Any first time mums with own eggs age 46 after recurrent m/c history?

[Getintogear963]

Hi ladies
Just wondering if there’s any of you who’ve become first time mum’s around age 45-46 with own eggs and trying naturally?
I’m 45 not yet a mum. My history is (from age 39 to 43) : a Down’s syndrome aborted pregnancy (baby was very ill) followed by 4 miscarriages. I also had one round IVF in June 2017 but didn’t get pregnant.
My last m/c was Dec 2017 and I’ve done nothing since! But hubby and I thinking to get back on horse again and give it one more year to just go for it and try. We want our own biological baby.
Any success stories you can share? I know it would be a miracle but these can happen!
I’m 45, periods still like clock work and to date after seeing several top specialists and investigating the NK cell route through to so many others.... (I’m an expert!) the reality is that it’s just been “bad luck” for me. There’s always a chance of throwing a six in the dice.... I’d love to hear from you successful older first time mums! Thank you 😊

SerenDippitty - No - in all cases it wasn't their first baby. As to infertility /miscarriage - in one case - I would say unlikely as parents had over 10 children prior to twins born when the mum (my great grandmother as it happens) was 47. In the other 2 cases, I'm afraid as far as miscarriage/infertility - I really have no way of knowing. In one of the other cases, the child was born naturally and unplanned to a mum age 51 and the baby was the 3rd child - her other children were well into adulthood.

Those women had already proven fertility then. That's why I think these stories can be quite harmful. Their circumstances don't usually apply to the person asking.

Hey, just joined. Am 45 with baby 3. Natural. We have two little boys, I had them at 40 and 41. We had a tfmr two years ago due to health problems with little one. Older mums need support and there’s not much out there!

Hi OP; I conceived my first DC at age 41, second at 43, delivering age 44. Both own eggs.
Could I also suggest you look at a Facebook group called ‘we are geriatric mums’ and pose the question there too?
Big hugs x

I have two friends born in the 60s whose mothers were late forties.

On the other side of the coin, both of these friends lost their mothers when they were still very young.

It’s for this reason (and I know you can lose a parent at any time, any age), that I would not want to have a child after 40.

I’m 37 and I wouldn’t have another child now. I only have one, and I would love to give her a sibling but I feel the risks are too high. Genetic problems increase with age. The risk of autism terrifies me to my very soul (young family member is autistic). I wouldn’t want to be a lifetime carer for a disabled child that I brought into the world knowing that the pregnancy was risky. You could be kissing goodbye to your entire future. The posts written on her by mothers held prisoner by children that will never live independently are horrifying. And of course I’ve seen directly how tough life with a disabled child is. It’s not a life I would toss a coin against.

My housekeeper was born in 63 and had a baby girl in 2009, so 46. Her first, she was previosly married for 5 years- nothing. Divorced then conceived on a ONS. Little girl is 11, perfect and apple of her Mum's eye.

@Osirus
I know it’s awful, but a friend of mine has a little boy with autism who she fell pregnant with at 17 and a little girl with autism she fell with at 21.
I’ve got friends with autistic children who fell pregnant in their late 20’s and early thirties. the three children I know with life limiting conditions were all born to mums under 35
actually young mothers have unwell babies too.

I do understand. I feel very lucky and as mentioned have lost a baby due to my age. It’s more about choices and thank goodness we have them. Life, careers, health, family. As you say it doesn’t matter what age you are life throws you lemons at time’s. It’s being a positive parent regardless of age.

realise this is an old post - how did you get on OP? Hope it all worked out well for you whatever way that is xxx