Is it unreasonable to play music in the garden?

[SenselessUbiquity]

My NDN hs the radio on in the garden ALL THE TIME the weather is good. Sometimes she is out there with it, sometimes she isn't - either way I am subjected to it in every corner of my own garden. I hate it.

My NDN on the other side doesn't, nor does my next door but one neighbour (radio woman's other NDN). I can't hear any others. In other words, in a space where nearly everyone is consistently demonstrating that they prefer just normal ambient noise - kids playing, birds singing, pools splashing etc - she is making everyone listen to constant shit music.

I think this is objectionable but I am pretty she, and a lot of people, would think I am being unreasonable and uptight. I'd like to ask her for a break from it - say a period of time in the afternoon when I know it will go off or something.

what do you think?

i have a slightly different problem in that my upstairs neighbour gets very, very drunk once a week and has a party for one.

i’ve given up complaining. last time it was Johnny Cash at ear-bleed volume. i went up and asked him to turn it down. he just swayed and grinned and said he’d find some Bob Marley instead, because nobody minds Bob Marley.

i just put earplugs in now and whack the telly up. to be fair, he’s usually unconscious by about 8.30pm so it goes quiet.

rinse and repeat every 6 days or so. i dread the first bass notes filtering through the ceiling. but he’s so nice about being inconsiderate that i’m at a loss as to how to deal with him.

i love my earplugs.

We have new neighbours next door but one. Loud music, barking dogs, loud people. I suppose I should consider myself lucky that they haven’t put a wind chime up. That would just about finish me off!
You have my sympathy OP

I have neighbours who have put on music every single sunny day for years. Lockdown had been making it unbearable. We had family over in the garden who couldn't believe anyone would be so selfish. We spoke loudly about selfishness and use of headphones. It has stopped now- don't know if this was down to them overhearing or other neighbours complaining. Chuck headphones into your neighbours garden. Arseholes.

Some music carrying on the breeze doesn't bother me. Party tunes and loud music is awful.

Ze1+Guest I can’t stand Bob Marley.

@dingledongle

My neighbour likes Jazz - 😳

I could cry 😭

@dingledongle there's plenty of bagpipe music on youtube, why not put that on in the garden nice and loud when the jazz starts?

Great suggestion!

It is the type of Jazz that never seems to get to the point- elevator music

It seems I'm in a distinct minority in thinking it's OK to have the radio on in the garden! In the daytime, as long as the music is not offensive and not excessively loud.

Such a culteral thing a garden /house with no music is so weird to me

It depends I’ve actually just turned my music up loud to drown out the sound of next doors children who spend all day screaming in the garden, don’t think they have an off button.
Why is it ok for children to scream and shout but music not be played?

Mine does. She’s been away for a few days, me and a few neighbours have messaged to say what bliss it has been. She’s also very intolerant of anyone else making any noise of course.
A few times we’ve started playing classical music loudly in response. It does make her shut it off. We don’t want to piss other neighbours off though.

We had a musical battle 2 days ago.
2 sets of neighbours. One played every day. Not offensive music, but annoying plus it was every day all day. Second one started blasting Brian Adams and similar.
First neigbour upped their volume. Second neighbours upped their volume. It has gone on for about half an hour.
Then the all the time music neighbour lowered the volume. So did Brian Adams. Then first neigbour turned it off. So did Brian Adams.
Hour later neighbour 1 turned music back on and another battle commenced😂
Brian won.
It has been considerably quieter since😂

I can’t stand it - the choices are always so middle of the road and tedious too. Just being treated to a crap version of something resembling zippity doo dah atm - poor quality faux-Motown.

I think it’s incredibly crass and dim to foist your musical choices on everyone else.

I sometimes play music when I'm working in the garden but I'm pretty sure that it can't be heard over the sound of the forge or the ring of the anvil so I'm pretty sure it's not disturbing anyone. If I'm using the grinder I use headphones under my ear protectors

Rude AF to subject other people to your music.

“It seems I'm in a distinct minority in thinking it's OK to have the radio on in the garden! In the daytime, as long as the music is not offensive and not excessively loud.”

This is the point though...it’s always excessively loud

If anyone else can hear it it is excessively loud.

I was about to say the same as the person above. No one has their music on in the garden but many have bi fold doors or wide open windows so you hear it anyway

We have NDN who are almost driving me psychotic since lockdown. Group of six adults (most in their 30s/40s) who spend every waking hour outside (when they're not working). They are really loud, they smoke dope and drink (which makes them even louder) and it's doing my head in . There is no respite from their loud ways. They didn't used to be a problem at all - it would seem that the arrival of a woman in their throng makes them go into super silly and loud mode. So fed up.

I have to say I am seriously going off my neighbours since lockdown began. We do have a wonderful supportive street who were shopping for each other, swapping plants, depositing easter treats on door steps, running quizzes for the children etc. I have to say I know I am very lucky in that respect.

However, we have small gardens and I am finding my tolerance for other people's noise has really diminished over the last few weeks. There are lots of kids playing out which is fine but some of them are proper screamers, some of the parents are extremely loud, we have Disney music pouring from bi fold doors and a lot of late night garden gatherings. Last night a neighbour 6 doors away had people in the garden till 2am and I could hear them through the earplugs. Thank god the weather has changed.

I like them all very much but I have really gone off them.

Familiarity has bred contempt.

i would hate it

I hate it too.

Obviously quietly (so the neighbours can only just about hear it) is ok - it then becomes ambient noise. Or very occasionally - our neighbours on one side do it when they have a party, it's not that loud anyway.

But we got new neighbours on the other side, and after a few months they started playing music quite loudly outside. Like your area, it's a quiet area, so they were the only ones doing it.

I seethed quietly for a bit. I've got 4 children and I keep them fairly quiet. They play musical instruments but it has to be indoors with windows shut. I've told one DD she cannot have band practice at our house and she cannot have drums or bagpipes (!!) - that's all for the sake of the neighbours, I would let her if we lived remotely. They have to use headphones in the garden. The other neighbours all do similar - and if we didn't it would be very noisy round here, there are lots of teenagers.

I was going to have to ask them to turn it down, but I was worried because they must be aware of its impact on others. They have small children but I don't mind that noise - it can't be helped and it's lovely anyway. I kept wishing the children would make more noise so it would drown out the awful music.

Anyway eventually I just went round and asked them to turn it down, and they did. There hasn't been any since, but I think they are annoyed at me, because I did them a favour (averted a disaster when they were out) and they haven't thanked me. I was hoping for chocolates.

I find radio so much worse than music.
When the DJ is talking it’s all muffled - it’s like a bad wedding g DJ.

SchrodingersImmigrant who's Bryan Adams?