To think people do not know what a healthy weight looks like.

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I am a healthy weight for my height and i constantly get comments on my weight like "gosh youre tiny" or "i could just pick you up" and "what do you eat to be small, just eat a burger" from people i work with etc. Do people really not know what a healthy weight is anymore? I just think "im not tiny i am a healthy weight and yes i do eat fucking burgers"
Im glad shops are more inclusive and plus size models are more common but i still think commenting on someones size is wrong no matter the size.

I watched Jaws the other night.

I was shocked when I watched one of the beach scenes which had loads of extras in it. I was shocked because everyone was so slim! It was filmed in 1975 so 45 years ago.

I'm sure if you took a photo of an average beach in USA now, it would look very different.

I do think that we have got used to the new norm.

I don’t overeat and I do exercise and I weigh nearly 11st at 5 ft 2. Fucking thyroid.

I also got described by a surgeon as “very thin” when I had an operation a few years back. I think it’s because as a previous poster says, it’s all relative.

People seem to think you have to starve/be on some weird keto diet to be slim and it's just not true

Really depends on the person. The only time my bmi was in the healthy range was in my late teens/early twenties. I ate one meal a day and was always hungry.

"We have to stop admiring morbidly obese models same way we are not admiring deathly underweight models."

Where are all these "morbidly obese" models? Apart from Tess Holliday, who has had lost her novelty value and faded back into relative obscurity, who are the others...?

I get this all the time too. Have always been the weight I am. BMI says I'm healthy I'm just a petite person! I have a very close friendship group of all sizes and they understand my struggles as I do theirs. I will often hear 'omg she is as skinny as quietly...' and I will always pull that person up and say woahhh imagine if I said 'she's as fat as soandso' (which I never would). I've been told that work colleagues discuss my weight and a possible eating disorder behind my back even though to my face they comment about how much I eat and how often I do!

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I feel obligated to state that I was skinny, things change 😅

Those opinions seem plausible, but I'm not sure how I feel about it. She wasn't a particularly friendly doctor, very much 'get the job done', so it wasn't a compliment. So if she was comparing me to the average patient, I don't think it's particularly helpful to suggest to patients in your professional capacity that a normal weight/size is 'very skinny'.

I genuinely don't know why this memory never leaves my mind, I remember at the time I had a very odd mix of pride and frustration after her comment. Surely suggesting that somebody who has a standard sized body could do with gaining some weight is counterproductive, especially from an NHS employee who should be discouraging obesity.

Yanbu, it is just rude to comment on someone's weight either way. These are the same people who insist on telling us we look tired, no doubt

@Sonichu for example Gillete had Anna, which goes under Glitters and lazers. I remember it was quite big argument on twitter.
There are more than they should be and millions of people are gawping at them on instagram with "omg gawj, #lovecurves".
I say that as a woman size 20 (going down): Morbidly obese is not curves nor "gawj".
Equally I will say the same for dangerously skinny people.

And OP is right imo. We lost sight of what is a normal size. And as some pps pointed out, also a sight of what's normal food portion. I too was guilty of the latter.

any vaguely negative comment about excessive weight
is deemed "fat shaming"

but slimmer bodies are fair game.

I think it's mainly jealousy and insecurity. Just read some of the vile comments on this thread.

Don't even get me started on the misappropriation of the word "curvy". Curvy is a shape (hourglass), not a size...

I agree that its not helpful for professionals to demonstrate a skewed opinion SuckingDownDarjeeling and my neighbour more or less dismissing my concerns about my weight wasn't great either. The fact is that I was obese and I did need to lose weight and hearing that wouldn't have done me any harm at all, in fact it would have been good for me. But they are humans and their barometers have probably been reset, resulting in some individual loss of perspective. My neighbour isn't worried about people with a BMI of 30 because she is used to it, not because it is good, I was "normal" in the statistical sense of the word rather than being healthy. Your doctor sounds to have a rather strange manner though!

