Moving house

[Sarah1153]

Ok so currently in a two bedroom flat. My daughter is 11 so being moved so she doesn't have to share a room. My partner is wanting to move in with us and has a 3 year old daughter in his care full time. The idea was my daughter has the bigger room as she spends more time in there but my partner has kicked off saying that his daughter and my son should have the bigger room as he seems to think they will be upstairs playing most the time as no toys would be allowed downstairs! Do i stick with original plan or does it make more sense to have daughter in smallest room? My son can't wait to have a garden so can't see him spending much time in his room as he doesn't now. Any advice would be appreciated
P. S smallest room you could get bunk beds, toys, wardrobes and chest of draws just wouldn't be a lot of floor space but enough

Him not moving in is for the best. So be grateful youre not inflicting him on your children.

If he now says ok he will move in, you know he was just trying to manipulate you. Dont inflict him on your children.

Bim loving in will harm your children.

Stick with the decision that he is not moving into your new house with his daughter. In fact view it as a lucky escape & part ways entirely. You and your children deserve better than an immature, controlling man child.
Good luck in your new home.

‘No toys downstairs‘ is just nasty. No child should be brought up in such a harsh environment. Lucky escape, OP.

Do not compromise your secure tenancy for any partner.

Move alone and tell him you can carry on as you are.

Please listen to everyone. He says he's not moving in but that was in a strop. He'll be trying to push you again soon. You'll have a lovely family home. Its tough dating as a lone parent but blending families is incredibly tough even at the best of times.
I've been with my partner for 6 years and we don't live together. We do all the fun stuff. Not the mundane or stressful stuff. Us not living together doesn't mean our relationship isn't serious. We just put our children above it.

I’d give serious consideration to having him in your life at all. His idea of a family doesn’t seem compatible with yours. It sounds as though his child and his opinion is of paramount importance and blending these families would lead to a lot of misery, especially for your children.

@Sarah1153

Please dump this man.
He’s using you to get what he wants, throwing a tantrum over it too. It’s YOUR house. Move in without him and give your kids a less stressful life.

He sounds awful and I don’t think it’s appropriate for an 8yo boy and a 3yo unrelatedly girl to have share a room either.

Plus he sounds like he wants the kids hidden away and not free to play in their own home. Red flags galore!!!