Who else is the breadwinner here?

[lunepremiere79]

No aibu, just posting for traffic here. For background, DH used to be a high earner for the first 9 years of our relationship. Got made redundant last year and has been searching for jobs ever since. Now with the lockdown and the aftermath chances of finding something are very slim. I went back to work full time after maternity and he is a stay at home dad for now but looks like this might become a longer term arrangement. We'll be ok on my salary, but wanted to hear from others who might have been in the same situation - how did it work out for you? Any words of advice?

I was whilst now ex-DH was supposedly a stay at home dad

I'm now a single, full time, resident, working parent with no financial emotional or physical support from my children's father.

I found it incredibly stressful as I was working full time, doing all the life admin, the vast majority or the house work and childcare (although he did sometimes put a load on FOR me!) -the minute I walked in the front door I was on duty and being nagged about what was for tea and how long was it going to take!
I literally did not have a moment to myself to breathe and would often find myself driving the long way home from work just to be out of the house a bit longer

I'm still doing all these things but my load has been lightened by the lack of the burning feeling of resentment I would feel every time I looked at him.

We did talk about the workload several times, it would get better for 2 or 3 days then he'd decide that he'd done enough and I needed to pay him back in sexual favours

Don't know what I ever saw in him -ewwwww

Me, but currenly on Furlough, husband on benefits due to disability he used to be main breadwinner.

Same as @worldweary45 ... TBX moving out in a few days. He worked part time and did a few domestic bits, but I worked full time and carried the whole mental load as well as the majority of the cleaning etc. I'm hoping that my choice to go it alone will relieve me of the irritation if not the load, and at least I will get every other weekend to do my own thing...or just catch my breath.

STBX

@worldweary45

That's exactly how I feel. I actually have less to do as he was horrifically messy on top
Of never clearing it up!

Plus I don't seeth every day when I come home from work.