...to tell neighbour her obscured glass is completely ineffective?

[HarlinRay]

The neighbour across our back lane has slightly frosted glass in her bathroom window which is about 20 feet away from my office window, but it obscures NOTHING and she wears NOTHING and she spends a lot of time in there doing complicated ablutions - leg up on sink to clean or examine genitals is a favourite pose. Her other curtains are always closed so I think she may be a bit of a nudist at home as she's literally always nude in the bathroom, even if it's just to pop in for a pee. I'm pretty well acquainted with her daytime bathroom schedule - and before you say don't look, I can't help it, unless I work for 8 hours per day with my back to the window which I'm not prepared to do.

Anyway, I'm not disgusted or offended or anything, and if she doesn't care then I don't care - but what if she doesn't know? What if another neighbour does care more than I do and decides to be unpleasant about it, or what if someone decides to take photos? Should I pop by to tell her, or just drop an anonymous note so she has plausible deniability if she wants to continue her exhibitionist lifestyle? Or should I just ignore it?

@Lochinvar2020 I found it absolutely hilarious 😂😂😂 when I told my mother she was more embarrassed for us!

Do tell her. It might be awkward but save her dignity. People can be so creepy these days better it's only you that's seen and not some creep. Unless she's into that then mind your business but you won't know unless you say something!

So my bedroom window faces the kitchen windows (across a field) of a guy I loosely know. He messaged me once out of the blue to say he could see me getting changed but it was done in such an awkward way, calling himself an ‘accidental voyeur’ etc which brought me and my friends much hilarity. Also wondered what his wife thought of him watching me change and then messaging?! Better still I’d never changed with the curtains open and it’s enough of a distance to have to really look. Moral of the story, don’t send a note, go in person or not at all!

Hi, welcome to the neighbourhood! I hope your move went smoothly. Just wanted to drop you a little note to let you know that your bathroom routines are very visable to the outside world so that you can have your privacy respected.
Yours

Or

Oi love, cover up when in bathroom, we can see what you are doing in there and if you need a daily inspection of your undercarriage then here's the number for the local GUM clinic
Luffs and hugz

Am I the only one who has always assumed people can see through if there are no curtains? Frosted or not, it's still glass?

Oh God! blush maybe they never looked out if their window facing that way -ever

It was street side

Dear neighbor,

Hope you're settling in well even during these crazy times! I wanted to let you know, woman to women, that your frosted glass in your upstairs bathroom is really transparent. Just incase you didn't know. Absolutely more power to you if you did!

Please don't hesitate to give me a knock if you need anything or struggling with self isolating.

Judy at No. 12

I agree with a PP who said to lie and use old neighbours not having a curtain etc. up as an excuse for mentioning. also I would sign off with who you are. anonymous note would freak me out

@themother will do gahhh !!!

I worked in a bank and from one office on the 2nd or 3rd floor could see directly into the 1st floor ladies changing rooms of a well known department store opposite. They had window coverings but a gap at the top that meant could see in from the angle above.

As soon as we heard the “lads” shouting “bikini time” and realised what they could see we reported it to the store, who did get it fixed immediately, and in their next refit they moved the changing rooms well away from the windows!

Sorry, I'll pull the blind down.

Would you really want a stranger telling you face to face that they can see you naked through the window ? Blimey, I'd definitely rather have an anonymous note

@romdowa

We have a similar situation with neighbours. Our kitchen has a view of his bathroom. We see them having a wee and the teenage son wanking! I could never say anything but would if they asked. They took away a perfectly good blind from the window when they moved in.

I'd rather have an anonymous note than an in-person visit. If it's worded correctly, it needn't seem aggressive.

I went to a university that had a cautionary note in the ladies toilets advising women that if they were changing to use a cubicle as they could be seen through the frosted glass from the staff car park

@AdoptedBumpkin

Let her know face to face. Anonymous notes are a bit odd.

This! How would she know you are not some random perv trying to spy on her when she in the nude? Much better to explain you her neighbour and a bit concerned she may not realise she can be seen?

Well, I recently did an anonymous note to a lady who clearly thinks her frosted glass protects her from prying eyes when she is taking a shower.

I live near the end of a road and, from the front bedroom, I can see the back of a house that is just around the corner. It's about 110 feet away. Someone moved in late last year and I did see her taking a shower one evening when the light was on. About a month ago I saw her again but this was in the daytime.

The people in the house over the road are much closer and must be able to see her as must my ndn's on either side. Anyway I decided to let her know but just didn't want to embarrass her so wrote a note and posted it (via Royal Mail, not through her door). I haven't seen her showering since, thankfully, although she still doesn't have a window blind but I do feel awful in case she is desperately wondering who wrote the note.

I did it on a card with a flowery picture so that she'll probably guess it was from a woman and hopefully be less worried about that.

I have this dilemma as well, the neighbours over the back of our house bathroom window is in full view of our living room.

We (dd and I) see them go to the loo/shower/shave. I think we've lived here too long to now mention it though, we just pull our curtains!!

I would invite her round for drinks, show her the office, comment with a laugh "oh look that's your house, can see right in your windows from here, good job we dont stare out all day long" or something and then carry on showing her round or something. Bet she'd have curtains up the next day.

If the anonymous note explains that it's just a kindly-meant heads-up, woman to woman, that should eliminate much of the creepiness. Surely if it were a pervert, it wouldn't be in his own interests to alert her to it and thus deprive himself of the show.

Kind anonymous note !

So do I FluffBalled

Nine years, nine years, and no one said a word !!

Thank goodness I have now moved.