To think people do not know what a healthy weight looks like.

[reducingfootprint]

I am a healthy weight for my height and i constantly get comments on my weight like "gosh youre tiny" or "i could just pick you up" and "what do you eat to be small, just eat a burger" from people i work with etc. Do people really not know what a healthy weight is anymore? I just think "im not tiny i am a healthy weight and yes i do eat fucking burgers"
Im glad shops are more inclusive and plus size models are more common but i still think commenting on someones size is wrong no matter the size.

[formerbabe]

accusations that they're fat/lazy/eat too much

Weird language to use around this issue. Why use the word 'accusation'. Eating too much food is not a crime nor is it a question of morality.

[CecilyP]

I don’t think you are, Redcrow; you are at the upper end of a healthy weight.

[gypsywater]

@livefornaps bullying people for being "too skinny" also isnt nice

[gypsywater]

@MissyGez WTAF. Comments of anorexic at Size 14?! Its mad!

[imissmydad]

@Redcrow you're not overweight, your bmi is 24.

[bringincrazyback]

I do agree people shouldn't comment on anyone's size whatever it is, so YANBU. However, as can be seen by comments like 'It's more normal to be a chubber these days', this thread is very likely to deteriorate into a mass fat-shaming session.

@RhianFuckingMorris if you genuinely 'don't give a shit what anyone looks like', I'm not sure what insulting terms like 'chubber' are doing in your vocabulary.

[heatherj96]

A healthy BMI can range by 3 stone! My healthy BMI is 8 st 3 - 11 St 2, if i was 8 stone 3 I would look ill! 😫

[CarlottaValdez]

Try watching a film from the thirties or forties: it is not just the stars who look as thin as rakes, everyone does, even background characters

I actually don’t find that - I agree the general population are bigger but actresses are tinier than ever. I quite often watch old films and think, for example, that dancers had bigger thighs.

[SerenDippitty]

@gypsywater

Also my mum is 5'2" and 9 stone and people always ask me if she has lost weight and how she looks "skinny". Shes a Size 10 for God's sake and has always been the same weight. Its nuts.

Some people do look slimmer at a certain weight than someone else would. Frame sizes and fat distribution patterns vary.

[YouMaySayImADreamer]

Yes I agree. I have a bit of weight to lose at the moment but when I am at my ideal weight (for myself in terms of what I feel good at and can maintain, and around midway on official healthy weight for height) I often get comments like this. I always feel really embarrassed and uncomfortable, like some kind of fraud, as well as baffled by them.

[RhianFuckingMorris]

Chubber is my friendly term of how I refer to my glorious size 16 self.
I think it sounds alot nicer than overweight or obese but it's probably too.child.like.to those more intellectually blessed than myself.
I still.accept people for how they are in person not for what they look like despite how I refer to myself and my kind of shape

[gypsywater]

@SerenDippitty Sure, but I still dont think any Size 10 woman can be "skinny" - at 5'2". Its just a slim/normal weight. Healthy.

[morethanafortnight]

[quote LST]@handsoffmyrights right so it's fine for people to feel uncomfortable when people mention them being fat but not the other way round?[/quote]
^ This. My DH is naturally very thin and always has been. People think it is fine to comment on his appearance - "Ooh, aren't you thin!!!" type of remarks.

It's not fine. Remarks about your appearance are just as offensive to a thin person as they are to someone on the opposite end of the spectrum. And the more threads there are pointing this out, the better, because hopefully, eventually people will stop doing it.

[Cam2020]

People are getting bigger in general, I do think some people have forgotten what a (generalisation alert before I get mauled by an angry M'Net wolf pack) healthy looks like.

Perhaps you're well proportioned, OP? Some slim people have bluges in unfortunate places or uneven weight distribution.

I agree its rude and a complete no no to ever comment on someone's weight unless it's both invited and complimentary.

[Ilovesandwiches]

I don’t think it’s fair to comment on how small a person is, just the same as how it’s not kind to comment on how large someone may be!

[Missillusioned]

You can't go on dress size. I can be a size 10, 12 or 14 depending on the shop, the item and the cut of the clothes.

[HavelockVetinari]

Agreed. It's particularly apparent when people who've lost weight and then gained it claim they looked 'gaunt' at a healthy BMI.

Nope, you're just not used to looking at your face without all the chub hiding the wrinkles.

[namesnames]

I agree.

I'm tired of people trotting out 'the average size in the UK is a size 16' as an excuse to normalise being overweight.

It is, but it shouldn't be.

I am overweight due to my poor diet, nothing else.

Please do not accuse me of fat shaming, that is something different entirely.

[GiraffesAreBeautiful]

The only time I want anybody to comment on my weight is when I actively lose it through diet and exercise. And then I only want comments from close friends. Nobody else’s business.

Sadly my weight has ballooned since I started medication. Up until then I loved my body - 6ft and 11.5 stone. Now I’m a heifer. If anybody commented, I’d be devastated.

[Sonichu]

We have this thread every week

[steppemum]

I watched an old film, made in the 70s the other night.

There were a load of kids in it, all skinny (and wearing extrememly short skirts as per the fashion, which also looked odd)
And the women were so slender. It was really noticable that they were all collectively very different to a modern group of women

I also remember meeting a crowd of US students when I was about 18. The thing struck me then was that all the girls were so much bigger and curvier than a group of my school mates at the time. Now they would look normal in UK.
I do think we have lost sight of what is a normal weight, yes.
(I am over weight by the way)

[RealBecca]

Agree with you. I was very slim at one point and used to use hot water bottles in summer in work and people used to comment that I needed to eat more so I wouldn't be cold all the time.... Yeah, because eating more would have stopped my awful cramps and stopped me shitting blood from a medical condition. yeah, please, let me explain that to every smart-arsed colleague transferring their own weight issues.

Nobody should comment on anybodys weight unless they are a medical professional and qualified to give advice.

[MargotB7]

Nope, you're just not used to looking at your face without all the chub hiding the wrinkles.

As you get older though some people do look gaunt when slimmer. I'm not saying they shouldn't be slim, of course they should be. Unfortunately it's a cruel fact of life - face or figure. Not saying for everyone before I get flamed.

[notmycar]

I agree with you op. My BMI is in the healthy range, granted it's more towards the lower end of the scale but yes I still get comments. I'm just lucky that I'v had 3DC and can eat whatever I want without exercising whilst maintaining my figure.
The time it's really annoyed me is as soon as the DC have been born I'm back to size 8 in an instant with no bump at all - I know this is unusual but I'v had really horrid comments about it.

[bringincrazyback]

Chubber is my friendly term of how I refer to my glorious size 16 self.

Your choice how you want to refer to yourself obviously, but size 16 isn't necessarily fat?

As women I don't personally feel we're obliged to use words like 'fat' 'overweight', 'obese' to describe ourselves. It's almost like we're apologising for ourselves when we do that, imho, and no one has to apologise for their body shape. I weigh more than I should, I'm currently working on that, but I wouldn't use words like 'fat' or 'overweight' when talking about myself to other people, because I wouldn't reference my weight at all. As you rightly said, personality is what matters.