To be so irritated by poor spelling and vocabulary?

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OK, it could be weeks of lockdown having finally got to me, but when I just read two posts with the phrases, ‘couldn’t get passed,’ (meaning ‘past’) and ‘by her own omission,’ (meaning ‘admission’), I felt compelled to start an AIBU. It’s bad enough reading the FB ‘Your doing great’ and ‘I love you’re new dog’ posts. Oh, ‘their’ much worse at spelling on FB...etc. Yes, in these turbulent times, I know I shouldn’t be wasting my energies on such crap, but sometimes focusing on trivia keeps us sane. So, AIBU? Anyone else as irritated as I am?

A few reasons, the biggest is people just can’t speak properly and the children pick up their parents incorrect use of words.

Second is dyslexia really common.

I too become irritated and sometimes feel I can't read an entire post because of such poor grammar, however some posts are so heartrending it becomes less important. Earlier I was reading an old post in which a person says, "...what he done to me", twice but by the end, I took on board what was said, rather than how.

"Couldn't of", "shouldn't of", "bored of", is pretty awful as is starting many sentences with, "So", occasionally, "OK, so". Another thing I've seen in, "I got given...". The mind boggles! :-)

I've seen an advert for some thing called, "Grammarly", others must have seen it too and I wonder why they don't download it.
www.grammarly.com/?q=grammar&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=search1grammar&utm_content=0&utm_term=&matchtype=&placement=&network=&gclid=CjwKCAjwxLH3BRApEiwAqX9arYrUynZw-nudM1lEefClsuqLdWkva1myyRb97_bNKjxepmER58Lu-hoCx2UQAvD_BwE

We all make typos occasionally and words come out wrong on here. However, in the main I agree with the op.

My son is dyslexic, he is the most intelligent person I know. Can he get that down onto a piece of paper? No. Does it say anything at all about his intellect? No. Does it make you judgemental? Yes.

As for those who just scroll on when they see a grammatical error, I daresay your opinion isnt missed anyway. You're not that important.

Threads like this are just so self congratulatory, they really do bring out the sneery crowd who love having a reason to look down their noses at others.

I would feel the same... If it were my language. On MN I'm limited in vocabulary and grammar and it annoys me .

Autocorrect is the enemy though, it might be bad for you, but mine tries to correct it into my language, given any chance.

That said, it's good practice reading posts here, it took me some time to realize that some posters consequently use 'of' instead of have .

Oh please it’s just a forum, where most people are typing from their phones. I may not have perfect grammar in posts, but any English speaker should be able to understand what I’m saying. It really isn’t that deep, can’t believe it bothers some people so much.

Fair enough if I’m writing up a work report or academic assignment but I’m not?? Just casually posting on a forum

Oh gosh I totally agree. One thing that social media has told me is how bloody poor other people’s spelling and grammar is! I can’t believe my eyes sometimes with the words people get wrong. I saw someone yesterday post ‘She oh’d me money’ really? I never fails to surprise me- I thought my spelling and grammar were bad but over the last few years I’ve had my eyes opened!

GreenTulips Sat 20-Jun-20 00:26:43
A few reasons, the biggest is people just can’t speak properly and the children pick up their parents incorrect use of words.

Second is dyslexia really common.
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Dyslexia is word blindness, dyslexics see letters back to front. I realise there are different degrees of it but it's fairly easy to spot.

As far as children picking up how their parents say things, children go to school (or usually go to school), teachers generally correct poor speech and grammar. Written English is more precise than spoken English.

English is not my first language and I shrug at "should of". My English isn't perfect by far, but come on. Your/you're, their/there/they're and have/not of are just absolute basics.

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult Sat 20-Jun-20 00:27:11
My son is dyslexic, he is the most intelligent person I know. Can he get that down onto a piece of paper? No. Does it say anything at all about his intellect? No. Does it make you judgemental? Yes.
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Dyslexia is a different kettle of fish and dyslexics are people with high IQs.

Dyslexics???

I would love you to mop up my mistakes.

As an adult I would love help with my speaking, spelling and grammar :(

All joking aside though, as I seem to have hit a nerve with PPs - yes, in an ideal world we'd all type perfectly but in the real world it's not usually difficult to understand the point someone is trying to make regardless of their spelling and grammar. I used to be very pedantic about it. I can see how it would affect your opinion of the person, I used to feel the same as a pedant.
However, people are people and we can't police how other people type.
Again, my post was in jest.
There's no reason to look down on someone who doesn't type out a perfectly spelled flawless grammatical response or post.
I've always been very good at those things but severely lack other skills that would seem commonplace to anyone else.
I learnt very quickly as a child that although I could spell a word, having read it, I couldn't pronounce it. Or realise the meaning of it without further investigation.

Some people aren’t great at expressing themselves in writing and make mistakes, it happens. I don’t really take it personally. My grammar isn’t always perfect either.

I’m more annoyed by those who seem to think being a pedant and gleefully correcting other people’s errors is some sort of personality. Dreadfully dull human beings in my experience of them.

You can chose to disengage, if you would disengage in speech, crack on.

I had a pretty piss poor education and so my spelling and grammar is also poor, but I do try to make sure that posts make sense, and spellcheck helps me out often.

Whilst it certainly not nice to belittle people, I do find it helpful when people point out and make corrections as I do actually learn from them.

I had a boss a while back who would always write 'alot' in his emails, that used to drive me potty.

I hate the new trend on here of missing "to be." I keep seeing posts like, "It needs sorted," or "She needs told," and I HATE IT.

Is anybody seeing that on other sites/social media? So far I've only noticed it on MN...

@AnyOneThere123 try books for people with english as a second language. They are often aimed at adults but explain things, especially tenses, in simple terms and with lots of examples.

@AnnaBanana333 'I'm going Sainsbos!'

"To which" is also often misused but 🤷🏻‍♀️

I've started to think that maybe I'm the one who can't spell. My Facebook feed is full of "rediculous" and "defiantly". As in "defiantly contact your local MP" etc

@AriettyHomily YOU NEED TOLD

Following this thread, I think you need to change your username OP .

'I'm going Sainsbos!'
A prison is where they are going for this😂

Hmm. I'm a professional copyeditor and proofreader. While I notice spelling and grammar errors, I try to read past them. The message posters are trying to get across is more important than their spelling. Focusing on the latter makes you look a bit of a dick.

I don't correct SPaG unless I'm being paid to!

If you're sure you have a good enough grasp of English, have you thought about volunteering at your local council's Adult Basic Education department to teach adults how to improve their written English? Put your money where your mouth is!

I don’t get why it grates ? You are lucky to be educated to the standard that means you can spell and have grammar