My husband had an affair with a woman at work. I found out about it in January...I decided to try and move on and we have made a lot of progress...big changes in communication and I have accepted that it is not reasonable financially for him to leave without finding another job, and then lockdown happened which made that a little bit less of an issue because of working from home.
I used his phone tonight, with his permission to enter my card datails for a purchase... and a notification for a group message came up ...it was a work group, and it was her picture with a response to another group member.
I just feel so stuck, he is in that group. I got very upset and he showed me the group chat, he has responded once or twice to others specifically, there is nothing untoward but i can’t help feeling how on earth I am supposed to heal when notifications are popping up on his phone from her, albeit not directly to him. I know it’s all about trust and actually I do trust him now ironically but I feel like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place. I want to make things work, but it is so triggering seeing that. It is a group chat and he is not talking directly to her in it. I feel lost 😞