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To feel like we are just existing now

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Ghostlyglow · 12/06/2020 07:58

In a miserable, joyless world of queues and masks. A couple of friends have lost their jobs this week. Where are we going with this?When will it end?

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Annamaria14 · 12/06/2020 13:40

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Annamaria14 · 12/06/2020 13:42

@Homemadeandfromscratch I am just thinking when my friend rang me yesterday saying he was suicidal, i didnt say " you are bringing your misery on yourself" because I am not a massive cunt

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NowImLivinInExeter · 12/06/2020 13:44

Annamaria14 i mean this kindly but I think you need to step away from this thread. One stranger online is not worth getting so worked up over Flowers

Nihiloxica · 12/06/2020 13:45

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Ignore.

There's a type of lockdown enthusiast that likes to pretend that shutting down society for months is just a fun jape we should all be embracing as a wonderful opportunity.

Like with this one, they are mostly very cruel and their jocundity is obviously an attempt to cover deep vindictiveness.

At least you live in a country that had said it will not lock down again and where the CMO has communicated clearly throughout. Ireland will be out long before the UK at this rate.

Homemadeandfromscratch · 12/06/2020 13:47

Is it really necessary to insult and abuse me because I disagree with you, and have never personally chosen to spend months locked inside because it was raining?

It's much healthier and better for your mental health to brave the rain, you don't have to go at the worst of the thunder storm either Hmm

Ghostlyglow · 12/06/2020 13:48

There is so much sadness on here Flowers to all of you.

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Pasghetti · 12/06/2020 13:49

@Annamaria14 You mentioned that your friend was suicidal. If he or anyone you know is struggling don't be afraid to get them to call Samaritans free on 116123. It really helps Flowers

Homemadeandfromscratch · 12/06/2020 13:50

Nihiloxica
if that was directed at me, you should have realised that I am the least "lockdown enthusiast" and that's it's the opposite of cruel not to encourage people to be as miserable as possible when they don't have to.

There are enough medical and other reasons that can force you to be stuck inside for weeks or months, what a shame to waste the time where you could be out.

trappedsincesundaymorn · 12/06/2020 13:51

@Homemadeandfromscratch

I honestly cannot bear to be in Ireland anymore. Other countries are opening up. Not here . I am going to try to leave

bit tricky when the country is under attacks by the longest and worst storms in history..oh, wait Grin

Homemadeandfromscratch...you seem very cold and bitter towards a person who is clearly suffering. Why aren't people allowed to be overwhelmed by how their lives have panned out over the last 3-4 months? You expect everyone to see things from your POV why not try it the other way around. A little compassion goes a long way.
Homemadeandfromscratch · 12/06/2020 13:52

There's a thread that stuck with me, a poster was genuinely convinced that WW2 was a musical, and people were happy as they could dance together in the streets - shark contrast with the current "lockdown".

It's not healthy to convince yourself it's a true description of our situation, or theirs..

Porcupineinwaiting · 12/06/2020 13:52

I dont feel like that at all. I feel hugely and profoundly grateful that my family are still alive and that I'm healing. Is that more or less selfish than worrying about the economy?

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 12/06/2020 13:53

There seems to be several types when it comes to lockdown.

Type 1 - those who get on with it and muddle through best they can
Type 2 - those who can't cope and need support
Type 3 - those who love it and think anyone who doesn't should pull themselves together
Type 4 - those who shout loudly for a harder lockdown and would be far happier having their doors welded shut in China

I've never come across type 4 in real life but there's a lot on MN. They also tend to have their own version of 'The Rules' as well

TokyoSushi · 12/06/2020 13:53

Can I join the misery? I have had the DC home by myself while DH is at work all day for 12 weeks now, I'm trying to do a full time job, and full time homeschool. School confirmed yesterday that theres no return until September at the earliest, the house is a mess, all motivation has gone and I've well and truly had enough!

Homemadeandfromscratch · 12/06/2020 13:54

trappedsincesundaymorn
my point was only that instead of despairing about the things we currently can't do, and places we can't go to, we're better off not making things even worst by creating rules that don't exist and do what we can do, it's only temporary.

Do you remember the "one hour walk" on MN in the past? When no one is England had ever restricted our daily "exercise" to one hour, and there had never been any need whatsoever to make our life a misery with that stupid "hour". Same thing.

