To renew wedding vows / blessing

[Rubbleonthedouble1]

After ten years married? Just us and DC?

YABU It is tacky don’t do it
YANBU go for it

Generally tacky or overly sentimental.
“Until death do us part......”. Vows made with sincerity last a lifetime. They can’t be renewed. They don’t wear out.
Blessings fine, party at certain time (Golden or Pearl wedding maybe) but renewed vows sound a bit Las Vegas.

Good job I read through. I was going to say exactly what CherryPavlova said.

If you and your dh want to repeat the words you said to each other in private, to remind yourselves, then great. However, I presume you are talking about some public pronouncement.

Me and DH hope to reaffirm our vows around 10 years. It'll be a destination thing for us and DS and then a big day out in Disney world! If it's what you want go for it. If you have people fact you think would like to be there then invite them but to me one of the nicest things about it is that you don't need witnesses. Also you don't have to worry about inviting everyone because they already came to the wedding.

We are considering this - not a renewal of "vows" but more of a "Thanksgiving" for our life together. We didn`t marry in church, but in a registrar's office in the city we live in (DH's home town in Europe)- a lovely ceremony and with closest family members - who chose to be there. Not a destination wedding, it is the city where we live.
Our feeling is that we have a close affinity with my home town and lots of old / good friends with whom we would like to share an occasion that we couldn't do 22 years ago. We have our eye on our 25th. anniversary or there abouts - a short blessing, a thanksgiving for our marriage and off for a good meal and evening in a small group - no pomp and glamour, just a heartfelt occassion for those who have been there over the years for us.

mylittlesandwich and IgiveupallthenamesIwantedareg0

That sounds lovely. I hope you both enjoy it

SunnyForMe, your great grandparents sound lovely and I hope they do have a wonderful renewal with all the works. They’ve clearly had a really rough time and had their “in sickness and in health” put to the test, bless them 💓

Clevererthanyou

Thank you so much, that means a lot. They certainly have been though hell lately! One thing that I've learned is that anything positive, big or little, should be appreciated. We're certainly looking forward to their "big day"

Vow renewals are tacky, end of. Have an anniversary party if you want...

@SunnyForMe

mylittlesandwich and IgiveupallthenamesIwantedareg0

That sounds lovely. I hope you both enjoy it

Thank you for your message

I've only really known of people doing them if someone cheated.
However, I have a wish to renew my vows, just us and DD (and baby if we have another)
In the time weve been married, a lot has happened. DH has had a bankruptcy, we were evicted, things were terrible, and things have also got a lot better, weve created a successful business, weve grown older, our relationship has changed.

I'd like the opportunity to reaffirm my love to the man who ive been alongside for years, weve seen each other through dark times.

I think that's worth celebrating in some ways, because there are many different chapters we face in our marriages. The ability to overcome, and still love the one you married is quite special I think

Rumbletumbleinmytummy

That is so lovely! I wish you all the best

One thing that has really struck me during this thread is how quick people are to clutch at negativity. Frankly, who has the energy? Sure, some people have renewed their vows after cheating, but that's not a universal narrative. All the stories that people have shared here about renewing/planning to renew their vows are lovely. Good luck to everybody - do whatever makes you happy, cause life is too short to worry about what others think

Attention seeking drama. Nobody wants to listen to you repeat vows that don't need repeating.

@LadyMonicaBaddingham

Vow renewals are tacky, end of. Have an anniversary party if you want...

I think you have somewhat missed the point. For some of us this is not "vows renewal" and a party afterwards. It is sharing milestones with loved ones and sharing that them-

Sharing milestones?

If you don't think that my grandparents are "tacky", let's leave it. Otherwise, let's keep talking.

Why do you need to ‘keep talking’? You’re happy, your grandparents are happy... why do you care what a stranger on the internet thinks?

