Handhold to all of you on Father's Day...

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... That have dads that are no longer with us. Also, to all of you that have a difficult relationship with your dads.

My dad was an amazing man. He died 10 years ago. 50 is no age - I'm raising a glass in his name today!

Wishing everyone a lovely Fathers Day. ❤️

My first without Dad too & I wish i hadn’t taken those days for granted previously and made more of an effort.

Loved seeing my kids make cards & treat DH, it feels more important now than ever

💐 to you all

Thank you. My Dad died in January and my Mam two years before. Putting on a brave face for my kids. x

Two years next month, miss you dad

My dad was killed by an IED in Afghanistan 12 years ago, i will get his medals out today and give them and clean and a cry, and have a few drinks, my first fathers day today aswell, so emotions are running high

@Bloke23 I'm so sorry. 😟

So sorry @scoobyd2 it's the same for us. Mine is 200 miles away and even if we could travel down to see him there's nowhere we could stay as all hotels nearby are closed and his house is unsuitable.

I'll take that handhold too, almost 7 years without him, and each fathers day breaks my heart, 49 was much too early to go 😔

My dad died 10 years ago and it would have been his birthday today, on Fathers Day ☹

My dad died 17 years ago, I’d give anything for a chat with him right now. I was only 18, still a kid really, the last time we spoke.

Mine died 6 years ago. I still miss him and wish he'd been able to see my children grow up and become adults.

Nearly 4 years since my Dad died. His passing was a mercy - he had been suffering from Parkinson's and was at the very severe stage. Unable to do anything, even speak, severe dementia. Watching him deteriorate was incredibly hard. My mum followed 3 years later, at least they are together.

My DDs' dad died almost 2 years ago from heart disease caused by alcohol abuse. I miss the man I married, but that man had not been there for many years and we were living separately and in the process of divorcing at the time.

Father's Day is very bittersweet for us.

Thankyou so much for this. My dad died 4 years ago,I'm also avoiding social media today as it's hard.
for everyone x

My dad is still alive, but has Alzheimer's which has made him verbally and physically very aggressive with me. My elderly mother and siblings are in denial that this volatility is a problem to be dealt with, and they put immense pressure on me to pretend he's safe for me and my children to be around. They see no risk in passively letting him cultivate delusions in which he reverses the attack in his mind and positions me or my husband as the aggressor to him.
I can't see how my children or I can safely be near him again. But I would if I thought it could be done without risk. I bitterly regret that the last few years of his life are this way, and that there is no way to rebuild bridges safely, because the very concept of safeguarding is deemed supremely hurtful by the family.

Alzheimer's is an evil disease. But denial is a destroyer of families too.

I meant to start that post with my condolences for all of you who have lost your dads

It's the first anniversary of his death tomorrow, so first FD without him. I'm heartbroken. Thank you for starting this thread OP

My dad died when I was 11. I then had a not very nice stepdad for about 30 years. You think I'd be over it by now but I still hate Fathers Day!

to all those who are missing their Dad today.

Huge bunch of to you all. It's so hard at times. Please all be kind to yourselves today!

So sad for all of your losses. My dad died two months ago and I miss him so much

Hugs and flowers to all xx

My dad is married for third time and doesn’t make time for us. Our relationship hasn’t been great since his first divorce from my mum in my teens and he has never been very open and communicative. He now lives two hours away and I’ve suggested many times meeting up but they are always busy/make excuses. His loss and he has no relationship with his amazing grandkids. Sad though. If you have or had a good relationship with your dad cherish it x

My Dad died in April this year, very lonely today and every day without him, condolences to everyone who has lost their Dad 🌺

Thank you for this thread. My lovely dad died 5 weeks ago from Covid. He also had Alzheimer’s @Barracker it’s an absolute bugger of a disease for you. It strips the person of all the things that made them them. I miss my dad terribly, even though he hadn’t been my lovely dad as I knew him for many years there was still a glimpse of the man he was.

Lost mine 20 years ago. He was 56. No age. So I still feel numb today and struggle to be enthusiastic for my kids for their dad

First Fathers Day without him. Brilliant and inspirational man but bloody difficult.

Xxx

Thanks for the thread. I lost my dad nearly 2 years ago. A hard day.