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Now illegal to have sex with partner you don't live with?

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Sueannnnna · 01/06/2020 11:46

Lots of newspapers/online articles announcing this today.
Being in a private place with partner and having sex can lead to a £100 fine if i've read correctly.

The world is going cuckoo.
But who cares about seeing my boyfriend, at least I can go shopping in Primark and go sit on a packed train (sarcasm)

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Mascotte · 01/06/2020 18:32

So much better! I was going proper mental andthat was "only" six weeks. I'm much more able to cope now😊

trappedsincesundaymorn · 01/06/2020 18:32

Also (from a police constable friend), it opens up a whole can of worms regarding malicious calls, especially from those with a "history" with neighbours, ex partners etc, so although a complaint will be logged the chances of it being followed up is, in his words, " nil, to fuck all".

Namechange8186 · 01/06/2020 18:37

I take my hat off to anyone who has managed to Not sneak a visit in with a dp who you don’t live with with . Mine is in another country ( for work ) so it’s 3 months since Iv seen him now And no idea when It will be next due to this Situation .
There is no way I wouldn’t have seen him For this long if it was possible to get to each other . It’s seriously affecting my mental health now amongst other issues due to this situation also

People who act like oh it’s pathetic if you can’t go without a shag .. it’s really not just about that is it as you I’m sure you know full well!!

bloodyhellsbellsx · 01/06/2020 18:37

Ah I feel sorry for people with partners who have been separated throughout this. Can’t have a cheeky neck on with your boyfriend but you can sit with swarms of people for hours on public transport or next to strangers on a packed beach?!

I think as along as neither of you are on the shielded list then go for it! Have some fun, it’s been a long few months 😂

Sunnydays123456 · 01/06/2020 18:42

@Blondie1980s kids of divorced parents have always been able to go back and forth between houses

Tianalia · 01/06/2020 18:44

It's not about the sex though is it. It's about sensationalist reporting. Because nobody can go in your house, apart from to use the toilet due to the covid risk. So it's stands to reason you won't be having sex in the house with someone who isn't part of the same household. Nor will you be dining indoors, watching the TV together indoors or any of the numerous other things you might do indoors with someone not from your household. So many newspapers reporting it in this way today. Absolute shite reporting.

RabbityMcRabbit · 01/06/2020 18:51

If DC jumped off a cliff would you feel that it would be fine to jump off after him? not me personally no, but you only have to look at the huge numbers at the beach etc over the weekend to know that his actions, together with Bozo's refusal to sack him, had been responsible for compromising the government's rules

loobyloo1234 · 01/06/2020 18:57

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Vanhi · 01/06/2020 19:00

People who act like oh it’s pathetic if you can’t go without a shag .. it’s really not just about that is it as you I’m sure you know full well!!

Yes. I have had prolonged periods of being single - 5 years and more sometimes. I coped just fine. However, being separated from someone you love is different. Being single - great, fine, crack on. Having a boyfriend and not being able to touch him when he lives 15 minutes away and I'm not allowed there? That's extraordinarily difficult.

Yes, I know worse things happen at sea.

loobyloo1234 · 01/06/2020 19:01

This works two ways.

How so @Jingstohang ? Who is bragging and patronising on here about breaking rules to see their partner? I’ve not seen anyone do that on here. Only measured reasons as to why they have or have not seen their DP’s?

Hearhoovesthinkzebras · 01/06/2020 19:06

[quote loobyloo1234]@PatricksRum yes. Imagine patronising others because you haven’t been out in 3 months. Also why haven’t you answered when asked about your situation with a DP?

It is all well and good judging others from your ivory tower but some people would not be able to do 3 months with zero contact with the person they love the most in the world. Maybe try to think of others beside yourself and people would be a lot more sympathetic. If you think it’s ok that the Government force non co-habiting partners not to see one another (not just for sex) what a sad life you lead. It is not natural and it is not normal[/quote]
But those of us who are shielding are having to do exactly that. We've been told to stay 2 metres apart from our household members and to sleep in a separate bed to our partners, so we don't have to imagine what it's like - we are experiencing it too. We have also had to deal with a much stricter lockdown too.

