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Handhold to all of you on Father's Day...

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Coffeebiscuitsrepeat · 21/06/2020 13:42

... That have dads that are no longer with us. Also, to all of you that have a difficult relationship with your dads.

My dad was an amazing man. He died 10 years ago. 50 is no age - I'm raising a glass in his name today!

Wishing everyone a lovely Fathers Day. ❤️

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LoseLooseLucy · 21/06/2020 13:45

(Sob Sad) Wine

My dad died 18 months ago, it still takes my breath away Sad

To all those missing someone Flowers

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Coffeebiscuitsrepeat · 21/06/2020 13:46

If anyone wants to use this thread to share a memory or to reach out, then please do!

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Megatron · 21/06/2020 13:47

I'll take that hand OP. Ten years since my dad died and I still miss him like mad. I think about him every day.

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Coffeebiscuitsrepeat · 21/06/2020 13:48

@LoseLooseLucy Oh, I'm so sorry. Flowers I would love to say that time is a healer, but in my opinion the rawness never really goes away; we just learn how to live with the grief day to day. There are some days, though, that it feels impossible to live with. 10 years on, I still feel like that occasionally. My dad was taken in a horrible way, and was the light of my life. 🕯️

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Coffeebiscuitsrepeat · 21/06/2020 13:50

@Megatron So sorry. Flowers 10 years has flown for me. Not a day when I don't think about it!

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Ginsmything · 21/06/2020 13:50

First Father’s Day without him. Sad

Pipandmum · 21/06/2020 13:51

My Dad died 12 years ago. My children's dad died the following year (kids were 4 and 6). When they were little I told the school that they would probably like to make father's day cards and to not feel awkward about it. Now we don't do anything (we have a little thing we do on his birthday).
My biggest regret about both their passing is that my children didn't have a chance to know them - they were both wonderful, kind, generous men.

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Coffeebiscuitsrepeat · 21/06/2020 13:51

@ginsmything Flowers

So sorry.

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DuckALaurent · 21/06/2020 13:51

Lost my Dad 7 years ago. Lost my DSM last year. Mum died when I was a child. So this years ‘special days’ are firsts with all 3 wonderful parents all gone.

Today feels weirdly worse now I’m ‘orphaned’ as it were. I’m ok but it’s a sad day that I’m trying not to focus on aside from making a nice tea for DH.

lootsharks · 21/06/2020 13:52

First Father's Day here too. There's a thread in Bereavement .

LoseLooseLucy · 21/06/2020 13:53

I'm so sorry to hear that Coffee. Must make it even harder to bear, my dad had cancer for 2 years before it so it wasn't so much of a shock, still felt the loss on a seismic scale though Sad

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Coffeebiscuitsrepeat · 21/06/2020 13:53

@Pipandmum That is so desperately sad. I'm sure your children know them through your lovely stories about them! Flowers

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HouchinBawbags · 21/06/2020 13:54

Dad won't be here next Father's Day. Today has been hard.

EatDessertFirst · 21/06/2020 13:55

Flowers for you all. My thoughts are with you.

I lost my dad three years ago on 15th June. He was 57. His birthday is 23rd June and Fathers Day has fallen almost bang on top of these two dates ever since.

I'm avoiding Facebook like the plague today!

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Coffeebiscuitsrepeat · 21/06/2020 13:56

@HouchinBawbags Oh gosh, sending hugs! I'm sure you are making the most of every second.

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Coffeebiscuitsrepeat · 21/06/2020 13:59

@EatDessertFirst Gosh, all three of those dates must be so difficult, in such quick succession especially.

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mogloveseggs · 21/06/2020 13:59

Flowers for all.
30 years since my dad died.
I normally work Father's Day (hospitality) so keep busy and can't go out with in laws who like to make a big deal which is fair enough. Furloughed this year and it's really hard. I've been for coffee with a friend but now I'm home I'm going to go clean the bathroom or something and distract myself.
Dh is completely understanding and Ds and I will make a nice tea (he had breakfast in bed and presents this morning).
I just feel flat though.

It's just so bloody unfair.

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Coffeebiscuitsrepeat · 21/06/2020 13:59

I don't know about all of you, but the most painful part for me comes when I get some news, momentarily forget, pick up the phone to call him.... And then realise.

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lootsharks · 21/06/2020 13:59

@EatDessertFirst

Flowers for you all. My thoughts are with you.

I lost my dad three years ago on 15th June. He was 57. His birthday is 23rd June and Fathers Day has fallen almost bang on top of these two dates ever since.

I'm avoiding Facebook like the plague today!

Me too, I went on FB first thing and did the obligatory likes and wished people a good father's day so as not to appear to be a kill joy and then logged out for the day. Obviously there is nothing wrong with people not doing that.
scoobyd2 · 21/06/2020 14:02

@HouchinBawbags same here, we know this one is his last. And I can't be there with him Sad Our weekly Facetime felt extra-special today.

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Coffeebiscuitsrepeat · 21/06/2020 14:03

@mogloveseggs

That's what the vicar said at my dad's funeral - "It's so bloody unfair". And it really is!

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Coffeebiscuitsrepeat · 21/06/2020 14:03

@scoobyd2 So sorry you couldn't be there. Flowers

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MummyInTheNecropolis · 21/06/2020 14:05

2.5 years since I lost my dad. Still feels like yesterday Sad

mogloveseggs · 21/06/2020 14:05

[quote Coffeebiscuitsrepeat]@mogloveseggs

That's what the vicar said at my dad's funeral - "It's so bloody unfair". And it really is![/quote]
It is. Really really bloody unfair.
Sat in the car having a moment.
FlowersFlowersFlowers

Newuname199987 · 21/06/2020 14:07

Thoughts to everyone today. I lost my dad 8 years ago on 14th June, and tomorrow would be his 80th birthday, miss him dearly.