I have name changes for this. So both DH and I on 2nd marriage and have 2 DC from previous marriage and none together (will not be having any together). His ex is constantly on the phone or texting wanting money or is to have the kids more, pick them up earlier, moan about something to the point I am talk up to 10-20 texts a day even when they are not here plus phone calls. We have those kids 50/50 (probably more) so 7 out of 14 days she claims all child benefit and still wants maintenance which I have now stopped as we provide all clothes, shoes, uniform for our house. She regularly goes on holiday with her BF and never takes them and it’s always on her week with the kids meaning we have them them 3 weeks in a row messing up childcare etc and my DH refuses to say any or NO you can book it in you weeks without them!! We take them on holiday with us so it’s not an issue the other way.
Then we have the teenage daughters who talks to my DH like crap swearing and getting what she wants and if she doesn’t get it she cry’s and her mum phone and again has a go or if she isn’t busy come and gets her. This is over trivial things such as put your washing in the basket as at her mums house she isn’t made to. He is so scared of her going to her mums he ignores it but I refuse to let my children see this behaviour as ok and if I would’ve let mine do it I will not let any other child do it.
I don’t know how much more I can take- I love him I really do but he doesn’t get it that his ex constantly in our life ringing, texting is too much and not normal the kids are 12 and 10 not babies Or am I being horrible as I feel like I am loosing my mind in my own home