Breastfeeding in public

[Forgivenandsetfree]

Inspired by a comment I have seen on Facebook.
I breastfed until 22 months, towards the end I didn't feed in public because of course she was eating by then but when she was small I did. Luckily I never had an issue and was treated well in my local Macdonalds and Costa, but the comment said most people have issues with Bf in public, aibu to think this isn't true?
YABU- I faced issues/I don't like it.
YNBU- I don't/ didn't have a problem.

Ps my 2nd baby (bf til 2.5yo slept much better than my 1st bf for 6 weeks baby)

Why are we holding toddlers to bizarre standards based on strict ‘need’?

Exactly. Is a toddler's need for breast milk greater than a bottle feeding mother's need to not feel slightly guilty? (Which is what this argument boils down to). I would suggest the bottle feeding mother needs to come to terms with things. Or at least, decide whether her "need " for coffee and cake is greater than her need to avoid being reminded that others breastfeed successfully. It's understandable that some mothers feel sad that they didn't breastfeed. But lashing out at others is not the answer.

You're on all these threads ranting and raving and getting so worked up 😂 just because people in public might not want to see your boobs

First of all my bfing days are long behind me.

Second of all, I couldn’t care less what misogynists ‘want’. Their views don’t concern me. Bfing women have the right to feed, regardless of what anyone else ‘wants’.

@Wolfgirrl, you clearly have issues if you find breastfeeding in public is comparable to pissing in a bottle.

That being said, it is recommended that milk in any form remains part of a toddlers diet so they do need it. And breastmilk does continue to have benefits for as long as it's given, don't be ridiculous by saying it doesn't.

@LaurieMarlow As mentioned before as sad as it’s I always find the same mns who hate loads bf in the bf related threads trying to lecture others why they’re doing their parenting wrong. They must not have a life or a child to take care of.

@SnackSizeRaisin oooooh back to the patronising guilt thing again how do you reconcile PP whose mum didnt like public bfing even though she fed her kids until they were 3?

@EasterIssland

But you and Laurie are always on here! Laurie to rant and rave and shout at everyone, and you to pat yourself on the back.

I'm here to show you can bf successfully without becoming a lunatic, or feeling you have to do it til they're 2 'because the WHO say so'

you clearly have issues if you find breastfeeding in public is comparable to pissing in a bottle.

Yup. Therapist urgently required.

@Wolfgirrl

I think you need a therapist, you're raging!

I don't know which of your posts on this thread demonstrates the least self-awareness, but this one is definitely a top contender. You have horrible, overwhelming issues related to boobs and feeding and what other people choose to do/find best for their own circumstances. It absolutely is not normal, especially when I hear other posters saying you are apparently drawn to these threads like a moth to a flame. I am being serious when I say I feel a bit sorry for you, because I couldn't live with such a huge investment in how long other people breastfeed for, or such a viscerally strong reaction to someone breastfeeding a child who's a bit older than a babe in arms. It sounds like a truly wretched existence.

Women are not going to stop doing what's best for them and their children just because of your feelings, or your frankly abnormal reaction to seeing it. So you are honestly going to have to either get therapy to help yourself, or just learn to look at something else. And do look up the difference between feeding a baby and pissing in a bottle.

I never had any issues, but then if people were staring or giving a funny look I wouldn't have noticed.

Lordy, such an essay! Why bother going on threads if not to discuss things? Do you just want an echo chamber?

Here we go the classic infant feeding debate, don't worry about it peeps life goes on

you are apparently drawn to these threads like a moth to a flame

Yep. Me, Laurie and Easter. We are like 3 dysfunctional breastfeeding musketeers!

But you and Laurie are always on here!

Don’t forget yourself! Posting the bizarre arguments and snide judgement.

Where would we be without you?

I also enjoy how you’re trying to police anger. Another misogynistic ruse. Nice women don’t get angry and all that. I’ll express whatever emotions I like.

@Raaaa it does! I sang that in my head btw 😂

Where would we be without you?

Probably bored I would say!

You don't stop bottle feeding or breastfeeding at one

YOU might not, many do. Ask nurseries...

Why would you ask nurseries? My DS goes to a childminder and has never had a bottle there - but he still has a bottle of milk in the morning before he goes. If I was still breastfeeding I would have continued to do so morning or evening. It’s got nothing to do with the childcare setting what you feed your kids at home, they won’t have any information on that. My childminder has never asked me whether he still drinks from a bottle at home, why would she? So it would be no use asking her about my DS’s milk drinking habits...

@Wolfgirrl I’m here cuz the op has asked about public bf and whether we’ve had negative comments. Also other times it’s been ops upset cuz they’re feeding their kids and someone has said a bad comment. I don’t need pats. I really don’t care about them I don’t what it’s right for my child. If you read my other comment he’s also been Ff when I went back to work and I didn’t have enough supply to provide for a full day without him. My motto is do whatever is fine for you and your family and stop lecturing on what others do. I speak about my experience not about the rests. Unlike you who always comes to remind us that those bf past 3m are wrong cuz that’s what you’re read and how those of us that bf past 3m are doing it to show our boobs to the world.

Btw. Is it allowed by law to piss in a bottle In public ? Or would you be In trouble ?

@Wolfgirrl

Bf babies are also terrible sleepers.

Well there you go, then, breastfeeding mothers are all being rightly punished for their sins with the torment of sleep deprivation and bad settling at nursery and all the other stuff! You, on the other hand, did it all perfectly and received your just reward! So what's the issue?

@EasterIssland yes and I am partaking in the discussion as I bf in public for 5 months and also have my own opinion isnt it refreshing to hear something other than WHO stats?

@ShebaShimmyShake agreed.

@Wolfgirrl seriously, please don't pass your misogynistic views about breasts onto your children, it's not healthy.

@ShebaShimmyShake

Just trying to help others I guess. Misery loves company on these threads!

Squirrel equally I hope you dont pass on your bf neurosis

Having ripped through "I'm scared of boobs" to "it's like pissing in a bottle", Wolf is now reduced to "hur hur you're arguing on the internet", and now the only thing offending me is the lack of effort.

and now the only thing offending me is the lack of effort.