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Bad taste to enjoy lockdown

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schooba · 27/05/2020 07:26

To think it's bad taste for people to enjoy lockdown?

I think some people are sleeping and in total denial to the damage of it.

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Samtsirch · 27/05/2020 08:42

It’s not bad taste to be positive and optimistic and to make the most of a bad situation and to find enjoyment where you can.
People in the most dire situations find joy and positives in the smallest things and it is this strength of the human spirit that helps people overcome awful experiences.

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Chloemol · 27/05/2020 08:44

Different people feel different things about lockdown. You may fee, it’s in bad taste to say so, but I don’t, each to their own

Yes some may not understand how it impacts on others, or the economy but then may feel its bad taste for people like you to consider that enjoying lockdown is not on and everyone should be miserable

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yelyah22 · 27/05/2020 08:44

My OH has just lost his job and we're struggling for money. We know people who have died of covid-19.

We're still both enjoying no commute, more quality time spent together, no social plans (we're both introverts who had several big events coming up we really didn't want to go to!), the lack of expectation because we can't go anywhere, time to garden and walk and do DIY around the house we're usually too tired to do, just a slower pace of life.

I'm dreading things going back to normal, much as I'll be glad that it means the virus has abated for a bit. I don't really care if someone thinks that's in poor taste - modern life is fast paced and there is so much pressure to DO stuff all the time. Lockdown has been a godsend for my mental health.

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Redwren · 27/05/2020 08:47

Yabu
Everyone is different, life as it is currently suits me down to the ground, obviously I hope the pandemic will be over soon and it's awful for people who have lost loved ones.
I do not know anyone who has had it, a couple of friends of friends have had it and got past it but I feel like I am living in a lovely bubble with my husband and my kids and honestly I've never been happier. I empathise that some people are struggling and miss all the socialising and busy lives but I felt under pressure to be seeing people and having it all and going to events every weekend which I didn't really want to so why should I shut up and be miserable just because it's the other way around now

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lazylinguist · 27/05/2020 08:47

It's poor taste to want to keep the entire population locked up indefinitely because you are a lazy and boring person. You always had the option to never go anywhere or do anything.

Enjoying lockdown doesn't mean you selfishly want it to continue. And some people are going out to do more exercise and doing plenty at home with their families because they don't normally have the option, due to being at work! I'm considerably less lazy during my lockdown leisure time than I am in leisure time in normal life. My teenagers, dh and I will be hiking and swimming in a lake today, canoeing tomorrow. So lazy Hmm.

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lubeybooby · 27/05/2020 08:48

The whole thing is fucking awful and I'm massively frustrated and angry but no one on my social media would know that because I don't complain and I've been actively trying to enjoy myself and pass the time

Enjoying myself in lockdown doesn't mean I think it's a good thing. Should we all sit on the sofa with our sad faces on for fuck knows how long? Maybe really ramp it up and wear full mourning dress, black veils and make fun a serious offence.

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Nihiloxica · 27/05/2020 08:49

People in the most dire situations find joy and positives in the smallest things

Sure, but there are many people for whom this is anything but a dire situation.

They actually love that the entire country has had its rights suspended for months, that we have suspended our society and all it does to protect people and keep them safe and well, and that our economy is at a virtual standstill.

There is a massive difference between being an optimist and being delighted by a situation that is causing so much harm.

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DontGoJasonWaterfalls · 27/05/2020 08:50

I'm enjoying the roads being clearer as I drive in for my NHS shifts.

If that makes me selfish, so be it.

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Yearcat13 · 27/05/2020 08:50

I love lockdown. On full pay but have to do minimal work, top 5 hours a week. I live in a stunning area on the coast in my own house, alone. I'm getting fit, writing lots, it's a very creative time.

How is my happiness in bad taste? Is it more acceptable to you if I get a major depressive episode?

Tbe last thing the world needs is my misery.

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schooba · 27/05/2020 08:50

There is a massive difference between being an optimist and being delighted by a situation that is causing so much harm.

