To offer to look after this fucking dog?

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My neighbour thought it would be a great idea to buy a very needy, clingy puppy while she fucks off out to work all day. Today she went back from furlough and the fucking thing is already going absolutely berserk. I've had her about it twice before and to be fair to her she is trying various things to calm it down. It's less than 6 months old. But the bottom line is it's a puppy and they are NOT designed for this. I can't see an end to it and she won't rehome it, which she should if she loves it. I'm working from home. I need to concentrate. Puppy is fine when with people. So muggins here is considering offering to have her responsibility here in my house, providing for free what would normally be a very expensive service during the day so it sits down and shuts the fuck up. Only until I go back to the office later this year. So unfair. I don't want to report her it would just be so awkward!

That's a very kind offer. But do bear in mind that at six months old, the puppy will need quite a bit of attention and supervision from you - regular toilet breaks, a walk, playtime. Otherwise it may find its own entertainment and you will look up after a suspiciously peaceful hours work to find it's chewed your shoes or dug up the flowers in your garden...

Do you know if she's out any arrangements in place e.g a dog walker going in this morning and afternoon, a family member coming over or a family member coming in.
When we had our puppy after our first month off we had to go back to work. We had paid for someone to come in 3 times a day as well as both of us coming back for our lunch breaks. Unfortunately not everyone can be at home all the time if they have a dog but it doesn't mean they are mistreated.

I just don’t get people like this. She loves the dog. But it is suffering. She is causing its suffering. It needs company and attention. It is a commitment. Sorry,, I’m not being much help.

She literally leaves it from 7pm to 6pm, sometimes the boyfriend comes back from work in the afternoon but not always. She said she's going to have him trained... but it's a dog at the end of the day he wants to be outdoors, exercised and using his legs. You can't train a dog to be a fucking cat! It starts howling within the hour never mind all day long.

Sorry 7am

What’s it doing for toileting, I don’t think a poor puppy could hold it that long could it?

I think it’s a lot for you to take on OP

It's a bit of a double whammy for the poor pup. It absolutely shouldn't be left that long, especially at that age. Adding on to that, if your neighbour had been furloughed, the puppy, the puppy would be used to her being at home with the puppy for the majority of the day and is unlikely to have had any gradual training to be left. If it's going beserk it probably has separation anxiety.

You would need to consider the repercussions of taking this on. If you have the puppy with you, it's likely not just going to sit quietly by your side. What happens if the puppy gets lost or injured in your care? And then the expectations of you to do this for her could lead anywhere. Never mind the fact that if the puppy does have separation anxiety, when you go back to work, the poor puppy is just going to start going beserk when alone again

Well she doesn't deserve the dog and you are obviously an angel but I can't see that being a solution because the dog's going to fall in love with you and then what?

Ha I'm no angel let's be honest guys I'm only doing this for myself. When the dog is with her or she has people over it sits quite happily in the garden chewing a toy. There will be the occasional bark postman or hoover etc, but he seems fine to just chill out. He just can't be on his own and as soon as he knows he is he cries, howls and barks until she is back 😕 I don't know what she was thinking!

I saw my name in your title so thought I should respond! What a lovely generous offer, you’re obviously a kind person, prepare for the pup wanting to move in permanently though 😉

Don’t take on the puppy, it’s a sticking plaster. Tell them one more time about the issues and if nothing changes report to the council as a noise nuisance and/or RSPCA as obviously the puppy is distressed.

Oh god if he's crying all day I'd get over my scruples and dob her in it. I mean if it was a child you wouldn't think twice, right? She doesn't care about it and it's not on.

What breed is the pup op?

If having a dog fits into your routine then offer. Why not ? You get the enjoyment and none of the bills.
Do have a think / chat about injury / escape from you etc though. Dog minders have insurance.
Be aware your property may be damaged.

Be very aware you take this on rain or shine every working day potentially for 10+ years really too ( though clearly an older dog is more likely to be ok to be left for a bit ).

Also that she might hand the dog to you 100% when she gets bored of it. End of lockdown re homing if puppies is already a depressing thing.

This is going to be repeated in 1000s of homes where all the selfish twats got a dog for lockdown.
There’ll be another surge of dogs being given up to rescue in the next few months purely down to sheer stupidity.
You can’t leave a puppy 11 hours a day, your ndn is an idiot.

Absolutely no chance! Again I would only be doing it until I'm back at work it's her problem then and I'll be making that extremely clear. As I said I'm not doing it to help her, I have no problem saying no to people I'm no pushover believe me.

Dog is a GS Pointer.

If you look after the puppy, you will end up owning a dog. I'd bet my house on it!

So, unless you want a dog ...

I'd do it in a heartbeat if I didn't have a dog of my own. In fact, that's how I came to have my first dog - looked after him for a friend of a friend, who was between flats, who then (allegedly) got a job that involved a lot of travelling, by which time I'd got very fond of him.

I had that dog for 16 years, he was great.

She doesn’t love the puppy. She’s an arsehole.

Threaten to report her although the RSPCA are useless and won’t be interested. She might not know that though.

She needs to get a dog sitter - my brother is out of the house 8-6 most days and his dog his cares for by quite an expensive sitter who cares for dogs in their property, walks them and cares for them - it's around £15 a day I think but it's what you do if you have a dog and you're out all day
Perhaps take some videos and send them to her at her work. Or phone her at work when her dog is creating so she gets an idea of how difficult it is for you to do your own job

We have a puppy and it's chaos trying to get anything done. It's like having a troublesome toddler. She tends to get her biting, barking zoomies whenever dc need help with their school work or while I'm on an important zoom meeting. It takes an age to get ready to go out. I think reporting the issue is probably the kindest thing for you and the dog. Puppies should not be being left for more than very short times never mind nearly 12 hours. That's so cruel.

I don't think you can offer this, whatever your motives. It would quickly become something that ties you up, you'll be taking more responsibility for her dog than she is. The next thing would be her going on holiday and wanting you to dog sit. I'm afraid I'd have to be having a proper conversation with her and emphasising that what she's doing is very cruel.

That's interesting. A neighbour has a GSP that has terrible separation anxiety and cries a lot when left. Neighbour is a dog walker, so thankfully doesn't have to leave it often.

I hate people who do this!

I would absolutely never have a dog, especially a pedigree. I don't want the commitment or the expense. I don't even like dogs they are too needy. This is literally for a few weeks. I will reassure him and give him a fuss and take him for a walk but I will not fall in love with it, you either love dogs or you don't.