to think this is unacceptable from DH.

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I have spoken many times about my DH who suffers from some form of depression and has an alcohol issue. He has temporarily moved out so he can sort himself out. We are also getting counselling. In his latest fiasco, he got us a letter of eviction on our property as he has paid no rent for two months. He is without a job at the moment and has taken this room which obviously costs money, whilst not been able to afford our rent. We recieive UC at the moment. He has a high paying job so if he is working it is fine. But he is not.

When he got the letter, I asked him for all the emails sent to the LL. He had not replied to some and then not responded enough to some of them. Plus he paid NO rent. None. I was shocked. And shocked at how he is shcoked at this, as if it is happening to him and he is not at fault. He didnt know how to respond to them. I had to with a plan. I cant fathom how someone that is intelligent is like this. Is this the alcohol problem taking over? He does not drink every day and not rolling around drunk but it seems to impair something. I just cant understand it?

Do you have any support yourself eg from your own parents, siblings, close friends? Please try and get some some real life conversations going.

It is very complicated by fact you are not on the lease

Actually, it isn't that complicated. It's possible to claim housing benefit/housing costs under UC when your name is not on the tenancy if failure to do so would result in homelessness. It's not an uncommon occurrence with relationship breakdowns and bereavements. With council tax, all the OP has to do is tell the council she's now living there alone.

I am completely offended about some of these nasty comments. I am actually a SW student, so you can buggar off about SS. Are you kidding

Our safeguarding policy requires us to notify children & families social services when we find that a client with children has been issued with a S21 or S8 notice. Homelessness puts children at risk, and when a S8 is involved it's regarded as an indicator of poor coping strategies or other issues, eg addiction.

It gets early intervention for the families involved and on a couple of occasions clients have actually have rent arrears covered by an emergency grant.

I think you've made it clear that you wish to continue the relationship with him, but does he want to continue it with you?

He has moved out, and given little thought to your needs, risking that you and the children become homeless. He considers you too critical and has made it clear that he would like to continue to drink regardless of your feelings on the matter.

It sounds very like he doesn't care about you much and is trying to separate from you in order to live the life he wants to live - one where he can drink as he pleases and not have to worry about employment or providing for a family. You want him to care about these things. This is where you are going wrong. Either you accept that he does not care, and make provisions to protect yourself and your children without relying on his sobriety or financial input, or you leave.

You are putting a great deal of effort into trying to force him to care about you and the children. It doesnt sound like any of it is working.