Dog ownership please help !!!

[dublingirl66]

I paid for a dog With my ex

When we left we took the dog

He is now saying we stole it three years ago and is taking me to small claims court

Please any ideas or where I can get info please??

Vet just did it

So I have everything in my name

I have three years of bills with the vet

I have cared for the dog for three years with photos etc

I can't prove I paid for him
My family witnessed it but he will accuse us all of lying
Mad man 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬

Doors always locked and the dog is either glued to me or my dad

This dog has been so traumatised

Tell him if you had been looking after his dog all this time then he would have had X amount to pay and therefore you would have been invoicing him for it, and if he were the dogs owner he would have been paying for it, which he hasn't. I don't think he has a leg to stand on! But do get legal advice.

Yes exactly I will do !!

How crazy is he !!!

But he knows the fear he puts into me

You can’t prove you paid for him but on the upside, he won’t be able to prove that either!

You CAN prove you’ve cared for him, treated him, loved him.

He can accuse you of lying all he wants. He cannot prove you are lying because you have no lies to prove.

Stand strong lass. And done let that dog out of your sight. Ever.

If he comes sniffing round your place, get an order out to keep him away. He has no business trying to make you anxious or frightened. Bad enough by letter or phone but in person is really bad. All harassment.

What a ruddy hole.

Absolutely!! So true

He didn't even like the dog
Treated him like an object

Callus man

Hate him

If a human can’t treat an animal with care and respect, he is nothing in my eyes. Nothing.

Thank fuck you are away from him.

The dog will be fine in your love and care. They recover. It takes time but the beastie will always know where to find love. He’ll be grand. You’ll see.

It’s standard legal parlance to say “if you don’t do XXXX we will take you to court, you will lose and you will have to pay costs” to encourage/frighten the person into doing what they want. Losing party pays and his prospects of losing are extremely high.

Politely respond to his solicitor confirming that the dog is yours, you have 3 years of insurance and vet bills to show the court, and that you will be corresponding with them no further on the matter. Don’t get drawn into any argument with them just state your position and that you consider that the end of it.

I highly doubt he’ll take it as far as small claims just chancing his luck with a sol letter. If he does the judge with decide what is best for the dog -which will not be to rip it away from its home for the last three years. They too will question why now he suddenly cares.

Your mum while not an independent witness is still certainly a witness and can be utilised as such. Take a statement from her if needed.

As PP have said collect as much evidence as you can - vet bills, insurance, pictures, estimate money spent on food toys.

Thank you for so much great advice

When someone treats a dog badly speaks volumes for what they are capable of !!!

Idiot !!!

And to think that I was going to just leave the dog at a vets so he could go 'claim' him after 3 years 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

dublingirl66

My friend is going through a divorce from an abusive and violent man. (4 years and he is still trying to control everything)

As an observation from how she speaks of her Stbxh and how you speak of your ex might I make an observation

My friend calls her ex all the names under the sun but on a psychological POV I think that is giving him power in her mind. I am trying to encourage friend to think of him as an annoyance. Like a fly. Something that needs to be batted away rather than him being evil which lends more weight to his actions.

So true thank you

I am pleased your vet has helped out with the microchip, I had a sudden horrid fear yesterday that your ex would get a letter from the chip company asking if he agrees to the change of ownership... uuuuuuugh!

Glad it is all sorted and really, there is zero chance he can claim the dog was stolen (where are the crime ref number, reports of stolen dog, report to chip company of stolen dog), nor can he claim you were looking after the dog temporarily for him, because he'd have been paying dogs costs etc etc.

Greaaaaaaat

He is the fool

Now to block this man out and try to repair my life somehow 😢😢😢😢

Thank you

Just waiting for microchip paperwork now

@dublingirl66
Hi there, you have already repaired your life. This is why your ex is trying to stir things up now. Stay strong - that's what he fears!
Like previous answers - get a file and fill it with proof
Try and complete a statement of facts - judges love them!
Get your vet to write a letter about the detrimental effect that moving the dog will cause distress and confusion for the family pet and how the dog is an emotional support animal for you and your children.
Also you mention children, how old are they? If old enough get them to write a letter about their daily lives with the dog.
At the end of your statement of facts state that you want to be left alone by this man. State that, in your opinion, your ex is trying this to exert pressure and control over you.
Remember to stay strong. Do not show him that this is getting to you. Do your crying in private. Keep a diary of all of his contact from now until court.
Finally, just in case you need it, complete your own claim totalling all the costs that you've spent out on the family pet and counter with that.

With all of that supporting you against his "I just want the dog" any judge will award the dog to you. Plus if you can get a statement in to say he's not paid maintenance the judge will probably have something to say about that as well.

Make sure you refer to the dog by its name in the statement, he probably won't do this.

Remember, you are no longer a victim of this man - your a survivor! You alone got out of this relationship, rebuilt a life for yourself, your children and the dog. you did that and that's what scares him, he can't handle that which is why he is trying this now. It's time to put the war paint on and come out fighting - you are stronger than you think!

Jessi thank you so much

I will do this next week

Many thanks for your response

Got legal advice
My solicitor advised me to report to police as he is currently under investigation

That’s good, it will be more evidence against him for his investigation and in your favour for keeping your dog!

Are you feeling more positive now?

Yes thank you

He is an utter madman

It is sort of preparing me for the other court cases I have a head of me and to expect the unexpected 🙃😢😢