Who should walk me down the aisle?

[Deedoubleyou]

Settle in for the backstory....

My mum and dad had me and got married in their teens. The marriage lasted 2 years and my mum and stepdad have been married since I was 5. My dad was quite absent when I was younger and would leave me with my grandparents (who I loved very much) on his access weekends. My stepdad was always there but we had a volatile relationship as he was very stern and had a bad temper.

Fast forward to now and both my dad and stepdad have really stepped up since my daughter was born and I have a great relationship with both of them.

I know that both of them are fully expecting to walk me down the aisle and I just don't know what to do. Either way I'm going to hurt someone I really care about.

AIBU to have both walk me down? Anyone been in a similar postion?

Weird but each to their own!

DH and I walked down the aisle together.

Who would you go to if you had a major problem?

I had a similar situation and wanted both dad and stepdad to be involved in the wedding. Dad walked me down the aisle where he passed me to step dad. Step dad lifted my veil and passed me to my husband. It worked really well. They also both did a father of the bride speech.

Whoever you want or no-one!

My parents divorced when I was in primary school.
My brother and I were not especially close. My mother wanted me to ask my brother- I was going to go alone, then at the last minute asked a friend.
Also I was determined not to be 'given away'. Stupid idea of male ownership

Both is a lovely idea... Congratulations btw

My dad walked me down the aisle even though I would have preferred it to have been my beloved stepdad and had I known that less than a year later he'd be dead, I would've made sure it was him. However, I had my stepdad as one of my witnesses so he still played an important role and got to have his name on my marriage certificate in one form or another.

Have them both walk you. Your bio dad the first bit and then then he can symbolically 'give you' to your step dad. And then he will continue walking with you and 'hand you over' to your dh to be .

I'm glad you've been able to make a decision OP. Best wishes for a wonderful day.

Your bio dad the first bit and then then he can symbolically 'give you' to your step dad.

Yikes, would you really want to symbolically show, during your wedding, when bio dad became an absent dad. Would be too close the knuckle for me!

I'm glad you've found a solution that you're happy with.

Personally I dislike the tradition of a father walking his daughter down the aisle. I prefer the Jewish tradition of both parents doing it together. After all the mother usually does more than the father anyway so if there is a parent who has the right to "give away" their child it's more likely to be the mother.

When I got married I decided to walk down the aisle with DH. It was lovely. I don't have any big issues with my dad (not particularly close but no problems either) but it just didn't feel right to walk with him.