Help! Anyone ! The local police just called me

[Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme]

Exactly that - my DH went out when I was washing up and have not heard from him since . That was about 830-9. Eight minutes ago a woman rang me and said that he was at the local police station , they couldn't say why and that he was fine. That he would call me in the morning . I can't speak to him he is asleep and no one is hurt and he is ok but they could not ring earlier as they have been busy . What does this even mean ??? Why would they call to say that ? Am panicked and thinking up alsorts and unlikely to sleep now . Can anyone help me ? Please xx

. Why should you feel ashamed. You're in no way responsible for the idiotic down right selfish actions of another adult. He's a big boy, Hemade a choice to get behind the wheel under the influence

@Chinchinatti
Just stop it now. Clearly you are not in the industry (or if you are you are not very good at it!) because you seem to have no clue that not all forces work the same as the Met. Right from your first post saying the OP was lying because you can't contact police stations - utter rubbish! Each force has it's own way of dealing with things. Many keep drunks in to sleep it off. Many release early doors and many give lifts home to said drunks to make sure they get home safely.

@Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme You have nothing to be ashamed of, your chin can stay up. This was your DH's decision and the shame is all his. Going forward, please now do what is best for you and the children. He must start taking responsibility for all his actions. All the very best to you and I hope you come back one day soon and tell us you are free of this dead weight.

Is nobody else thinking he has potentially met up with another woman & they have fabricated this between them in order to excuse him not coming back home?

Nope - just you

OP so sorry you’re going through this. I hope he gets some help for his drinking.

In the current situation they would not want to keep him any longer than necessary.
OP I think this is your final wake up call to leave him/chuck him out. 💐

@Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme - so sorry to read yet another thread about your husband.

Don't you think you have been through enough with him? It's not going to get any better - your previous threads show that.

Please save yourself from a lifetime of misery, stress and worry.

@Chinchinatti ahhh you sound like an absolute peach “Well, you chose to marry him. You made your bed - now lie in it.” Maybe you should think of a career in marriage counseling? Don’t go into law and order as it turns out you know nothing about... well anything so far.

So sorry OP, this is not your fault though and you are not responsible for his actions.

I agree with PPs and think that you would be better off without him in your life. A drunk who can't hold down a job and thinks driving under the influence is acceptable is neither a good husband or father.

I've just RTFT. I'm so sorry this has happened. I'm not usually a LTB kind of poster, but in this case I do think you should consider it. Just remember you have nothing to be ashamed of.

As for you @Chinchinatti, you're a nasty piece of work.

@Chinchinatti

Once again, you are showing your ignorance. It is nothing to do with money. The OP's DH will have been driven home to ensure he gets home safely. Irrespective of what he has done, the Police have a duty of care to the public.

All I have done is to temper the OP's expectations

No. You accused her of lying and posted several things as absolute fact which turned out to be wrong and unhelpful.
And then you launched a burning arrow of unhelpful judgement.

Time to reconsider what you're doing on MN really. Does it make you feel good to put other people down even when you get proved wrong so quickly?

I'm so sorry OP. He sounds like a complete idiot and I am sorry for you and your children that he has put you through all this.

In relation to drink driving, if he was actually driving then yes, he'll lose his licence for a minimum of 12 months. The length of the ban depends on the level of the reading; the higher the reading the longer the ban. You mentioned he had form for this? If he's been convicted of drink driving before within the previous 10 years then he'll lose it for a minimum of 3 years. He also may not just be handed it back automatically. If the reading is high, or he has done this before the DVLA are likely to want to do checks on him to ensure be isn't an alcoholic etc

It may be that he's been caught whilst "in charge" so not actually driving. Maybe he pulled up somewhere and fell asleep in the car and was found like that, in which case it's not an automatic ban, it's 10 points on his licence.

Whatever happens he clearly needs help with his drinking as from what you've described he sounds like he has an addiction. He should be very, very thankful he hasn't hurt someone. Hopefully he'll learn from this.

Please dont feel ashamed OP, if you knew nothing about his drink driving it's really not your fault. I'm sorry he has put you through this.
However this is his 2nd time drink driving, he clearly never learnt his lesson did he. Knowing families that have lost loved ones due to drink drivers, I'm really anti drink driving. He clearly is a selfish scumbag who puts his own needs before safety of others. Probably worth rethinking your relationship with him when you have got yourself together & had some sleep. Put yourself first xx

Op I hope this is the wake up call you needed to drop this dead weight. Don't feel ashamed of his actions. If anything this is proof that you are married to a complete loser and it's ok to get rid.

Really you should have gone to sleep and left him looking after the kids today. Wake him up when kids get up and make him take over and you get some sleep

So sorry this is happening, MyDog
Is the car ok? Where is it?
Re-evaluation time, clearly.

Oh. I hit the nail on the head then 😂