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Are you Serious?!

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Needaripeavocado · 16/06/2020 12:20

AIBU to think society is alot more serious than we used to be?? I know there are serious events that are to be taken seriously of course like the racism and pandemic, deaths etc, this is not what im talking about. People just in general about everyday life seem alot more laid back about everything 20 odd years ago.. everything was abit more achievable, everyone abit more friendly, less judgement,being less competitive with others.. or maybe ive just noticed it more in recent times and its always been that way

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Needaripeavocado · 16/06/2020 16:55

whats up with the thread?

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PrettyTricky · 16/06/2020 16:56

YANBU, we're all woke and offended by everything now. It's tiresome.

buenavistabelle · 16/06/2020 17:02

YANBU - I meet a lot of people who seem to have zero sense of humour. Some people who I've never seen laugh or even smile. I don't know how they get through life like this to be honest.

TheVanguardSix · 16/06/2020 17:05

I hear you, OP. Loud and clear.
Everyone's expectations of each other are impossible to meet. It's exhausting. Being human is exhausting. People put such demands on each other. You're either a person's problem or solution, depending on the day's mood.

Angelonia · 16/06/2020 17:08

I disagree! Yes of course there are lots of serious issues around. But we had friends over at the weekend and had just as much of a laugh as ever - lots of fun and jokes (although we did discuss the pandemic and BLM too).

CHIRIBAYA · 16/06/2020 17:09

Agree totally, we all take ourselves far too seriously and humour gets us through so much. Some people don't realise it is possible to watch some of the recent shows that have been culled and be a decent human being. I consider myself a feminist but Millie Tant in Viz was ace, so funny.

AnnaNimmity · 16/06/2020 17:20

Mumsnet has become overrun with exceptionally angry, offended, judgmental, nosy people. It didn't used to be like that.

But maybe you're right, and this is a reflection of society. It isn't a reflection of my real life friends or acquaintances though.

TabbyMumz · 16/06/2020 17:23

I think a lot of people think they can run the country, rather than just being satisfied that others are paid to do it.

VioletCharlotte · 16/06/2020 17:23

Totally. I was thinking back the other day to how much easier things were on the 90's.

However, many things have got better. I think back to how sexual harrassment was rife back then, although it still exists, it's less blatant than it was. Ditto rascism.

Social media has a lot to answer for. It's good in that it give people a voice, but it also means that people are hyper aware and so quick to judge.

Anniegetyourgun · 16/06/2020 17:25

@TabbyMumz

I think a lot of people think they can run the country, rather than just being satisfied that others are paid to do it.
It's known as democracy. It's not a new thing.
Al1Langdownthecleghole · 16/06/2020 17:30

Outside of social media the world is a lot less angry.

UnfinishedSymphon · 16/06/2020 17:30

I totally agree OP, I see it a lot on here as well from the professionally offended and the nastiness that appears from a number of posters.

I just want to tell them all to lighten the fuck up but I'll expect that wouldn't go down well either, I just remove myself from the threads now and rant to myself

Imissmoominmama · 16/06/2020 17:31

I’m not satisfied with those who are being paid to run the country!

Redroses27 · 16/06/2020 17:39

It's an age thing, I think. Not just millenials but most people born after 1985 has no sense of humour. It makes me realise that Im a different generation.

Malbecqueen · 16/06/2020 17:40

This sounds like you're harking back to the nostalgic good old days where we all tipped our hat to the local lord before sending our firstborn up a chimney to make sure it was nice and clean and we were grateful for the opportunity...

simonisnotme · 16/06/2020 17:43

yanbu
social media and 24hr news has got a lot to answer for

ragged · 16/06/2020 17:44

sense of humour bypass, for sure

SchrodingersImmigrant · 16/06/2020 17:46

YANBU i took a piss out of myself once and was told I am fatphobic🙄
It was MY OWN fat I was joking about and if I can't joke about part of my body, then wtf can I do...

SchrodingersImmigrant · 16/06/2020 17:47

People just have no sense of humour anymore.

Goosefoot · 16/06/2020 17:47

I kind of agree that the younger generation seems to have no real humour nor ability to laugh at themselves. I particularly notice a lack of sensitivity to irony. They react to it as if it were meant in a direct way.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 16/06/2020 17:48

@Redroses27 ime it's 1990+. We just below are actually walking around with raised eyebrows wondering what's happening most of the time😂

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Needaripeavocado · 16/06/2020 17:48

@VioletCharlotte

Totally. I was thinking back the other day to how much easier things were on the 90's.

However, many things have got better. I think back to how sexual harrassment was rife back then, although it still exists, it's less blatant than it was. Ditto rascism.

Social media has a lot to answer for. It's good in that it give people a voice, but it also means that people are hyper aware and so quick to judge.

think you are right about social media .. i think its quite unhealthy to be honest, feels like everyone must aspire to each other on fb or whatever and not allowed to be individual.. still believe it is none of anyone elses buisiness what people do as long as they arent hurting anyone, why cant everyone just be nice and talk small talk about each others shoulder pads like it used to be not slagging someone off because x y or z or finding something anything to pick at just because... id be quite happy if a bomb come down and blew up the whole internet system and we had to go back to talking in person, writing letters or talking on the landline, i am sure if that happened society would be a game changer, i am an old fashioned girl
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SchrodingersImmigrant · 16/06/2020 17:51

id be quite happy if a bomb come down and blew up the whole internet system and we had to go back to talking in person, writing letters or talking on the landline, i am sure if that happened society would be a game changer, i am an old fashioned girl

But... Cats of Instagram😳

Orangeblossom78 · 16/06/2020 17:53

I think it may have come about through social media use also, not sure though. I studied environmental science in the 1990s and we were serious also. But we also took the piss out of each other and didn't take everything so seriously.

Iwalkinmyclothing · 16/06/2020 17:54

20 years ago my life was less serious, I was young, single, at uni, no real responsibilities or worries. Of course I am more serious now than I was then, I am older, with children, a career, money and health worries and all the shite that is going on in the world.

This whole " no one has a sense of humour any more" is odd; there is plenty of humour around, comedians are hardly extinct, half the internet is about having a laugh. You sound like an old person complaining that it's political correctness gone mad not to bust a gut laughing at Roy Chubby Brown telling jokes about fat women's fannies and your uncle Keith pretending he couldn't see his black neighbour in the dark ha ha. The younger generation are laughing- just not at the same things as you. They'd probably laugh at this thread tbh.