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heartsonacake · 27/05/2020 08:51

YABVU. I’ve been absolutely loving lockdown! It’s given me so much time to focus on me and I love spending so much time with DH.

I don’t want it to end Grin

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Nihiloxica · 27/05/2020 08:52

Enjoying lockdown doesn't mean you selfishly want it to continue.

Not necessarily.

But there does seem to be a large overlap between the people who are loving it and the people who think any easing of restrictions is impossible and far too dangerous.

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iamtheoneandonlyyy · 27/05/2020 08:54

We all enjoy life usually in normal times and barely acknowledge the suffering going on elsewhere. It's no different just because this time we are involved

I know there are some that do donate and help etc etc

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schooba · 27/05/2020 08:55

Lol hearts

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MaggieFS · 27/05/2020 08:55

How odd. Of course it's not bad taste. Bad taste would be to then gloat at those struggling, or to be unsympathetic to those who have lost loved ones, but if you are able to enjoy it, then why not?

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LondonJax · 27/05/2020 08:55

I've enjoyed the fact that DH, who normally works away from home during the week, has been home.

I've enjoyed the time to sit in the garden to enjoy the birdsong (which is amplified because of the lack of cars or planes).

I'm getting fed up with the queuing at the supermarket but it's OK at the moment as people are spreading the visits out. Goodness knows what it'll be like when people get back to work and all descend on the place on the same days. Going for milk on the way to get a prescription and popping into the post office will turn from an hour or so into a whole morning, mostly spent queuing. That'll be fun...

I often find myself thinking 'oh, lovely day, let's go to x' and realising that 'x' probably isn't open, we can't travel anyway and we'd have to think about social distancing. So the weather is great, we're off work but it's like being a kid and not being allowed to go in the sweetshop!

But, I do think about others. My mum died, not from Covid, just before lock down. We had a surreal funeral for her - we had a month's wait for the funeral, couldn't get a florist as they were all gradually closing so it was EBay silk flowers, only 5 people at the funeral, music through a phone into the speakers as the crematorium suddenly said the normal attendant was in lockdown so there was no music (two days before the funeral - thankfully the funeral director stepped in), we had to sit two metres apart, no hugs. So I really do think about that every time they announce a Covid death. It's awful.

But that's only heightened my thankfulness for the fact that, at the moment, our family is untouched by Covid itself. I refuse to feel guilty for that or for the fact that, for the moment, I get pleasure from taking my foot off the accelerator.

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Nihiloxica · 27/05/2020 08:56

If that makes me selfish, so be it.

It does.

Even if you are a saintly NHS worker.

You'll be glad to know that those roads will continue to be quiet because a lot of the people of furlough are unemployed and won't be going back.

Yay Hmm

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schooba · 27/05/2020 08:57

You'll be glad to know that those roads will continue to be quiet because a lot of the people of furlough are unemployed and won't be going back.

👏🏻

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heartsonacake · 27/05/2020 08:57

@schooba

Lol hearts

I wasn’t joking Confused
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Sodamncold · 27/05/2020 08:58

Two people in life

  1. Carve out the positives in life. Sometimes takes effort but that’s for they approach life. Take pleasure from the small things in life.


  1. Think it’s bad taste to “sleep in” during lockdown
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CockCarousel · 27/05/2020 08:59

I wonder what we should do about it. Have a 2 minute hate each week, make sure everybody's on the same page re. feelings? Or give police the power to fine people that are smiling?

That'll teach em.

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Nihiloxica · 27/05/2020 09:00

You can just feel the fear of this killer virus oozing out of these posts about sitting around doing fuck all in the sunshine.

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Sodamncold · 27/05/2020 09:00

I’m divorced
Single parent of two young children
Lost both my parents in my early twenties
No family support network whatsoever
Been made redundant

According to you OP I should be grim faced.

I’m not. I’m happy.

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vanillandhoney · 27/05/2020 09:02

It's poor taste to want to keep the entire population locked up indefinitely because you are a lazy and boring person.

How unpleasant and judgmental.

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ChilliCheese123 · 27/05/2020 09:02

Life is wayyy too short to be miserable and hand wringing every day

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