AIBU to ask if there is anything you wish you could have done differently before having children?

[jumpingjenn3h]

Hoping to TTC with my fiance in 2022 and just wondered if there is anything you would you could have done differently or wish you would have known before having dc?

I am 30 so trying to strike the balance between having security and feeling in the right place financially, with our jobs and in a house we are ready to bring children up in - and not leaving it too long incase we struggle with any infertility issues. We have a big holiday planned next year for a very special occasion (would be outing to elaborate but family related)! So hoping to the following year!

I would love to know your thoughts/ experiences/ wisdom!

[Enterthedragons]

I’m still a bit shocked at the poster who said they left their 6 month old baby outside a party with the random bouncers!!

I totally agree that getting anything done with the house is an impossibility for a while so try to sort that first. (That being said our baby-proofed house with crayon on the walls and drink stains on the carpet is not our forever home. I want to start afresh when the kids are older and hopefully less messy!)

[ECBC]

More holidays, read more books, had more sex-for-the-sake-of-sex and not sex-because-I-want-a-baby-sex. Enjoyed my evenings doing whatever I wanted, enjoyed the opportunity to be spontaneous ☺️

[LadyCassandra]

Some really good advice here. I would add that you can do everything in the “right” order: marriage, house, career, etc and it can all still turn out differently.
My main thing I would add is to make sure you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to parenting. We are are on opposite ends of a spectrum when it comes to discipline and other issues, mainly due to our own upbringing, and it’s caused a lot of issues.

[WhiteCat1704]

Get married and have an amazing honeymoon.
We got married after and it was more of a formality then. No chance of a great, long honeymoon with a young child..even if you have grandparents/childcare you will just worry about the child.
Do it while childless and relatively carefree.