Myothercarisalsoshit
I was writing a long reply but you said it so much more succintly and better than I.
Someone once said that being black is like being the middle child in a family. Not the baby. Not the older who can't be ignored. Overlooked.
Every other culture is allowed to acknowledge their pain, and more importantly define what they perceive as unacceptable symbols of it
Except African Americans, or children of the diaspora. For some unknowable reason that I cannot fathom, slavery is the thing that people truly don't think deserves an equal hearing. One gets the 'so loooooooong ago', but 'black people sold slaves', 'but there were good results of slavery' 'but what good does it do to rehash this etc etc' things they would not say to any other repressed group.
So they have to rise above each time and think of others and "pray away" their pain - which traditionally they have always done from generation to generation. It is why traditionally black people on the whole are largely big on God.
Just accept it doesn't mean the same to you but it means a lot to some of us.
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