To be a bit offended

[Moonskylove]

I will be the first to admit that I spend a lot of time in my PJs and dressing gown. On a morning because I’m furloughed I wait until my husband and kids are showered and dressed before I jump in the shower so yes I’m often sorting washing out and changing beds before I get dressed. I also change straight after evening meal if not going out as following surgery for breast cancer I find wearing a bra excruciating. So think if I’m taking my bra off I may as well get changed altogether. The other day the ice cream van came and I sent the kids out with some money. I stood on the doorstep in case they needed more. A neighbour then said “do you ever get dressed?” I know he was only joking but I found it a bit rude of him. Am I being a bit sensitive?

Do you need to wear a bra at all ?I was sorry to hear about your Cancer and wish you well.I just wear a vest TBH (you can also get some with a kind of built in bra IFYSWIM) from M and S that may be more comfortable for you .I have a really wide back/shoulders ,and no matter how many times I try, I have never been able to find a bra that is comfy! I would ignore your Neighbour ,he sounds like a right stupid twat doesnt he !

I don't see any reason why you should be offended.
He made what he probably thought was a joke that might make you smile, clearly not intending to offend you in any way, shape or form.
If I were you, I would have commented back on his dress-wear.
If he had said something like 'Cor, you're naked all the time, fancy popping over?' then I would have understood you being offended, but it really wasn't any big deal.
You even say you know he was only joking.
I don't think it's anything to get bothered by.

Get some nice loungewear or decent tracksuits .. then no one will no you are in comfies!!

Sorry but this is ridiculous. What does it matter. How does this affect her neighbour or anyone else?

I think it very odd that the neighbour has a fascination with what she is attired in. I find this worrying and would express this to him. I would have responded that o find it deeply disturbing that he is fascinated with my attire and if there was any retort would have told him to fuck off. I have no time for people who have nothing better to do apart from pearl clutch about matters they have no effect on them whatsoever.

Don't take any notice and don't feel you have to justify to anyone why you live your own life the way you chose.

Well yeah she shouldn't care , I don't but she said she is bothered 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

Probably would have been useful to put in your OP that you told him you had had cancer .

If you don’t know him well, he was rude. Ignore.

Neighbour needs to mind their own business.

Wearing a bra shouldn't be uncomfortable. Hey properly fitted for one!