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Dog ownership please help !!!

95 replies

dublingirl66 · 05/06/2020 18:42

I paid for a dog With my ex

When we left we took the dog

He is now saying we stole it three years ago and is taking me to small claims court

Please any ideas or where I can get info please??

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MatildaTheCat · 05/06/2020 18:43

Do either of you have any evidence?

caramac04 · 05/06/2020 18:44

When you say ‘we’, do you mean you have children with him? If so, does he pay maintenance?
If not, say you sold the dog for food money to a relative who then gifted the dog to you,
He sounds like a right twat.

dublingirl66 · 05/06/2020 18:46

No he doesn't pay maintainence

We as in me and my children

I hate this man

Dog is happy and healthy here
Safe

I paid for dog

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dublingirl66 · 05/06/2020 18:47

My mother was there when it was agreed the dog is better with us

Why is he bringing this up now :(

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DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 05/06/2020 18:51

He won't take you to court. He would be laughed out if court anyway since he hasn't contributed to the upkeep of the dog.

Just sounds like a twat who only has a couple of waysto try and control you now and likes using his perceived power.

I would be tempted to throw a bill at him for half the expenses related to the dog for 3 years, although in reality I would leave it, don't show him he is upsetting you and he will fuck off, only popping up occasionally to try and upset you again. Most of these twats are all talk.

dublingirl66 · 05/06/2020 18:53

Sorry sk being realistic what could happen

This dog is treasured
I paid for him
My family paid all medical fees
Check ups etc
I have all the evidence

He registered the dog three years ago
The dog was with him for arorund 6 weeks
He hated the poor dog
Had no interest in him
And left in in the flat for 20 hours alone once

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LochJessMonster · 05/06/2020 18:53

You need to find any evidence that you have been caring and providing for the dog for the last 3 years. So vet bills, pet food/toy/flea/worm receipts. Any thing, no matter how small.
Any evidence he let you keep the dog, any evidence you bought the dog (texts, emails, bank transfers etc)

Is the dog microchipped? Although not proof of ownership, that will help.

In my experience, he won’t win this case.

LochJessMonster · 05/06/2020 18:55

www.doglaw.co.uk/ownership-custody-disputes/

Biddie191 · 05/06/2020 18:58

He's probably seen that dogs are selling at a premium right now and wants to make a quick buck, or he's just trying to upset you. Either way, I'd get the microchip changed into your name, and keep or get hold of copies of vets bills historically, so that IF he decides to try something you can explain that he abandoned the dog 3 years ago, then gifted it to you, hence why all costs have been yours. I'd doubt that he will actually try taking you to court, hes just being a dick, but just in case

Just being nosy - what type of dog is it?

Zingzingerella · 05/06/2020 18:59

www.doglaw.co.uk/ownership-custody-disputes/

Zingzingerella · 05/06/2020 19:02

Dog would only be worth current market value (not what was paid for puppy) in small claims which for most adult pet dogs is very little.

I expect isn't serious and is just using as means to cause upset.

dublingirl66 · 05/06/2020 19:07

You angels
Thank you

Mixed breed
Lab cross with Rottweiler

I hate him

He didn't even want it

The solicitor said I will have costs to pay

The dog is happy and secure here

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dublingirl66 · 05/06/2020 19:09

I paid 40 for dog

Not much I know

I have paid all bills
All food
For all of this dogs life

This man is trying to drive me to dispair

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caramac04 · 05/06/2020 19:10

I hate him too. Clearly doesn’t care about the dog or he wouldn’t uproot him from a loving home.
He’s just needling you, he’s a bully. The dog is yours.

dublingirl66 · 05/06/2020 19:12

Thank you guys
In my mind I fear he will win

It makes no sense

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LochJessMonster · 05/06/2020 19:17

He won’t win. And then he’ll have to pay costs.

You can prove you have been caring and providing for the dog for the last 3 years.

If it really does get to court, you show the financial proof to the judge, along with a statement from your mum who was present when he agreed to let you take the dog, and a few photos of the dog with you from the last 3 years.

It’ll take the judge seconds to award you the dog.

dontdisturbmenow · 05/06/2020 19:20

In law, a dog is considered as an asset, so it will come down to evidencing who paid for it, paid insurance, under which name is he registered with the vet, name under which he is microchipped etc...

dontdisturbmenow · 05/06/2020 19:21

Sorry just seen its been three years. Is it the first time he raised the matter? If so, that will definitely count against him. Why wait 3 years?

dontdisturbmenow · 05/06/2020 19:22

Unless he didn't have your address until now.

dublingirl66 · 05/06/2020 19:24

I paid

Witnessed by my family

Dog is microchipped but In his name

I have had the dog three years
He agreed he could t care for it so I could have it
Witnessed by family

This is a well cared for dog
He is my rock as he helped me when I was being abused
Mother mad man knows this

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dublingirl66 · 05/06/2020 19:25

Apologies

  • he raised it when he took me to court for access few weeks back

He was like she had take. My kids and dog
Obv not the truth

We fled extreme abuse

Two innocent kids in tow

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minielise · 05/06/2020 19:32

You fled abuse from him? Surely this counts as harassment if you escaped him and he is still holding threats over you?
Did anything get reported to the police at the time? Maybe sharing that with the court would help your case?

dublingirl66 · 05/06/2020 19:36

Yes I will

We fled the most horrific abuse
He harmed the dog 🐕 have no proof
But will raise this with solicitor

It is further harassment

But he is adamant
And a sociopath
Why would solicitor say I would need to pay money in a small claim court ??

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BurMaMa2 · 05/06/2020 19:36

Don't leave your dog tied up outside anywhere in a public area without a sizeable well-trained (in unarmed contact) person to supervise him/her. Report threats to police in his local area. Trust no-one. Have a good safety alarm/pepper spray with you at all times. Cameras on the house/flat. Change your dog-walking times and routes. If he has any contact with the children, cancel it, return to Court if necessary. Tell your area police that he is threatening to abduct your dog and show evidence of the threats and proof of your ownership. Nasty little creep. Do you have a Restraining Order against him? If you use a dog walking service or trusted neighbours to look after your dog at any time, advise them of his threats.. Good luck. Use the law and your friends and family to keep you and your dog safe.

BurMaMa2 · 05/06/2020 19:39

PS . Change the microchip to your name.

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