Neighbours and Weed

[Pewwhatasmell]

NC.

We had new neighbours move in about a month ago. Very young couple, 22 max, 2 kids. It's their first house, he works shifts, and you can tell they're still finding their way in life. Ok to chat to. That's the good bits.

They are very vocal, argue a lot, the kids are screaming around 18 hours of the day. We are already pretty fed up with them but keep reminding ourselves that these are strange times and it may get better after lockdown. We're also both quite avoidant to confrontation.

They quite obviously smoke weed, and a lot of it. The man put a chair half way down our garden to smoke it during the day (facing towards our decking / seating area which was previously quite private), but at night smokes indoors. The smell is permeating through our walls and into our house (we're both mid terrace). I used to smoke weed and am fairly non judgemental about it, but my house fucking stinks. Plus knowing they have a toddler and a baby indoors, it makes me very uneasy.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? DP has offered to have a quite chat which I hope will help, but I'm not sure. I think we should report to SS due to the children, DP concerned that they will immediately know it's us and could lash out.

I suffer quite badly from anxiety and am often torn about what to do in difficult situations, hence reaching out to MN. If anyone has been in a similar situation would be keen to hear your solutions.

You can’t be a drug taker and a good parent
But I guess a glass of wine in the evening is fine, yes?

I think someone who peddles half truths and blind conformity to be not capable of being a good parent, but hey ho, each to their own.

To the nurse: how’s A&E on an average Friday night in a U.K. hospital? Full of stoners?

The many poor homeless I see on the way to work are alcoholics.

There seemed to be beer fuelled Neanderthals in our capital this weekend too, fighting the police.

Could you explain why alcohol in society is ok, and weed is not? I’d be surprised if you could give a coherent answer

Could you explain why alcohol in society is ok, and weed is not?

Maybe because one is illegal and one isn't?

@Pewwhatasmell, sorry I didn't mean to add to your anxiety.
I will say though that I quit smoking exactly a year ago after MN put me to shame for smoking on my downstairs balcony. It honestly never occurred to me that it would travel to the upstairs flat (they have a toddler ). Never crossed my mind that opening windows would be a a problem for them. Stupid, I know.
They never complained and they were always polite, but when I did quit smoking, I couldn't wait to tell them (it was my way of staying quit) and they could totally smell it.

Maybe because one is illegal and one isn't?

So if the law were to change, your stance would shift, no?

@Lonelycrab, I would love for weed to be legalised just for the extra revenue alone but it won't stop people from complaining about smoking - they just won't be able to threaten you with the police etc.

@Doing yes the revenue will come in handy and disarm a huge criminal element too so it’s a no brainier for me; look at a lot of countries and see the direction, that’s what intrigues me about the pearl clutching breaking the law drugs mmmkay bad people.

To subject kids to smoke in the house is always wrong of course. But that is beyond the power of SS or anyone really.

I'm a very loving mother actually, put my child before myself and meet all their needs. Don't dish it out if you can't take it, you started with the bitchy comments not me.

Exactly @heartsonacake you can't be there meeting all their needs if you're off your face so you can't look after them properly. Not difficult to understand.

I sympathise - hate the smell of weed - notice it in our local park walking the dog in the evenings , in Hyde Park and the guy upstairs and some neighbours nearby - grrr

You're changing the subject by asking about alcohol and I don't work in A and E. Neither is any good to be under the influence of when caring for children, which I have already said in a previous comment.

Why are you all jumping on me to stick up for parents who quite frankly aren't looking after their kids properly? Do you think it's cool to smoke around children? Do you think they're capable of watching them and making sure they don't pour a kettle over themselves or something? Then they'll be in A and E won't they. You always get butch women on MN sticking up for bad parenting. I'm a horrid parent for stating facts which is smoking weed slows your reflexes , bodies responses etc which isn't good when you're around children? I would be more worried about parents who think it's normal and safe ya mentalists

Bitchy not butch*

So if the law were to change, your stance would shift, no?

Erm yes, it would. I would have exactly the same opinion of it as I do alcohol. Fine to be consumed moderately but certainly not when in charge of children.