DanRadcliffeisME · 12/06/2020 13:57

Annamaria14 Fri 12-Jun-20 13:37:16
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It might be worth you contacting a local group for some help.

Torres10 · 12/06/2020 13:57

@ Homemadeandfromscratch
I understand some are coping well like yourself and others are not coping at all.

If you can't think of anything kind to say, maybe just withhold a little, what you say could be the straw that breaks the camels' back for someone who is mentally struggling, whether you can objectively identify with them or not.

DanRadcliffeisME · 12/06/2020 13:58

Exactly

MN's is full of type 4 - lock away forever and a day and then add a few years

ype 1 - those who get on with it and muddle through best they can
Type 2 - those who can't cope and need support
Type 3 - those who love it and think anyone who doesn't should pull themselves together
Type 4 - those who shout loudly for a harder lockdown and would be far happier having their doors welded shut in China

BiBabbles · 12/06/2020 14:00

For me, its been the Groundhogs Day just existing feeling + more and more this last week or so wanting to be useful but not feeling how, feeling like anything is too little, too late, really bleh.

Like, I see a lot of people - on here, on my older daughter's school chat and similar - struggling with home schooling. Part of me feels like: I've home educated for ages, helped lots of people transition to and from home education, with all the resources and experience at that there should be something I can do to ease things for someone a bit - resource lists for different ages (beyond fucking twinkl), simplified organization systems to help with overwhelm and create the task lists my kids, particularly the ones with additional needs, find helpful and takes a load off me - I saw elsewhere someone made these one-page home management and garden planning pages and I thought a home-ed version could be useful.

But when I read through those kinds of threads or similar things I think I could find something useful, it all feels so big, systemic issues of workplace issues, life issues of major needs or lack of people to help, and with so many weeks already gone by, so many kids missing and needing interactions that many struggle to get through a screen, there is so much pain that I'd like to help, but no idea what would actually be useful for anyone other than scratching my itch to do something.

justanotherneighinparadise · 12/06/2020 14:02

@Homemadeandfromscratch stop being antagonistic 🙄

threesmallcows · 12/06/2020 14:05

I've just been speaking to a university lecturer who said many students have cancelled their university applications for this year.

CaMePlaitPas · 12/06/2020 14:07

OK - I will bite too.

I can feel myself slipping away. I am trying to be strong for two toddlers but I can't take it anymore.

I am abroad. My husband works most of the time and is too tired to help with the kids after work. I have nothing fun or interesting in my life, I've lost my job, any face to face contact I had with the few "friends" I had has been lost and I haven't seen my parents or my siblings for at least 6 months. I can't go back to the UK because I can't effectively quarantine, they can't come to see me for the same 14 day quaranting regulations.

I need help but from where? Everyone is in the same boat. My kids have lost their daycare spots because I don't work I'm not a priority.

I am having trouble sleeping but I feel so tired, joyless and all I see is black. Before I drift off I think to myself if God had any mercy he'd take me whilst I was asleep.

The funniest thing is that I have had and recovered from this virus but the biggest threat to my life now and since March 16th is my mental health and not Covid19.

zingally · 12/06/2020 14:07

I absolutely agree with you OP.

There's close to zero enjoyment in life at the moment. Every day is virtually a mirror image of the one before. There's nothing to look forward to. Normally I've got things in the diary to look forward to. Theatre trips, weekends away, girly shopping days with pals. At the moment there's nothing at all.
I'm furloughed, but only worked part time, and supplemented my income with another income stream that was faulted during all this. I can just about pay my most necessary bills, but that's it.

I'm trying to find some fun in some old hobbies, but that only goes so far.

At the start of lockdown I was reading a book a week and having a walk every day. Now I haven't had a walk in a fortnight, and haven't touched my book since Sunday.

trappedsincesundaymorn · 12/06/2020 14:07

@Homemadeandfromscratch

trappedsincesundaymorn my point was only that instead of despairing about the things we currently can't do, and places we can't go to, we're better off not making things even worst by creating rules that don't exist and do what we can do, it's only temporary.

Do you remember the "one hour walk" on MN in the past? When no one is England had ever restricted our daily "exercise" to one hour, and there had never been any need whatsoever to make our life a misery with that stupid "hour". Same thing.

There are better ways of proving a point than a verbal kicking.
overnightangel · 12/06/2020 14:08

This pandemic has certainly highlighted how many people basically see schools as a free babysitting service