To refuse to see my mum whilst she’s not taking thing seriously.

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Now we are allowed to meet up to 6 people my mum is desperate to see her grandchildren.

But I know for a fact she hasn’t really taken this seriously. She’s been socialising with others for weeks and not necessarily social distancing either. Having people around drinking etc.

Aibu to think absolutely no way am I taking the children there whilst she’s closely mixing with others?

We don’t have any health problems but both children have sen and won’t be going back school yet over there lack of understanding of social distancing.

So aibu to keep away whilst she’s mixing with others? I think I’ve upset her by saying no! I just want to keep my children safe!

Can't see any problem if none of you have health issues, and you meet in a garden and keep to the distance rule.

So at what point will you consider it safe?

Your children face less risk from covid than the risk from the drive there. And are seemingly extremely unlikely to pass the virus on.

My mum has gone the other way. She was so OTT that I don't want to meet up in their garden again, until this is all over. She's normally very level headed and lovely. But made me feel like a leper and panicked every time I touched anything!

I think your kids will be fine.
However, you are their mother.
I do think @borntohula makes a good point.
Can you at least give your DM a date to look forward to?

Thanks all. I am not so sure. My mums been in contact with all lot of people and I know she hasn’t been social distancing with them. She’s friends with someone who works in a hospital too. Also, as mentioned my children have sen so I can’t trust them fully to social distance at my mums. I am just so unsure right now.

I will feel safe when she starts taking it seriously and actually social distances from people herself!

My dad is the same. He does take it seriously but he keeps "forgetting" to socially distance. He cannot just sit down on a chir and let the kids move around the garden. He's up walking about and interfering with things. Because of this my husband won't let them come around still.

I’ve said similar about my dp’s dad and stepmum. I know they are breaking the rules and don’t trust them to follow social distancing when they come round or if we go round there, so it isn’t happening!

Dp met them for a walk though just him.