To expect grandparents to spoil their grandchildren a little bit...

[tori32]

OK here goes. Parents come down to visit having not seen dd for 3 mths as they live up north and we live on the south coast. They set off so late on the Friday that they don't arrive until 10pm (missing seeing dd) whenmy father does not need to work so could have had the morning off (hence late departure). We go out on the saturday to a local farm where they don't need to pay for myself and dd because we have a season ticket. I pay for lunch. I also buy flowers for mum and half bottle gin for dad to say thanks because they were babysitting that night for our summer do. The following day having been to bed at 0430 from said ball they send dd into bedroom at 1030am to say we had to get up and they were going, left at 11am. Over the whole weekend they had not treated her to so much as a packet of smarties. AIBU to be hacked off with them?

I wouldn't have got up tight about dd having dinner before them....thats not exactly a major problem is it, just that once.
But i don't actualy think YABU i think you are emotional abit 'down' and picking up on all the things they don't do which you would love them as gp's to do. I have felt my parents don't quite live up to my idea of what gp's could/should be and i know my sister has felt the same but about different things. But when i look at other friends and their parents attitudes to their gc, there is always something we don't agree with or would like done differently. Maybe you could just enjoy the fact that your dd actually has gp's keep encouraging the things you would like them to do or be more involved with and hopefully as dd gets older they will form a good close bond with her. Although gp's have lots of different 'uses' some are 'fun' all the time, some good at helping with homework, some more quiet and distant but have a calming influence on your children. I know my dc's two sets of gp's are totally different. I think you might feel abit better about all this when your hormones settle down abit, and don;t worry about them concentrate on your imediate little family. Good luck.