Is it unreasonable to play music in the garden?

[SenselessUbiquity]

My NDN hs the radio on in the garden ALL THE TIME the weather is good. Sometimes she is out there with it, sometimes she isn't - either way I am subjected to it in every corner of my own garden. I hate it.

My NDN on the other side doesn't, nor does my next door but one neighbour (radio woman's other NDN). I can't hear any others. In other words, in a space where nearly everyone is consistently demonstrating that they prefer just normal ambient noise - kids playing, birds singing, pools splashing etc - she is making everyone listen to constant shit music.

I think this is objectionable but I am pretty she, and a lot of people, would think I am being unreasonable and uptight. I'd like to ask her for a break from it - say a period of time in the afternoon when I know it will go off or something.

what do you think?

yes ,unless its a party ive been warned about (and stop taking your conference calls outside,i can hear you 3doors down )
, also stop lighting your firepit and making me shut my windows at 6pm when I have just got in from work and would like to sit outside

I can currently hear my neighbours music and every word of their conversation and fucking screaming in the pool with my windows closed. Yes I am in the UK and yes it is nearly 11pm. This is the third time this week and I cannot stand much more. It’s beyond selfish.

Yes it is U to be playing music or radio in the garden if it's more than v occasionally.

I limit my DCs time in the garden when it's clear other people would be likely to want to be out relaxing in their gardens. As they can be noisy (our gardens are small and close together so even kicking a ball, skipping, chatting is overheard and annoying) & that wouldn't be fair for long periods. I'd imagine your neighbour doesn't think you mind the noise.. just pop round and say the noise carries and you wouldn't mind if it was only occasionally.. but it's become very frequent.

Is it unreasonable to play music in the garden?

Do you even need to ask? Yes, of course it is unreasonable!

I know I wouldn't be able to cope with it, it would drive me insane. Thank god I live in a quiet neighbourhood of like-minded people.

You are not being unreasonable. I hate having to listen to other people's music which is usually played very loudly.. It is impossible to ignore and makes it difficult to enjoy time out in the garden.

It's inconsiderate

YANBU, I just don't understand how people think this is OK but loads do! I think some people are more sensitive to other people's noise than others but I can't even describe how much this would bother me in my own home if it was a regular thing.

I had a neighbour that played her music really loudly and I popped round and very politely asked her if she wouldn't mind turning it down - we were in a terraced house and I had a small baby. She was really nice about it and just hadn't really thought about how it would affect others, it's definitely worth going round.

Depends. I’ve started playing music in my garden to drown out my selfish neighbours who let their kid screech and scream and blow into a recorder all day long in the garden. Before this I used to wear headphones now I think, f*ck it, they don’t care about my peace... it’s low, so you can’t hear it at the end of the garden but I’ve stopped caring now as they are out there having loud FaceTimes from 8am and the kid screams and the dog barks constantly and I’m fed up.

Of course, it is. Just be thankful they don't have amplified sound systems like some of ours do.

Everyone where I live is pretty quiet except the 20 something next door who moved in with his GF at the start of lockdown. He has to do everything ar full volume- high pitched repetitive drone laugh, TV full volume with patio doors open. Tonight's treat was him watching a football match and yelling and swearing at the TV on his own. They play music in the garden and he talks over it. Late night Zoom calls next to open back door.
Totally oblivious to any neighbours around, I just can't understand how people have so little consideration for others.

Ugh yes @sanfran sounds like my neighbours. My garden is practically unusable in Summer. Praying for the thunderstorms !

I wonder if we have the same neighbour as mine is doing this every single day and I’m seriously considering selling my house after lockdown now, it’s so selfish and mentally draining I can’t stand people who do this

Keep a diary and record it if you can, if it continues speak to your local council or environmental health team, it is still classed as a nuisance as it’s stopping you enjoy your home

Yep, NDN likes to blast ShiteFM all day long. There’s only a waist high fence between us and he puts his Alexa speaker about a foot away from said fence? It boils my piss. I won’t say anything though, too much of a wuss

I just set the pool up for the kids this morning, settled in my chair to read and enjoy the sun... music starts. I snapped (didn’t fart tho) and got out my ultra bass-y speaker and played Katy Perry on repeat, rather loudly. He huffed back in the house but left his speaker playing in the garden

Should also add, I can hear their music at other end of house with all doors and windows closed. Drives me up the wall.

Yes it’s unreasonable.

I pay a license to play music out in public spaces so that riles me too

Our neighbour can be loud. My eldest got so frustrated one day last week that she found some Rammstein and played it louder than their radio. Apparently they turned theirs down quickly, and my daughter went back to trying to work on her college stuff.

I hate hearing other people, let alone their music. I’m not cut out for community living, but I put up with it because it’s where we need to live.

If we win the lottery though, then there will be space and soundproofing. :o

Occasionally is fine, but not all the time - just like any other neighbour noise. I’m currently being treated to my neighbours singing “You’ll Never Walk Alone” almost on a loop, but as they’re only noisy a couple of times each year I’m just ignoring it - and hoping they stop soon cos I’m tired!

I hate hearing other people, let alone their music. I’m not cut out for community living, but I put up with it because it’s where we need to live.

I’m getting so grumpy in my old age but it annoys me too! My neighbours are just noisy people I think, when they talk in the back garden I can hear them clearly at the bottom of the drive out front 🙈

I am desperately saving to buy a house with no neighbours. About 18 more months and I’m off! Minimum 10 acres with house in the middle. Can’t wait!

Selfish. My neighbours 20 something son is furloughed and their garden has turned into the local pub every day from lunch time. Loud men and music blaring until 1PM some nights. i complained to the council and the mums obviously had words with him as music is kept quiet through the day now and by around 10pm musics turned off and the men trot of home. Can't wait for the pubs to reopen so they can go there instead.

I think it's different if you have a radio on inside near a window than actually being outside.

It's selfish and inconsiderate - DH and I have been working from home during lockdown, and neighbours on one side are clearly not currently working and have been having loud music blaring out from the garden every single day. The volume seems to go up woth the temperature and we've had to go over a couple of times to ask them to turn it down which to be fair they do - but then the next day it happens again. They're also generally quite loud and shouting with screaming kids and a barking dog.

The worst thing is they only seem to have one CD and it's the same songs all the time.

On the days we're not working we'd like to go in our own garden but can't without having to listen to their music which is not to our taste. I'm having to put headphones on to mow the lawn!

Neighbours on the other side are also enjoying their garden a lot with their kids and no issues at all with that as they're not blasting out music constantly!

I don't mind if someone's playing music the odd few days but I wouldn't like it all the time.

I don’t mind hearing it low but not loud or all day etc. In the OP it says you all prefer the ambient noise of kids playing, trust me though, that is an acquired taste I've put music on so that when the neighbours kids scream it isn’t so jarring!

I once fought fire with fire with a nightmare neighbour.
They would play the same song on repeat over and over and over. Even now if I hear that particular song, the hairs on the back of my neck stands on end.
Prodigy fire starter was my comeback. There’s nothing that can compete.

It was so bad we moved, took me about 12 months in the new house for my nerves to settle.
It affected my mental health so badly.

As a nurse, on night shifts and 12 hour day shifts, rest is vital. There was none in that house.