I have my Grandmothers 1970s skirt from marks and spencer -size 14.

The waistband is 24 inches!

Sizes have changed drastically!

I’m tiny .. size 6 .. my frame is so small my wrist can only really “take “ a child’s size watch ...
my mum is a size 4 ...maybe hereditary? DH said yesterday I seem to be shrinking ! He thinks my frame somehow looks smaller ?!?
It’s like my body is becoming my mums !
I’m not dieting at all but I see what he means ...
I was somewhat upset yesterday when an anorexic comment was thrown at me ...
Stupid to let it get to me .. in my fifties and I felt like I am just starting to look like a little old woman .. ...
my bust is a g cup though so I’m not taken for a child 😂

24 inch waist is size 4-8 nowadays......dayum

I spent 45 years of my life being ‘skinny’ or size 6/8. I then started binge eating and have hovered between a size 12-16 for 10 years. I feel invisible as a bigger person, even though most people wouldn’t say I was big. The focus on weight for aesthetics is totally working. The focus should be on putting healthy fuel into our body and moving more.

Curvy is a shape (hourglass), not a size...

within reasons. Ursula Andress is curvy, so is Laeticia Casta.
Kate Middleton isn't curvy.

It's not an insult towards any of these women, they look equally great, just different shape. We just happen to use the word curvy to describe excessive weight nowadays.

Oh Kate Middleton is definitely not curvy, she is very athletic. I was thinking Yasmin Okhellou or Lucy Mecklenburgh from TOWIE, for example

This is so true. I'm a size 8, 5ft4, 54kg. I always get 'oh, you don't want to be too thin!' blah, blah. It's said with a patronising tone, not meant as a compliment. There is a difference I find.

At Xmas past I got, " have a nice Christmas, don't eat too much, second thoughts, maybe you should eat the whole turkey, you look like you could do with it"

I'm 5'5 and 8 stone 8. Normal weight for me.

How ridiculous of people to say that, that is an ideal weight. That really could be an example of people getting used to fewer people being near the lower end of their bmi range. I am just under 5'5 and as an adult I have never been underweight but I have been around 8 stone, I did not look really skinny and no one told me I did! I just looked slim/normal. I wish I was that now.

@MrsAvocet yes I can see how that would be frustrating. Have you managed to slim down since, if you don't mind me asking?

I've found that when you lose weight after being much larger, people's comments can be quite depressing. People that never commented on you being big, suddenly think it's appropriate tell you how great you look now that you've lost all that weight. They might be well intentioned, but I don't think they realise that it essentially implies that they viewed your weight negatively prior to your weight loss. That, combined with (often the same people) telling you that you're getting too skinny make it exponentially harder to feel proud of yourself and your achievements.

They might be well intentioned, but I don't think they realise that it essentially implies that they viewed your weight negatively prior to your weight loss.

The thing is though that in this case even you (or anyone who slimmed down) saw the weight negatively too. Otherwise there would be no reason to lose. I know what you mean though.

Easy to judge, I’m 58 ,5’4”,,10st 7so slightly overweight, post menopasal shape changes you, very annoying.
Slightly upset this am, as went to get rings ready for resizing ( meds causing slight water retention), I ‘m annoyed 2 and 1/2 sizes up.
My right hand is worse as I broke it 20 years ago.
At 49, was 12st 6, and yes I got told I was heavy.
Lots sre just plain tubby and more these days, yes I’d love to be dainty, not going to happen.
If naturally slender fab, tho it push some into anorexia

"@Sonichu for example Gillete had Anna, which goes under Glitters and lazers. I remember it was quite big argument on twitter."

So between us we've named... two? And I wouldn't call consider Anna to be that famous, I only know who she is because of Kiwi Farms.

It doesn’t bother me. If someone who could afford to lose a stone wants to call me underweight, I can’t get worked up about it. I’m on the short side and a very healthy weight but something like 3kg less would put me underweight while I would need to add half my body weight again to get to obese. So factually they aren’t far off wrong.