The problem is now that anyone not shielding has had lockdown eased even more, so you can meet up in small groups for example (the shielded still can't) but even with the relaxed terms so many people want to push it even further or just ignore the rules completely. What that will do is push the R back up and then make them lockdown again and then those of us shielding will be forced back indoors again.

Why can't people just stick to the rules, help to.keep the R down so that everyone gets some increased freedoms - kids can go back to school, hospitals can get back to normal and those of us shielding can actually get to meet up with family or possibly get back to work? Instead it seems that some people want to get everything even if that means others get nothing.

PatricksRum · 01/06/2020 19:06

It is all well and good judging others from your ivory tower but some people would not be able to do 3 months with zero contact with the person they love the most in the world. Maybe try to think of others beside yourself and people would be a lot more sympathetic.

I have depression amongst other things. I'm actually really struggling. I've had to speak to the crisis team daily. I think I'm close to a breakdown.

So no it's not I can do it, I need to do it. For my health and my dc's health.

You think shielded people are shielding because they can?

Shielding people could write their circumstances all over mumsnet like stew has and it would bring you to tears. I'm not doing it because I can. I'm doing it because I have to. When I'm close to breaking I just think, how would I feel if my dc died? That's the reality.

Now illegal to have sex with partner you don't live with?
Jingstohang · 01/06/2020 19:06

If you think it’s ok that the Government force non co-habiting partners not to see one another (not just for sex) what a sad life you lead. It is not natural and it is not normal

They're not though. Not now at least. They're saying you can't see each other inside.

I know it's tough, I spent 10 weeks not seeing my partner there, but also, getting on top of this virus means we are all making sacrifices.

Jingstohang · 01/06/2020 19:07

Hearhoovesthinkzebras exactly this.

PatricksRum · 01/06/2020 19:08

I have openly said that I have been seeing my partner week on week off during the lockdown. We will continue to do so

How so @Jingstohang ? Who is bragging and patronising on here about breaking rules to see their partner? I’ve not seen anyone do that on here. Only measured reasons as to why they have or have not seen their DP’s?

Just one of the bragging comments ^^

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PatricksRum · 01/06/2020 19:18

@StewPots It just comes across as you listing your multiple grievances as reasons to break lockdown rules.

Its not a competition. You're not at the bottom. The rules are for everyone.

Sorry but I find your posts to be guilt-tripping. You're going through a hard time but aren't we all? You're no worse off than the people sticking to the rules.

borntohula · 01/06/2020 19:19

PatricksRum but coronavirus will still exist in 3 months? Maybe non-cohabiting couples believe that nothing much will change between now and then. We will be at just as much risk of catching it then as we are now.

PatricksRum · 01/06/2020 19:19

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PatricksRum · 01/06/2020 19:21

I don't want to be apart of this thread. It came up again because I was tagged (grr)
My only point is the rules are for all. The law is for all.
Good (sunny) day to everyone

StewPots · 01/06/2020 19:21

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PatricksRum · 01/06/2020 19:23

@StewPots I don't need to know about them. I'm not trying to be rude. I found your posts personally attacking me "Are you actually shielded like my family with cancer?" For example.
The whole point is the rules are for everyone. Black, white, sad, happy

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Sueannnnna · 01/06/2020 19:25

@PatricksRum but not everybody is sheilding! Yes some people are but that doesn't mean other people are going to stay in the house when they havent been told to shield.
There comes a point when humans have to learn to live with the virus.
In March, many non-cohabiting couples oblijed because they didnt think it would go on this long. We're now going into June and still no sign of an end.
When there's no sign of an end but other parts of life (much more likely to increase the spread than couples) are going back to normal then of course couples are going to meet up.

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