@SunnyForMe

Rumbletumbleinmytummy

That is so lovely! I wish you all the best

One thing that has really struck me during this thread is how quick people are to clutch at negativity. Frankly, who has the energy? Sure, some people have renewed their vows after cheating, but that's not a universal narrative. All the stories that people have shared here about renewing/planning to renew their vows are lovely. Good luck to everybody - do whatever makes you happy, cause life is too short to worry about what others think

I agree with your statement that people are too quick to clutch at negativity-your great grandparents' story is anything but negative. A PP ( Euclid ) said "Wedding vows say 'till death us do part" so there is no need to renew them. Well, Euclid, what happens when the divorce papers come through?

@SunnyForMe

Rumbletumbleinmytummy

That is so lovely! I wish you all the best

One thing that has really struck me during this thread is how quick people are to clutch at negativity. Frankly, who has the energy? Sure, some people have renewed their vows after cheating, but that's not a universal narrative. All the stories that people have shared here about renewing/planning to renew their vows are lovely. Good luck to everybody - do whatever makes you happy, cause life is too short to worry about what others think

I agree with your statement that people are too quick to clutch at negativity-your great grandparents' story is anything but negative. A PP ( Euclid ) said "Wedding vows say 'till death us do part" so there is no need to renew them. Well, Euclid, what happens when the divorce papers come through?

@SunnyForMe

Rumbletumbleinmytummy

That is so lovely! I wish you all the best

One thing that has really struck me during this thread is how quick people are to clutch at negativity. Frankly, who has the energy? Sure, some people have renewed their vows after cheating, but that's not a universal narrative. All the stories that people have shared here about renewing/planning to renew their vows are lovely. Good luck to everybody - do whatever makes you happy, cause life is too short to worry about what others think

I agree with your statement that people are too quick to clutch at negativity-your great grandparents' story is anything but negative. A PP ( Euclid ) said "Wedding vows say 'till death us do part" so there is no need to renew them. Well, Euclid, what happens when the divorce papers come through?

@SunnyForMe

Rumbletumbleinmytummy

That is so lovely! I wish you all the best

One thing that has really struck me during this thread is how quick people are to clutch at negativity. Frankly, who has the energy? Sure, some people have renewed their vows after cheating, but that's not a universal narrative. All the stories that people have shared here about renewing/planning to renew their vows are lovely. Good luck to everybody - do whatever makes you happy, cause life is too short to worry about what others think

I agree with your statement that people are too quick to clutch at negativity-your great grandparents' story is anything but negative. A PP ( Euclid ) said "Wedding vows say 'till death us do part" so there is no need to renew them. Well, Euclid, what happens when the divorce papers come through?

@SunnyForMe

Rumbletumbleinmytummy

That is so lovely! I wish you all the best

One thing that has really struck me during this thread is how quick people are to clutch at negativity. Frankly, who has the energy? Sure, some people have renewed their vows after cheating, but that's not a universal narrative. All the stories that people have shared here about renewing/planning to renew their vows are lovely. Good luck to everybody - do whatever makes you happy, cause life is too short to worry about what others think

I agree with your statement that people are too quick to clutch at negativity-your great grandparents' story is anything but negative. A PP ( Euclid ) said "Wedding vows say 'till death us do part" so there is no need to renew them. Well, Euclid, what happens when the divorce papers come through?

I'd rather put the money into an extra special holiday. How old are the children? I'd prefer a family day out. I was Widowed in my 30's and we had so many plans for trips 'in the future'.

When I hear 'renewing vows' I immediately suspect one of the couple cheated, but they stayed together and 'renewal' is needed. Wows are for life- unless they have been broken somehow.

If it is something that would make you feel happy go go it. I had never even heard of people renewing vows after cheating before this thread. We did a massive barbeque for our tenth.

It's a bit naff.
It stinks of "my marriage is in trouble and I'm worried that one of us is going to stick it somewhere else".

Or it's happened already and this is the sticking plaster.

LadyMonica I’m curious about your use of the words ‘end of’. You do realise they aren’t a magic spell that makes your opinion a fact right?

For example: Nasty bastards with no tact should fuck off and not be on forums with other human beings, end of.

Nope, you’re still here.