we will zoom from round the corner and blast something utterly opposite to their musical tastes.

That’ll learn them.

Not unreasonable at all. Occasional is fine - the price we pay for having neighbours 😁 But I do mean occasional - but these are your good weather days too. Give her the benefit of the doubt she may not realise just how fucking awful/how much it travels and have a chat. If it was me I’d be mortified and glad someone told me how much what I was doing annoyed them!

OMG I am so surprised by these responses! I really thought I was going to be told to put up and shut up. I can't understand how people think it's ok either! but I thought I was in the minority

I feel like starting another poll now to ask: if you think it's not ok, do you actually say anything / do anything about it? Or seethe in silence?