Long relationships a thing of the past???

[Marianne22]

Long as in meet as teens / early 20s until 70s / 80s?

Do people still want the engagement wedding house kids.

My grandparents were married over 60 years.

My parents split when I was 16 probably together 20 years)

Time will tell me and DH have been together 13.

I think with Instagram and Snapchat plus dating apps their are so many opportunities to meet people.

Ive only been with my husband for six years, married for almost 3, but I hope it’s for the long haul! We’ve had the engagement and wedding, we’ve got the house and kids, now it’s just about enjoying our lives together and raising our family! So far so good 🤞 😂 we were 19 and 20 when we met!

I think people still want it but are less inclined to stay in unhappy and abusive relationshipa which can only be a good thing.

Maybe.

But being with someone for 60 years because you had no opportunities to meet other people is tragic.

Not fair on either person.

I’ve been with DH 20 years, married for 7 years. Met when I was 17 and he was 19. Don’t see us splitting any time soon.

There not Their sorry

I think that even though it obviously happens for some couples, for most it's utterly unrealistic to fancy someone in your twenties, marry them, go through the whole hard work of raising children, and still want to be together in your sixties. Most just don't. Some split, some stay together even though they're miserable. My ex and I are getting divorced mostly because our relationship has just run its course. And that's fine.

I've been with my husband for 13 years next month.
Met at 16 and got together, brief split at 18 when we were finding our feet after leaving college (about 4/5 months ish)
Been married 4 years this year. One son and one daughter on the way.
Still very much happy at this stage and like to think it's forever
For me personally, I really couldn't be bothered with meeting anyone new anymore haha

I’ve been with my DH since we were teenagers at 16/18, so 11 years and married for the last 3 years and expecting first together next year.
I hope we last forever.

My sister, who's very happily single in her forties, and has been for a decade; says if she ever marries someone she won't say 'I'll love you forever' (or whatever it is) because that's an absurd thing to promise.

I’m in my 50s and have been with my partner since my teens. It’s one of the very very satisfying and good parts of my life and I expect to be with him till the end.

Been with my husband 14 years. 2 dc. We are now both early 30s.
We have a good relationship and get on v well most of the time and we're both family orientated. But somehow I just cant see us still together at 60. I feel like at some point along the line he'll get bored

DH and I met when I was 21 and he was 20, and we've been together 12 years now. During that time we've done engagement, marriage, kid and house in that order.

I can't see us splitting up any time soon, and I think we are both dedicated to our relationship partly because both of us come from families that have suffered their fair share of upheavals and heartaches, and separations and bereavements. I try to actively work on our relationship and not let things fester or build up, and so does he.

That said, I like to think that I would be out the door as soon as there was any infidelity or violence. I consider those absolute deal breakers. In the past I think people put up with them more, often because I don't think they felt they had much of a choice financially/socially - that's true of previous generations in my family, anyway.

DH and I have been together 25 years, my parents were married for over 40 years, DH's parents for over 50 years (both widowed rather divorced). The vast majority of our friends have been together over 20 years, at work the majority of my colleagues (of similar age to me - I'm 50) have been with their spouse for over 20 years. We're all educated and have moved about the country in our 20s and married at about 30. I don't think it's that unusual but maybe it depends on the circles you move in.

I’m in it for the long haul with mine. Met him at university, got married, bought a house, baby on the way. He makes my life better in every possible way and I simply can’t imagine how I could leave him (or be left) and still be happy.

But I think, generally, it’s a good thing if relationships end because they’re unhappy. It’s awful for people to feel stuck in bad relationships.

im long term

been together nearly 21 years,meet at 17 and 18,both have never been woth anyone lese relationship wise or sexually

we have 2 kids

ive never been intrested in marriage as i dont believe in it and we are also atheists so theres no need for us

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God I’m glad I’m not still with my boyfriend I had when I was 18

I’m a completely different person to who I was back then -after uni I went off travelling on my own - he didn’t want come!

I became super independent, got my life together and met my now husband at 25! We only got married in a casual ceremony last year after 8 years together , no big hotel or tradition involved - just a fun party!

I know very few divorced people so I guess for me I do expect marriages to last.

I guess meeting so young is less common these days.

Problem is, mumsnet is predominately mums. Of children . So, couples who have been together twenty maybe twenty five years so far. As most above. The op was talking about whether relationships can last 60 years happily. There's not going to be many people on here who can respond to that yet.

I hope not. DP I have been together 26 years and we hope for many more!

We have been married 40 years. I was 25 when we married and DH 23. We are very happy and still very much in love.

My parents have been married 68 years and are very happy. One of my siblings has been married 37 years and the other 38 years. Both happy, both first marriages

There are very few divorces in my family. I have 6 cousins and 1 is divorced but the others are all still married, the shortest being 25 years and the longest 32 years. All first marriages

Personally I don’t think it’s healthy to be with only one person from age 16 to 80. Of course there are exceptions but generally , we change SO much from age 16 to 30 that what you want in your teen years is often very different to what you want from a relationship in your 30s. I know so many couples who divorced in their 30s after getting together very young because they just became different people as they matured.

I think it’s healthy to date a bit before you settle down. Gives you an idea of exactly what you want and don’t want.

Been together with DH 14 years, married for 10. Fully expect to be together another 40 or 50 years, or longer if we live that long!

My mum & dad met at 17, married at 19 & still together at 65.
Dp & I have been together 17 years, I’m not planning to get rid of him yet!

Most human relationships are transient. That's not a bad thing in and of itself, whereas clinging on to a relationship that's run its course or staying in an abusive situation is unhealthy.

Think of all the relationships you form in a lifetime - some are fleeting, some last years; some are deep, some are superficial. They all bring something different to your life; that doesn't leave you just because their physical presence is no longer part of your life.

Nobody complains that people don't maintain relationships with every single person they've ever met or connected with or worked with or spent time with ... So why moan that people know when it's time to move on from an intimate partner?

Unless seeing other people move on makes you feel insecure about the stability of your own relationship?