Insta mums

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I've just discovered that a friend is a budding insta mum. Normally I avoid insta mums like the plague but because I've just found out my friend is one I've fallen down the rabbit hole of looking at her posts, and the posts of the other insta mums she is "inspired" and it's reminded me exactly why I dislike insta mum's so much. Their perky, gleaming haired, organic wooden toyed, tuff tray decorating antics are hard to swallow at the best of times but now they are down right vomit inducing. Surely this is not a realistic representation of motherhood. Why aren't they documenting the days when their children press all their buttons, the house looks like they have been burgled, and they are eyeing up the wine at 3 in the afternoon? Who has the time, energy or inclination to dye rice crispies with food colouring and make pictures of rainbows, flamingos and dancing hippos on the tuff tray? It's all just a bit much and it makes me mum's feel bad that they don't do that for their kids. How are the insta mum's still churning out this nauseating content during a time when a lot of mum's are finding it hard going and relentless? I realise that I'm being a bit unreasonable and I am in a grump today so finding out that my friend is an insta mum has tipped me over the edge.

Just don't look at it.

Let them crack on with their rainbow rice Krispies.

Each to their own.

I follow a couple who I do quite like although realise it’s a complete facad portraying this perfect life.
However I’ve had to unfollow quite a few recently as although they all appear to have this perfect lifestyle and are very well off, they’ve all started bloody MLM selling the lumi spa. It’s such a con and you can spot it a mile off when they start showing you all the benefits and how much they love theirs and then a few days later they’re selling them to their followers!

Most of it is a load of bollocks.

They only show you want they want you to see!

One of my friends is an "insta mum" and her husband has a sodding YouTube channel documenting their daily lives, it's cringeworthy!

Her toddlers are "brand reps" for like 20 different small businesses so you can imagine how often she posts! Her little boy looks like she forces him into some of the outfits......

I know what her house looks like and the photos she posts are so edited it's beyond belief!!

Don't take notice of them!

I assume you post on your social media all the worst aspects of your life? I assume you tell all your friends and family all of your flaws and don't highlight the positives? If so, just avoid insta-mums, it's nothing to do with you. If not, stop being such a hypocrite.

Lots of people aren't eyeing the wine at 3pm, and find the 'god my kids are arseholes, amiright' bloggers etc as far removed from their lives as you do the instamums.

Why do people get so worked up about this? Don’t look if you don’t like them

Just unfollow?

I'm very much enjoying them all simultaneously discovering that racism still exists.

@IndecentFeminist 100% agree with this !

I deleted Instagram recently and don't miss it at all! Would recommend!

@CourtneyLurve and posting a square on #blackout Tuesday but never mentioning the movement ever again!

I find it really, really embarrassing. I’m mortified for them.

I think it’s unacceptable that children’s private lives are being documented and exploited for money, and that they have no rights to privacy in their own homes. When this generation grows up we’re probably going to see some lawsuits.

treat it like an advert & ignore

I am a relatively small time Insta mum. I love Instagram because I really enjoy photography, blogging, sharing days out stories, travel and I probably post a lot of things you hate. I love scandi kids fashion etc. But I hate the really preachy side of it, I never do that. I never wrote 'i only buy ethical toys/clothes' or 'did you know' type posts. I've occasionally posted pictures of a perfect playroom or whatever but made it abundantly clear in my caption that this is a rarity and its usually a shit tip. I think I'm really careful to make it honest that pics are just highlights and life with kids is hard without oversharing personal stuff about them. I have posted horrendous messy shots, but mostly only post the best shots. I think bloggers were much worse for preaching and Instagram is similar but often more honest and more about the photographs for me.

Delete your social media apps. Seriously! Try it out for a couple of days at least and you will feel so much better for not seeing the gag inducing insta mum shit!

You’re following the wrong accounts then. There are some brutally honest accounts out there. They don’t have the biggest of followings and don’t appear to be begging for freebies or followers.

You sound incredibly judgmental and not very nice, OP. If you don't like it then just ubfollow them and ignore their posts. They are allowed to post if they want and you are allowed to ignore. No need for the nasty judgments though, seriously you are critising their hair??

I’m just as about the mums like you who talking about reaching for wine at 15:00. I don’t relate to that at all. Are you really wanting alcohol in the afternoon to cope with your life? Probably not. It’s just as dull a stereotype as the dyed rice. I find both styles dull as fuck, and follow neither. I might have a vague use for a craft idea and come across that on an internet search I suppose, but the faux alcoholism? Click on by, every time.

@user32742534

What are your views on children being in sm posts when they are not old enough to consent, and the affect this may have on them as they grow up?

Genuine question, not trying to be goody.

Or goady even.

@IndecentFeminist yep! I don’t like either type, but I’d never be ashamed to post craft (if I ever did it ) but I would be thoroughly ashamed to be joking about “needing gin” 💤

A lot of the time instamums are trying to build a brand to get an income to help their families or get hired. Some are good, some are annoying, some are dreadful. If it's not your thing, unfollow them and their mummy blogger friends and live in blissful ignorance.

I'm an insta mum 🤷🏻‍♀️don't own a tuff tray and there's some that really get on my tits so I unfollow.
I do it more because I enjoy supporting small businesses and enjoy taking photos, not to be a condescending arsehole who knows how to parent (I don't, I let my son eat a leaf the other day 🤷🏻‍♀️)
I also do it so I can chat to other mums since I don't have any friends in real life with children.

I know you didn't ask the consent thing to me but I stick to the whole baby is fully clothed, no bath or "embarrassing" pictures that will upset him when he's older and will stop it if he asks me. And I'll be honest with him when he's older about my use of insta but right now he's a cute baby who occasionally eats leaves and licks faces like a puppy.😂

I don’t know why anyone would want to follow a random family on YouTube or instagram. But each to their own and all that, just ignore them! (The posts, not your friend!)