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Hyperemesis and Waters breaking at 14weeks +3 PPROM

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DyingfromHG · 22/05/2020 16:51

Hi, this is my second pregnancy. I have had a pretty horrendous pregnancy thus far. Horrendous hyperemesis from 5weeks onwards, ( to the point I would wish for death) hospitalised numerous times due to severe dehydration. With my DS hyperemesis eased at around 16/17 weeks so getting to 14 weeks was amazing, thinking not long until I can start enjoying it. 13 week scan was great, then one day I woke up with severe pain in my lower back which spread to lower abdomin. Pain was so severe it felt like I was in labour. I brushed it off and thought it must be due to the fact I have been bed bound now for over 2 months, thought this back pain was bound to happen. DH spent all day and night massaging the spot until it became too sore to touch. In the morning I thought I have to phone the doctors. Drs arranged for me to go back to the hospital. By then I started bleeding heavily and burning with fever. Anyway long story short, hospital admitted me for observation. Around 15hrs later I had a massive gush whilst laying in bed, I had so much water come out it leaked for atleast half hour. A scan the next day confirmed no waters around the baby. Drs have been very grim and said prognosis is not good and that baby wont develop without amniotic fluid and many risks to myself and the baby due to high risk of infection.Basically only thing to do now is induce labour. Normally after waters break they expect you to go into labour with 72hrs. For me it has now been 10days since waters breaking. Iv been on antibiotics due to infection but they have now finished. Today I have been bleeding again. At my scan 2 days ago baby still had no waters around it. Has anyone experienced this?? Please share your story. I am so scared and dont know what to do. There are some success stories and alot of unsuccessful stories online

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Rosti1981 · 26/05/2020 21:13

I am so sorry, I missed the post where you said you were showing signs of infection and you'd also looked at that website- I didn't read that post for some reason. I am really glad you and your husband have come to a decision together, and I hope that the next few days and weeks are as gentle as they possibly can be for you.

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DyingfromHG · 26/05/2020 21:54

@rosti1981 so sorry for your loss and you had to go through all that, getting all the way to 27weeks with so much hope and fear! 😔 I know I too have and my Hopes up and shattered several times over the space of 2 weeks. At one time I even convinced myself that I would still get my bump and my baby would still grow and everything will be ok, several times a day I would be hopeful because of something I've read nd then lose hope again because of what doctors have said. My mum has told to it's not worth it and to put myself first, she told me this the day I ppromed, thank god she hasn't bought it up again as i think it would turn more into a lecture about being irresponsible and not thinking straight (out of concern for my wellbeing)

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Funsize123 · 26/05/2020 22:28

I hope you are ok. Definitely speak to PALS if you haven’t already x

Craycray12 · 26/05/2020 22:55

Sorry you are going through this Flowers

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DyingfromHG · 27/05/2020 00:01

Thank you all. I felt like I had come to a dead end with the whole having the Dh there but I now have some hope thanks to you all Flowers Just had a look at the PALS for my hospital and will give them a ring tomorrow, keep your fingers crossed for me pls!

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Thedogscollar · 27/05/2020 00:29

OP Do not go in without your husband. Call PALS and tell them that you cannot go through this unsupported.
I am so angry on your behalf. Let them know the impact this is having on your mental health. If your hospital is allowing partners in for the birth of their babies then I see no difference in your husband being with you.
I wish I could collect you myself and bring you to my unit and look after you. Please let us know how you get on.

TenThousandSpoons0 · 27/05/2020 06:55

I’m sorry you’re going through this.
Someone else said this already but I also think it’s unhelpful for posters to be reminding the OP about little heartbeats, stories where things turned out well, and reintroducing false hope. It’s true that some of the data is out of date (in terms of pregnancy outcomes) but the OP has told us she has an infection now, and she and her partner have come to a decision. Introducing more uncertainty or hesitancy doesn’t help - we need to be trying to help her with moving through this situation and supporting to get the right care.
OP I do hope you’re able to get the right care and support, for what it’s worth I think you’re making the right decision in this circumstance. Thinking of you.

