Are you Serious?!

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AIBU to think society is alot more serious than we used to be?? I know there are serious events that are to be taken seriously of course like the racism and pandemic, deaths etc, this is not what im talking about. People just in general about everyday life seem alot more laid back about everything 20 odd years ago.. everything was abit more achievable, everyone abit more friendly, less judgement,being less competitive with others.. or maybe ive just noticed it more in recent times and its always been that way

Gosh, people. Make your SM less stressful. They should be fun😁
Mine are full of flowers, bees, animals and... Cats.
Happy place😁

I don't know, some people do seem to be quite humourless these days but I guess it's just a different type of humour? When all the memes were going around at the start of lockdown (those memes were what got me through those first couple of weeks) I saw people moaning about 'fat phobic' memes about gaining weight during lockdown. Shit like that I just can't get on board with.

Young people seem so serious these days as well, and even 'having a laugh' has to be photographed and posted on fucking Instagram.

We were watching that Big Brother reminiscing show last night and 2006 really did seem like a simpler time. But then I think about things that were going on, the sexism, the racism, the homophobia, the child abuse (I know these things still go on by the way) and wonder if things maybe are better now? But it feels like there is this pressure to be perfect these days, not just in how you look, but your thoughts, your beliefs, you can never put a foot wrong - I think it's called purity spirals? It must be exhausting growing up with this though?!

I don't know, maybe I'm turning into my mother in law!

But then I think about things that were going on, the sexism, the racism, the homophobia, the child abuse (I know these things still go on by the way) and wonder if things maybe are better now?

I think it's just more behind closed doors.

It has become very competitive, especially for children and teens. They are constantly monitored, graded and compared to each other. And they aren't encouraged to do stuff for the sheer fun of it any longer. If it can't be documented on a mini CV or a social media post, it's hardly worth doing.

In my day, there was time to mooch and daydream.

I definitely have noticed much more vocal division, people seem to be emboldened by SM to behave in ways they would not have done before, anger if others disagree, not attempt whatsoever to see the other side of the argument. It is a new thing, back in my day we were actively encouraged to embrace different views, reconsider our own entrenchment, question our feelings and motivations.

Critical thinking seems to have gone out of the window, along with being reasonable, considered, mindful of others and understanding your view is not 'the truth' but just that: a view.

And everyone is so quick to take offence!! Really the art of jolly humour is dying. A well timed joke in times of darkness is the biggest release you will ever find, that and the stress relief of a good belly laugh.

I blame tv talent shows. We have now become a nation of judges.

Far too many people now seem to feel entitled to sit in judgement and openly criticise everything and everybody else.

Isn't it just that your 20 years older? Most people are more serious at 40 than 20.

@merry but it’s now the other way round!

I find many young people in their 20s intolerant, judgemental and painfully woke. Hopefully they’ll chill out before they hit 40.

Isn't it just that your 20 years older? Most people are more serious at 40 than 20

Yep. I was going to ask how old you are op.

My life was way less serious 20 years ago, my mothers was not. Conversely she is now at an age where she lets it all blow over her head but I’m now at the age she was 21 years ago.

Democracy is having the right to vote them in, in the first place....not voting them in then making out you can do it instead. That's called moaning.

I'm stealing this.

I agree with pps saying it to do with age. I was carefree 20 years ago. Now I'm married and have dc. Things change, and I am more serious about everything. Someone's life depend on me.

I am guilty of this kind of thing myself OP. For example my previous post about the clapping came from frustration at what I felt was hypocrisy at the situation the NHS was in. Back in the 40's it would have probably appeared to have been taken in good grace.

However I will point out that "back in the day" nobody had a platform to air their grievances as wide reaching as the internet minus the media (radio and TV etc), who were the narrative for everything and could spin such things as good or bad as they wished.. So you would hear about how good the BBC thought X event was but not how Bob from Leicester or even Margaret from Australia viewed it.

I hope that makes sense.

I kind of know what you mean. Earlier I shared a meme on a face book group, about the statues fighting back, loads of people thought it funny and quite a few shared. Then along came someone who told me in no uncertain terms that this was no time to be joking things were all too serious for that! I tried to reply and was blocked! Then they got my little bit of fun removed!!! Often then things are bad we joke about it to get us through, nothing wrong with that. The meme was in no way offensive so I'm just at a loss.

A lot of humour is virtually banned now, or at least frowned upon.

I'm bi but I think the humour police are a bunch of {insert homophobic insults here.}

Yanbu. I find humour and humility to be sadly lacking these days. So many people seem self-obsessed, narcissistic, focussed on their own "identity". Social media I guess.

It also seems to me that there's a generation that's always whining and everything 'triggers' a lot of them. If we had to fight WWII now they'd be surrender monkeys who all fell apart afterwards.

Some people have PTSD and that's fair enough, but there are a lot of whiny leftie millenials who don't have any reason to have PTSD and don't have it, they just don't have a spine.

There is that saying that bad times breed strong people, strong people breed good times, good times breed weak people, weak people breed bad times.

It also seems to me that there's a generation that's always whining and everything 'triggers' a lot of them. If we had to fight WWII now they'd be surrender monkeys who all fell apart afterwards

What a pile of utter horseshit.

Go look at footage of WWI soldiers shaking involuntarily thanks to 'shellshock' if you think people from previous era were somehow 'harder' or not affected by psychological trauma.

People today are no physiologically different to their forebears. To imply that they'd be incapable of defending themselves in a war of eradication is total nonsense. I assume you consider French, Dutch, Belgian, Danish, Norwegian, Polish, Czech, Ukranian, Belorussian, Latvian, Estonian, Lithuanian, and Hungarian people to always have been historically inferior because they were steamrollered by the Nazis, yet our 'golden' generation defeated them?

Here's a hint. The UK survived because of the Channel and the Royal Navy. The Nazis kicked the British Army's arse just as hard as anyone else in 1940.

Listen to yourself for fucks sake...

I believe the cheerful folk have all but left social media. Sick of reading whinny posts, sick of being abused or belittled by entitled sods. Sick of being accused of discrimination or not being pc enough. Sick of the attention seeking.

And some admin on some community pages leave a lot to be desired too in allowing attacking posts to remain on what are supposed to be community forums where posts are meant to be informative, helpful and of benefit to the greater community.

How many posts do you see where the poster finds the time to complain and post photos on platforms such as fb but hasn’t the time to make a complaint the police...

@expat101 ignore people on SM😁 paintings and animals don't judge! Well the cats do, but it's not the same😁

Tend to agree with you OP, sadly. Things seem so boring now.
Makes me grateful that I went to uni in the halcyon days of no tuition fees. I remember days and nights drinking in the student bars and clubs -it was such fun, best years ever. I feel sorry for the students who live in the halls near me who don't seem to have any fun whatsoever. They all look so serious and miserable. Lack of money plays a huge part. There's nothing to do other than social media and people need a purpose.

i agree op-if youre not offended byu something these days youre weird thats how i intepret it-chill out ffs