...to tell neighbour her obscured glass is completely ineffective?

[HarlinRay]

The neighbour across our back lane has slightly frosted glass in her bathroom window which is about 20 feet away from my office window, but it obscures NOTHING and she wears NOTHING and she spends a lot of time in there doing complicated ablutions - leg up on sink to clean or examine genitals is a favourite pose. Her other curtains are always closed so I think she may be a bit of a nudist at home as she's literally always nude in the bathroom, even if it's just to pop in for a pee. I'm pretty well acquainted with her daytime bathroom schedule - and before you say don't look, I can't help it, unless I work for 8 hours per day with my back to the window which I'm not prepared to do.

Anyway, I'm not disgusted or offended or anything, and if she doesn't care then I don't care - but what if she doesn't know? What if another neighbour does care more than I do and decides to be unpleasant about it, or what if someone decides to take photos? Should I pop by to tell her, or just drop an anonymous note so she has plausible deniability if she wants to continue her exhibitionist lifestyle? Or should I just ignore it?

Tell her, I really wish one of my old neighbours told me, I only found about out after about 3 years when I got home one night and clearly saw exP and DC in the bathroom brushing their teeth

@chipsandgin, I guess if the person is right up at the window, but how can you possibly see fully inside during daylight when it is lighter in the outside. You know reflection and all that. It’s science innit?

@Samtsirch you have me rolling. 😂😂😂

That glass really hides nothing.

On my first morning in my new house, I took my coffee to the garden for some relaxation, looked up and saw my fat old man neighbour in the shower The glass just made him look airbrushed, but still entirely neked.

Tell her. Write a signed note or knock on her door. Receiving an anonymous note will be more awkward and horrible.

I'd rather the note personally, I'd be absolutely mortified face to face, however you dress it up!

So, exactly what can be seen through a frosted window with the light on at night ?

[quote HarlinRay]@fluffballed it was indeed possible if you did it in a ‘socially distanced way. Plenty of people got the ball rolling on purchases or new leases well before lockdown and they didn’t have to stay put if they didn’t want to.[/quote]
I had no idea!

One does wonder if this is why the humble privet hedge has become so popular in the UK...

I would keep it low key by popping round and telling her gently in person.

Oh god no if this happened to me I would have to move. Across the world probably.

Tell her but lie... either go round to say hi and say just welcoming you to the neighbourhood if there’s anything u need bla bla bla but also thought I should let you know previous neighbours had a problem with people being able to see them in bathroom and I noticed you haven’t yet got blinds up so thought I should let you know in case you were unaware the glass is only frosted one side saving you from any future embarrassment etc if she asks which she won’t then no you haven’t ever seen her but felt as a woman it was important for her safety (or something) if I got an anonymous note I would freak out thinking I had a mad axe man stalker

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I actually agree with the person who said anonymous note can be a little sinister for the recipient. Maybe if you sign your name and make it a little friendly. As they may wonder if anyone's taken photos etc? Just how I would feel as a girl living alone, getting that kinda note in the door would make me feel like I'm being watched.

Please tell her, we had the same problem, we were mortified when one of the neighbours mentioned.

Oh lord thank you for this thread we have a new frosted bathroom window since December and no blind. I had no idea I must go and check is it day and night ??? Arghhh

@FluffBalled

I thought moving house wasn't possible a month ago?

There's always one.

You would be better off to tell her.
We found out that our glass isn't exactly frosted because our neighbours to the back posted a big rant on a community forum about that fact that they could see us in the bathroom and that their dog barks at my partners Todger 😂😂😂 apparently it disturbed their afternoons watching shite TV 🙈🙈🙈

Maybe she doesn't care?

We have no window covering or opaque glass on our main bathroom.

I always walk around naked in there and care not a jot if my neighbours see me - although they'd have to really crane their necks from just one side window and I am pretty confident they wouldn't do that.

We are about to re-do our bathroom and the new bath is moving to under the bare window so we can enjoy the garden view.

Oh god no if this happened to me I would have to move. Across the world probably.
Exactly -and if like a PP I found out by chance for myself, I'd just be thinking "Oops, you can see straight in, maybe better get a blind" - but I wouldn't be that horrified. Whereas if someone either told me or wrote a note I'd be scuttling in and out under cover of darkness rather than risk seeing them. I certainly wouldn't feel gratitude. Maybe it's quite a British thing - it doesn't happen if no-one acknowledges it.

Tell her, I really wish one of my old neighbours told me, I only found about out after about 3 years when I got home one night and clearly saw exP and DC in the bathroom brushing their teeth

Oh God! maybe they never looked out if their window facing that way -ever 🤞

Don’t send the anonymous note (reasons explained above).

Just pop a note in saying you wanted to let her know in case she wasn’t aware.

No big deal. No need to be awkward or embarrassed about it.

If someone told you in person, imagine if you saw them in the street again!

You could make it clear in the note that you are female, then she might find it a bit less unnerving to get a note.

'As a fellow woman, I just thought you might want to know that the frosted glass is pretty transparent and I suggest replacing it or covering it with a net to protect your privacy' or something like that.

IDK if it would be best to be anon or sign your name, but definitely don't go round!

I also had no idea. Have been in current house with same neighbours for over 20 years. We get on really well. But I did wonder why when they changed their kitchen recently they got a new solid back door, instead of the previous part-glazed. Their back door looks directly to the back of my house and bathroom.

Oh dear. I am really embarrassed now. They are really nice neighbours - obviously too nice to say anything.

Opendraw, just turn the light on at night and ask someone to stand by the window and go out and check (if you check from just under the window, you will only see the ceiling, check from further away.

I bet online sales of opaque bathroom blinds rocket tomorrow

Ah. But I'd rather the note than what happened to romdowa above!