Prisoner!

[crazybutkind]

So I had a baby on Tuesday evening and I am still currently in hospital. We are ok baby's temp is just a little low but they have ruled out anything serious.

As you can imagine nobody wants to be in hospital on their own with a newborn at the minute but I have been in the same room now since 7:30pm on Tuesday. I'm not allowed to open the window because they don't want baby getting cold, I'm not allowed the fan on because of the same reason and I'm not allowed to go to leave the ward for some fresh air because of covid.

It's absolutely roasting outside, i am just stewing in my own sweat at the minute. All I want is 5 minutes of fresh air.

It's been 36 hours now and I feel ill.

I just want to go and stand at the entrance for 5 mins AIBU?

Yes I would definitely complain. I’m glad you are home now x

I've been following your post and I'm shocked by the 'care' you received.
Glad your home and settled.. I'd definitely take this further.
Congratulations 💝

Utterly appalling OP, but thank God you're both home now. How bitchy of them to turf you out then at 6am! FFS. Best of luck with your complaint, though from my experience, you won't even get an acknowledgement of guilt. Let alone an apology.

Definitely continue with the complaint OP so it cannot happen again and so that you can have some closure on your ordeal (yes, ordeal, I don't think you'd be exaggerating). So glad you're both home! Have a wonderful summer!

Glad you're home, now enjoy your new baby xx

This was horrendous. Glad to hear you and baby are home, but what a dreadful experience.

I'd gather all your evidence into a chronological timeline for PALS. The direct threat of SS to a new mother was particularly galling.

I had my son 28 years ago on a boiling hot day. I took my baby home after 12 hours and it was 'against medical.advice' my baby was fine. Low temp, and my skin was the best incubator for him. When I had my daughter 2 and a half years later, my notes said 'patient difficult'

Congratulations on your baby, OP. Hoping you're both well and this experience doesn't spoil your special time.

What an awful experience. Glad you're home now.

Congrats on your new baby girl! 💐
Please do complain, your treatment was disgusting and I think you coped so well with all that went on. Please rest up and accept any help you are offered.
Thank God you are home now with your family, all the best.

@GimmeAy

I'm a smoker so they were used to me wandering off (not that they don't challenge me on it, but a woman and her nicotine are hard parted, especially when they don't as promised prescribe you patches for your stay). Just say you're going for a cigarette - if questioned tell them you've decided to take up smoking to get some fresh air before you go mad. They can't physically restrain you - so just say politely, Oh I do accept your concern, but my baby is safe and fed and in an incubator and I just need to feel a breeze. Thank you for being such a wonderful nurse - would you mind buzzing me back in in about 10 minutes? BIG SMILE.

OP do not ever do this. This is a raging loony. The hospital and Midwifes are trying to be the best they can and they have to deal with fucking nutjobs like GimmeAy:

So glad you are home OP. I am also glad you are going to complain. Congratulations on you newborn.

Wow. So one day it was FAR too dangerous for you to have a window open or to go outside yourself for 5 minutes, a few hours later it's fine for you and baby to be standing around outdoors at 6 a.m. Utterly ridiculous. I do hope you get a sensible response through PALS.

I've just read the entire thread and I'm so happy you're home and safe (and hopefully cooler!) now. I'm glad you're sticking up for yourself and following through with the complaint because how you have been treated is disgusting. X

@Hyrana 'fucking nutjobs' Bit harsh eh? I'm just a smoker, not en escapee from a lunatic asylum or a serial killer. Get a grip.

Well I took my complaint to pals. To be honest they sounded horrified. I hope it helps other mums. Pals have been really understanding and helpful and suggested claiming for neglect

Hope you're all settled and enjoying motherhood now. Well done for taking it to PALS.

That’s awful OP. The temperature, lack of fresh air and crap, small meals sounds like torture.
I agree with PP,s, opening the window won’t harm your baby.
Are you by chance on ground floor? Could DP bring food supplies to the window. And an ice lolly?
Would one of the midwives or mca’s get food and a lolly from the canteen if you have cash?
Hope you get home soon

Sorry, I see you’re home now, good. Enjoy!

Oh good, OP. Well done for pursuing it and hopefully helping other mums.

Are you going to claim? I wouldn't blame you if you did tbh, you bloody deserve it.