Not to want my baby son to be used to amuse my neighbour's children?

[castille]

Today my neighbour looked after my 14-month-old son for the first time for an hour and a half while I attended an appointment. We arranged it a couple of weeks ago, with a view to making it a regular arrangement. Later on, DH was home with DS and neighbour came round and asked if she could take DS out for a walk. DH thought this a bit of a weird request but let her take him, assuming she and I had agreed it earlier. But the thing is, I am pretty sure she wanted him so that her elder DD could have a "turn" with him after school, because she was jealous that her younger sister (who is home educated) would have had a long play with him when her mum was babysitting. I am really annoyed at the idea of her treating my son like a toy to amuse her children.

Am I overreacting? I'm so cross!

are you worried about his safety?

What's wrong with the other one having a 'turn' anyway? You didn't mind her daughter being amused by him when it was doing you a favour. Girls like babies. I am sure they are aware he is a person.

or jsut being possessive over him?

yabu

is this your first child? i think you are projecting your(understandable) nerves about leaving your son onto your neighbour's behaviour - you wanted it to be very controlled and know exactly what was happening because it's your precious son.
take a step back and understand how lovely it is that young and old want to spend time with your little one. do point out (whilst smiling) that you need your special cuddle/wind down time with him if they want to take him out and you don't want them too.

What a lovely neighbour. Can I borrow her?

I do think its a bit odd though that she would knock and actually ask to take him out if she's already looked after him that day.

My neighbours help me out if I ask them but they dont ask to have my kids.

would it be very unreasonable to start a snappy thread about the farking presciousness (sp? and is there such a term....)
of some mumsnetters

Sorry, I just couldn't help myself

It's quite likely that her older daughter did feel jealous and her mum said 'OK, I'll see if his mum would like us to take him out for a walk and you can play with him'. As the mother of two daughters, I can imagine doing that. And, er, thinking it was quite kind of me to offer to take your lad out again given that most parents are gagging for someone to take their kids off them for a bit.

Actually I've had to re-read your OP to remind myself he's not a small baby, anyway. If he's like most small toddlers he's chuckly and adorable and loooooooooooves other slightly older children going woooglywooglywooogly at him.

I was 16 months old when my brother was born - he WAS my real life doll

Best not make it a regular arrangement, then...

And PMSL at MTPW chasing the postman down the street.

I think babies ARE- among other things - playthings for the amusement of older children! That's how babies learn how to be big kids and big kids learn how to deal with babies. Mind you Win:win!Mind you - only whent ehy are not being playthings for my amusement!

lol Hula you mus tbe like ,my dd1..she is convinced dd2 is her play toy. 12mth age gap means she has a doll MUCH better than the baby annabel I tried to palm off on her..lol

YABU. PMSL at MTPW, it's soo true (except I was like that with my PFB

OK OK, I get the message!

No he's not my PFB, but you'd think so sometimes...

Are y'sure now Castille? Cos we could go on a bit, elaborate, if you need clarification.......

lol at Castille
can we share your neighbour please?
my dd2 is dead cute too, honest

I am trying very hard to empathise here and I am really having to reach, I can tell you

The only thing I can think of is that when ds was little, a friend's dd used to want to feed him all the time. This really annoyed me (unreasonably) as I felt he was not a dolly to be played with. I think this is the same kind of irrational annoyance you are getting.

Oh! Another thought. My mother was always very cross we didn't bring a pram when we came to visit. (we used a sling). She used to want to push him Again, unfair and unreasonable - but drove me mad.

Do these people annoy you in other ways? You don't sound best fond of them.

lol castille...all is not lost then....phew

See I dont agree with the whole 'you'll be desperate to have them taken off your hands' thing. I have 2 and I dont like either of them being taken off me. Not really. ds goes to friends without me sometimes but I miss him. he went to a friends today and I went too! For a chat and a cuppa. dd played with the little one there.

I used to try and put my borther in my doll's pram and try to dress him up in doll's clothes

Oooh you're frighteningly perceptive Franny...

are you being sarky?

I just know this is the kind of thing that would piss me off if I didn't like them. If I liked them unreservedly it probably wouldn't enter my head to be annoyed. Oh actually, I don't know. I think I had better stand over with you in control freak's corner