To really dislike this post about 2020?

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I get people are trying to put a positive spin on things but we never 'needed' any of this. Ideally equality should be brought about without somebody being murdered. I think its a very privileged viewpoint to be able to change the way you 'look' at things and convince yourself there is a positive out of this situation. There has been mass suffering death and police brutality. This was not 'needed' and people should be aware of racism and equality without everything going on.

I can't think of one grand purpose of the corona virus either. I don't think some people can accept that sometimes life is unfair and awful and people suffer without it being part of some orchestrated grand plan that will work out in the end. To me if you post this it shows you are privileged enough to not have been directly affected by these things. You are using this awful year as a way to say you have been able to self reflect and go through 'personal growth'.

I think what people forget when speculating about catalysts for change is that they are onlookers they are not collateral damage. It's easy to theorise and poetise on things that effect you very little. There are people dying, suffering, struggling for this 'wake up call' so yes it's good if they do not die in vain, but it would be better if nobody died at all.

Agree it really depends on your position doesn’t it? If you were living in poverty, lost your job from COVID19 or were financially struggling, were trying to teach your kids and hold down a full time job while being cooped up indoors, got very unwell from a deadly virus or lost someone close to you who did...I doubt you’ll look back 2020 fondly as a year of growth and change!

I understand people want to put a positive spin on things and need to remain upbeat for the sake of their mental health, but I don’t think it’s fair to lump everyone in together when some have really suffered. Yes good things can come from struggle, but that sort of narrative also glosses over the sacrifice and pain. It’s ok to look back and say ‘actually it was fucking awful, thank god we survived and got through it’ rather than a somewhat twee perspective about growth and change.

YANBU

This year will be another year my family just about survived. I'm done with that shit, we already know we are resilient we know how to put silver linings round things that really don't deserve them. We know how to get through shit and try to come out wiser, better, stronger etc. But FFS can we catch a break now? Can we have the light at the end of the tunnel not just more fucking tunnel to get though? We don't need praising for our resilience, we need some peace and happiness. For so many people I know this has just been shit on top of shit on top of more shit. Enough now.

For me lockdown has been a very positive thing. It has forced me to slow down, take stock and really think about what is important to me. I've been able to spend much more time with my teenage children whilst working from home. As the shops and pubs have been closed I've saved money and realised I don't need to buy anything really other than food. I appreciate I am very very lucky to have had a secure job (which is busier than ever now and can work from home)

3LittleMonkeyz

It's coming to an end, just hang on a bit longer. I hope things improve for you.

I think it's best to say nothing except maybe to your nearest and dearest. If anyone asked me how I felt about it all or how I was coping I'd just say, "It's easier for me than for many others but I do feel sorry for those struggling and wish I could help". I certainly wouldn't go on about how wonderful it is to have space and time to examine my navel, etc, that would be rubbing salt into the very real wounds of others.

If I had young children, a job and not much income my experience would be completely different. Those of us finding it easy are very fortunate and should count our blessings and not wax lyrical about it.

I, personally, have loved lockdown, as it has given me time to really slow down and smell the bullshit.

It's nothing more than toxic positivity.

@Aloadofbolony

It's nothing more than toxic positivity.

What an oxymoron.

It's all been so utterly cringe.

At the start, I was worried I might die. When I saw Gal Gadot and Friends singing Imagine, I wanted to die.

Then you hear some fool claiming he's climbed Mount Everest in his mums house (a bit of a slap in the face to real Everest climbers), and see all those Z list celebs trying to latch on to the Captain Tom bandwagon, other "stars" claiming they might have the virus (Idris Elba with his wife constantly peering over his shoulder in ever pic springs to mind), every single worker in the country becoming a "hero" just for doing their bloody job, people obviously enjoying furlough claiming they'd rather be back at work and people on furlough claiming to be too scared to go back to work or send their kids to school whilst still managing to crowd the supermarkets, beaches and golf courses...

Then, the crying into your smartphone in the car videos, because someone called you out on something. And the overwhelmed NHS staff churning out Tik Tok videos.

All this, with a background of constantly streaming Happy Lockdown Propaganda on every channel all day every day, a wrinkled old Ian Hislop laughing hollowly at his own unfunny jokes via webcam on HIGNFY and those endless, useless, excruciating daily virus press briefings...

The end of the world I could have handled, but this interminable phoney war with its house arrest and - worse - this constant pressure to be happy. and plucky and the same as everybody else really bursts my brain.

@lydiadusbyn I love everything you have just said.

What a load of bollocks.

People desperately trying to find meaning so they can feel safe. Nothing wrong with that of course.

Still just trite waffle.

I quite like that actually. Might as well see some positivity in this all if we can.

YADDDDNBU. I scream fuck off at the tv when adverts from virtue signalling companies come on showing groups of people merrily waving on their zoom chats or hot young mums chuckling at their adorable toddlers interrupting their living room yoga sessions. Such terrible marketing.

lydiadusbyn 👏👏

It's an awful thing to post. It completely glosses over the hardship and loss for a lot of people.

@LydiaDusbyn I salute you.

Lynda07 exactly! Why would anyone rub in anyone else’s face that they’re doing great when others are in the shit? If any of my friends posted stuff like the OP shared I would cut them out of my life in real life. Very insensitive.

YANBU. That post can fuck off, and then fuck off some more.

First to admit I've posted some sickening positive posts, but I've also posted some balanced ones too. I've tried to share some happy times we've had and posts that promote awareness of some of my world views.

BUT There are an awful lot of constant updates from self-absorbed peeps. Example: every creative effort, meaningless quotes daily, 10 day challenges, how blessed they are, etc AND IT IS EVERY SINGLE DAY! Trying to be some sort of guru and I can see right through their bullshit. Give it a friggin rest and concentrate on the bigger picture love.

This

I think there are some positives for society generally, but like everything, there are individual stories which might see that benefit to an extent but it won’t help them in the here and now.

Both myself (arthritis) and my disabled child have been able to speak to whose we need to / get our med's / have our appointments by phone or Zoom

I presume you are aware the NHS is a series of separate trusts and they aren’t all doing the same thing?

I scream fuck off at the tv when adverts from virtue signalling companies come on showing groups of people merrily waving on their zoom chats

The banks are the worst. “Hey there, remember us who have spent years screwing you with overdraft fees and repossessing your homes when things were bad, now we’re all here for you”

All the adverts make me want to scream.

Every one of them a cynical load of made up bollocks. And also because they’ve been forced down the UGC route they are all basically the same collection of clips, no matter the company.

Nationwide still the worst by far.

@MintyMabel when Covid first kicked off I got a notification from my banking app asking if they could do anything to help during this tricky time etc. Maybe a grand or so would help?