But the law hasn't changed has it? It's still illegal. People can dress it up all they like, with their 'well everyone I know who smokes it is a super successful professional!' but at the end of the day, all of these fine upstanding pillars of the community that you know are breaking the law.

But I guess a glass of wine in the evening is fine, yes?

Lonelycrab No, I don’t think it is. I think alcohol should be illegal, but it’s so embedded in our society as “normal” that unfortunately that isn’t going to happen.

Erm yes, it would

That doesn’t show much substance imo.

That doesn’t show much substance imo

Perhaps because you only pasted the first four words of my response?

No it’s because to blindly follow the letter of the law as some sort of perfection is actually quite a shallow aspect to show. Laws change, they always have.

How’s tax evasion? Hint: looking better by the day

@heartsonacake, sorry for the late response (lock down has taken a toll on my body clock) but in reference to the alcohol being legal means that the revenue gets to the right place and not in the hands of dealers /bootleggers.
Currently the NHS treats all ailments relating to poor lifestyle choices, such as cigarette smoking, alcohol drinking and diabetes etc, but we can tax those. We are not getting any revenue for illegal drugs, NHS still treats addicts and people will still take drugs if they are that way inclined - so we should legalise and tax.

Lemon and Thisshit you are getting defensive. My ex, who I was with for 9 years, took week like no other. It stunk, his room smelt of it, his eyes were red, his mood was variable, paranoid as fuck and trust me, you know when someone takes weed, it's just that people won't say it to your face!
....and the old line "I know so and so who smokes weed and they are a successful lawyer, doctor, business man".

Who the fuck cares? Their success does not gloss over the fact that weed is disgusting. There are many successful people who take crack and cocaine...they may be good at what they do, but their drug habits makes me think they have little regards to their own mental health , physical health, and being a good role model for their children.

I think a nurse has every right to be judgemental, they see the detrimental effects of people's life style choices and heck yeah, I would judge too, I know several people where weed has fucked up their minds.

Sorry Lemon my post was not directed at you.

@buildingbridge exactly, I only judge bad parenting when it can result in burns, death etc which I have seen as a result of poor parenting. I never said they were shit people just that I can always tell. I know a successful photographer but he smokes every day, can't speak to his family when he gets home until he's had that spliff. His mental health is shocking. You can't deny the mental health affects, I know 3 people who have had psychosis and anxiety because of weed. Like I said it literally kills brain cells. They don't re generate you know! I admit I got defensive in response to the bitchy patronising responses I got from women who like to jump on bothers on MN cos they don't have much else going on. I don't have to put up with peoples shit outside of work

I know three people who haven't had psychosis and anxiety because of weed. So what? And I don't see how it can be 'disgusting', it's a plant for god's sake. And as to all drugs killing brain cells, is it just the illegal ones, or are you including paracetamol/alcohol/caffeine/epinephrine/estradiol/insulin? It doesn't make any sense.

@muminmama As recreational marijuana use becomes legalized throughout the US, many people now wonder howmarijuanaaffects the brain and whether or not it kills brain cells. Just as years of heavyalcohol,meth, andheroinuse can cause some irreversible brain damage, prolonged marijuana abuse can affect the ability of brain cells to convey messages (also known as brain activity). Using marijuana can cause damage to brain cells that results in a number of concurrent symptoms throughout the body.

Like other drugs, components of marijuana bind with specific receptors in the brain. Tetrahydrocannabinol (THC) is marijuana’s primary psychoactive ingredient, and it attaches to the brain’s cannabinoid receptors (officially known as cannabinoid receptor type 1 or CB1). These receptors connect to nerves in the brain function which govern memory, appetite, pain regulation, and mood.

When a personsmokes marijuana, they may notice they struggle with staying focused or recalling important details. This can worsen with prolonged marijuana use, resulting in problems like poor memory and concentration. Motor skills can also be affected by the drug. If someone decides to drive while high, they can endanger their lives and the lives of others.

What doesn't make sense to you? Paracetamol is a pain killer, it affects the brain receptors in your brain but it doesn't cause brain damage. Please educate yourself before chiming in. I'm speaking from a scientifically proven point of you, not only anecdotes.