Bad taste to enjoy lockdown

[schooba]

To think it's bad taste for people to enjoy lockdown?

I think some people are sleeping and in total denial to the damage of it.

@schooba

So yes you have children

So imagine they are say 10 and 8 and express delight at fact that due to lockdown they have more time with their parents; more time out in the sun; more time in bed in the morning

All as a direct result of lockdown.

Would you be dismayed and tell them how inappropriate their happiness is?

Because my two have expressed these sentiments and I’ve embraced it. They know the situation and empathise but damn it - I LOVE the fact I’m getting to spend so much time with my children and that they love it.

And that is as direct result of.... corona virus and lockdown.

Don't be ridiculous. Everyone has to get through this the best they can, and if that means eating extra cake, drinking more wine or whatever, so be it.

My dd is enjoying it, simply because she has a demanding job, works long hours, and commutes. She's been furloughed so has had a lovely restful couple of months off, and I don't begrudge her (or anyone else) that.

This doesn't mean I don't sympathise or worry about people who are struggling with it, for whatever reason.

There are people who are enjoying it too much if the parties in the park and the packed out beaches are anything to go.

I find that we’re all doing the best we can. I’ve seen an abundance of sympathy for those having a shit time of it. YABU.

There's nothing wrong with seeing silver linings and making the most of a difficult situation.

It is bad taste to assume everyone is on an extended holiday. Many people are having a torrid time for a variety of reasons either caused or exacerbated by the lockdown.

Balance is important.

I am a keyworker so still going out to work but liking lockdown when I'm at home

Well, it's up to people what they enjoy or not; we're not the enjoyment police! So put in exactly those terms ('people who enjoy it') YABU. However, YANBU to find it irritating when people are smug about it, and preach about how lockdown is a time for self-improvement/ learning to appreciate the simple things of life/ developing a better work-life balance/ etc. When many people are absolutely terrified of (a) dying, or worse, becoming a permanent invalid from Covid; (b) financial ruin; (c) both.

People are making the best of a difficult time.
Sometimes it feels like some people on this site wont be happy unless everyone else is living in completely misery 24/7.

I’ve certainly enjoyed parts of lockdown.

Doesn’t mean I’m not sympathetic to those who are suffering.

I’m not going to apologise for finding silver linings. Finding them is the way I’ve survived much loss and I’ll be dammed if I give that up now when it’s needed most.

I think safe to say the OP has crawled back under her dark cloud with her lip curled in distaste

Just hope her kids are allowed to express happiness during this time without an arched eyebrow response from their mother

I’m enjoying it and feel no shame. Both I and my husband can do our full time jobs perfectly well from home. I feel dreadfully sorry for those out of work and am glad that it doesn’t affect me. However, it doesn’t affect me so I’m just going to carry on until I’m told of any changes and enjoy lie in’s, money savings and more time with my family.

I've enjoyed a lot of it. Some parts have been difficult. But what am I supposed to do? Sit around being miserable? That would make things worse for DS who is my priority, so making the most of it and having some fun seems the best option to keep the three of us as mentally and physically healthy as possible in the circumstances.

And if, god forbid, anyone close to us caught Covid-19 and became seriously ill I'd prefer it if they'd been having some nice times before that, rather than sitting round being all doom and gloom and unhappy.

Life is short, make the most of it.

@GrolliffetheDragon
Well said .

Iv honestly really enjoyed most of lockdown. Yes I miss my extended family and my friends and have had numerous things cancelled however my DP and I often work opposite shifts so we are rarely all together as a family. 10 weeks of being in the house and being paid for it has been priceless.

You can’t tell people how to feel. But maybe you just meant that those in a good position should be careful not to rub that in other peoples’ faces.

@PollyPelargonium52

I just love the weather right now not just because we are getting plenty of sunshine but the air feels so pure as so much less pollution around. It is like reconnecting with mother nature.

That’s been an amazing benefit of the lockdown, the environment having a chance to recover

@Sparklesocks

People are making the best of a difficult time. Sometimes it feels like some people on this site wont be happy unless everyone else is living in completely misery 24/7.

Totally agree with this.

YABVU OP.

I wouldn't go out shouting about what a wonderful time I'm having, but there's nothing wrong with enjoying your life. There are always people suffering, but simultaneously there are people having the best days of their lives.

The key is to be sensitive-- i.e. don't corner a freshly grieving family and expect them to cheer because you just got engaged/were hired for your dream job/etc.

But people being happy won't make things worse than they already are, just as people being miserable won't make it better.

I'm not furloughed, and WFH, but looking at OP's other thread, it sounds like she's annoyed because her friends don't have to be in the office anymore.

"I know things are difficult for everyone now but I feel so frustrated with things. I'm a mum to twin toddlers.
A stay at home mum so I have it easier compared to parents that have to work but I'm so fed up right now. I haven't had an afternoon to move ahead with anything. My to do list is long - but I don't have the headspace to do it.
I feel like I'm a zombie going from one day to another. My friends don't have kids and they all work for the government - they're basically on a massive holiday and have got all the time in the world for diy.
There are so many people suffering under this lockdown and it's a kick in the teeth when there people benefiting."

Who's going to acknowledge the suffering of spending 10+ hours a week on crammed overpriced public transport? Of not having enough sleep five days a week? Of not having any energy for hobbies? I don't care if you label me antisocial or "in bad taste", lockdown is a magnificent reset, but I doubt it'll change anything.

I've enjoyed myself a lot. I was exhausted and grieving and this space has really helped me rest and recover. It was amazing to see nature bouncing back in the beginning and I'm sad that we will all go right back to polluting the earth.

I've enjoyed the slow pace of life immensely.
I'm a key worker (school..so just a handful of children compared with normal) but only actually in school half the week.. the other half I have loved being able to take a long walk in the sunshine with my dog, do online work, no commuting.

Just the few extra hours at home has meant time to do the garden, time to spend on my guitar.

But that doesn't mean I'm not sympathetic to others...my DD1 is a doctor on Covid wards..and I haven't seen her since february. My DD2 is a nurse..thankfully lives with me with her partner.. who is at high risk. My DS2 is a keyworker also... so it's not been all fun and games. I miss my Mum , 130 miles away and shielding.

But I'll take the sunshine, the phone and video calls, the quiet, and I love having no pressure to socialise! And I feel nature has had a chance to reset the balance a tiny bit... so many birds, foxes, deer around where I live and that is a real bonus.

I loathe lockdown, it's screwed up my mental health to the point I nearly got sectioned a few weeks ago but I'm glad some people are enjoying it. Why would anyone want everyone to suffer? It turns out my ptsd wasn't fixed by therapy, I'd just found coping mechanisms (most of which involved being too busy to think). My Grandmother died in march, I think in many ways lockdown has impeded my ability to grieve or accept her death as I haven't seen family including my mum since and I couldn't attend the funeral.

There are some positives for us. Dh has spent more time with our children. They've spent a lot more time together and have been playing together really well. The house is tidier. We've done tons of crafts and cooking as I've searched for distractions but I'd much rather have my non stop non triggered life back.

There are so many people suffering under this lockdown and it's a kick in the teeth when there people benefiting

Funnily enough, it's never a kick in the teeth when others are suffering in normal times!

Comparing yourself to others is always going to end up in tears when you look up.

Very true ProsperTheBear