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DyingfromHG · 27/05/2020 17:47

Hi everyone, just thought I'd update you all seeing as your were all so kind to take time out of your day for me. And also for anyone who may find themselves in a similar situation and end up desperately searching the internet like I did.
I didnt get a chance to call PALS today, I called gynae ward just to confirm that they are still insisting on DH(darling husband)shouldn't be there, but whilst talking to the nurse she said she was worried about me and still concerned even though I'm on antibiotics so if I could go in for some bloods, I was due a scan tmrw but she said they will do one today too. (On my own)
Blood pressure was super low that the alarm went off on the machine. Then I had my scan, my darling angel baby had no heartbeat
My poor baby was scrunched into a tiny ball, it was so difficult to see, they searched for awhile for the heartbeat but baby was gone.
I have taken the tablet to start medical process and sent home.
They are still saying DH(darling husband)wont be allowed in. My DH(darling husband)is now on the case with PALS. Here's to hoping!
Thank you all for all your advice and well wishes, this has been the only place where I've felt I can open up xx

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BlueSuffragette · 27/05/2020 17:50

So sorry OP.Flowers Take care of yourself and each other xxx

Jokie · 27/05/2020 18:47

@DyingfromHG: I really hope you're ok and not in too much discomfort. I've been reading your thread and something you mentioned about your doctor being clinical really resounded with me about him saying: it's like an abortion and you saying; it's not an abortion. They said the same to me and I remember sitting alone in the medical ward after having the scan with no heartbeat and shouting at them: I'm not aborting. I want this baby. Mine was only 11 weeks.

You're getting some wonderful advice here and I just wanted to send you as many positive thoughts and love as possible Flowers

allyouneedis · 27/05/2020 19:07

So sorry for your loss. ❤️

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DyingfromHG · 27/05/2020 19:35

Thank you. In a way it's a relief that the decision is not mine to make anymore and I dont have to regret choosing to end this but so difficult to process still. I feel completely numb

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DyingfromHG · 27/05/2020 19:38

@Jokie aww I'm so sorry to hear you had to go through it too. Flowers I hope you are doing ok now. I was kind of expecting it but then at the same time had some hope maybe waters would have replenished.. it's a been a rollercoaster of 2 weeks

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maryd84 · 27/05/2020 20:13

I'm so sorry for you loss op. Mind yourself.

tiredanddangerous · 27/05/2020 20:29

I am so sorry about your beautiful baby Flowers

HazelBite · 27/05/2020 20:35

Look after yourself OP Flowers

AlexTheLittleCat · 27/05/2020 20:37

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

TenThousandSpoons0 · 27/05/2020 22:41

I’m sorry for your loss. I’m glad that you have found a wee bit of relief with the decision being taken out of your hands after all and I wish you all the best with the process from here - things will feel better in time but it’s normal for it to take a long time. X

Thedogscollar · 27/05/2020 22:44

Oh my lovely I'm so sorry to read your sad news. Of course you will be feeling all sorts of emotions right now, you and your husband need each other more than ever.

I do hope your husband can be with you. I just cannot understand why they are saying no to him being there to support you. I hope PALS can help.

I hope your labour goes quickly and you can meet your little one and say your goodbyes. It is a very sad but special time for you to say all you want to your baby before you have to say goodbye.

You sound like an amazingly loving and brave woman and the inner strengh you have shown will get you through this. Flowers

snowybean · 27/05/2020 22:54

I'm so sorry to hear about your baby, OP. Sending all the love in the world x

Iseeareddoor · 27/05/2020 23:17

I’m so, so sorry.

MatildaTheCat · 28/05/2020 09:40

Very sorry to read your sad news.

Take great care of yourself. I hope the next stage goes as smoothly as possible. X

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DyingfromHG · 28/05/2020 11:43

Thank you everyone. @Thedogscollar we had a call today from the head sister or something like that for the gynae ward, she called after the PALS contact, they are still saying they cant make any exceptions. The man we spoke to at PALS yesterday said it should be sorted and they can use their discretion and was hopeful situation would be resolved but nope. Still sticking to it. Have contacted PALS again, waiting to hear back. Not feeling very good today, alot of pains, being sent back upto hospital again. So fed up of all this back and forth

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LunchBoxPolice · 28/05/2020 12:03

I’m so sorry for your loss.

Whatsthishappyhorseshit · 28/05/2020 12:33

So sorry for the sad loss of your little one. Thinking of you and your DH today.

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